Dating thread 161: (Can anybody find me) somebody to love..?

[Sunshineandflipflops]

The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Back from coffee date with mr army. Totally didn’t feel it. Shorter than I expected as I was in quite high boots, more casual than I expected and just no instant glint! Think I’m going to have a month off and concentrate on work- manic month coming up.

@ccgirr Sorry to hear that. Have you told him thanks but no thanks? I've never really had to do it yet but am dreading it when/if I do!

I feel like I’m banging my head against a brick wall with OLD at the moment.

Agreed to meet Mr Banter again but he wants to go out and drink, I don’t drink (only the odd drink at home whilst chilling in the garden), I hate busy pubs/clubs and hate getting drunk. Mr Banter doesn’t seem happy about this. The thought of going out to drink fills me with dread and anxiety. I prefer to go out and actually do a activity, go out to eat somewhere or at a push go to the cinema but not sit in a pub drinking. Mr Banter is ten years older than me but acts like he’s a lot younger and immature, I’m struggling with his texting style, he doesn’t really do conversation and uses text speak (which gives me a head ache).

I think it’s going to be impossible to find Mr right as I’m not your average woman, I want someone who enjoys the simple things and someone who doesn’t get pissed every weekend.

Sunshine- no not yet as he’ll be driving. I will though. I did it last first date too! Maybe I am too fussy 😩

It sounds like Mr Banter just isn’t for you @Lovemusic33. There’s no point in settling for something that isn’t right did you.

There are men out there who enjoy the things you do. You just haven’t found them at this point.

Do you think it’s a good idea to come off the apps for a bit if you’ve been on for ages?
I’m worried people look and think ‘omg is she STILL on here....’

My search radius is small and I don’t swipe right much so don’t get many matches. When I do they either go straight to sex so unmatched, or get boring v quickly so unmatched. Have met a few lovely guys, just not right for me, and am really struggling now. Problem is I really was hoping for a Summer of fun so if I come off now there’s no hope of that

Hello everybody!

....savoretti , maybe just delete and reinstall? Or go for different websites/ apps?

I kind of wandered away from MN for a bit, so have missed the last 4 or 5 threads. I've been off Bumble too, but have kept on talking to one person all the while, let's call him Mr Latin. He lives a LONG way away (3 hours drive), but this isn't necessarily a dealbreaker for me, as I live somewhere pretty remote. We haven't been able to arrange a meetup for weeks due to his commitments, but are down for next Friday. He arranged it, and seems very keen, which is a pleasant relief, but I just wish we hadn't had to spend so much time chatting before meeting, as it's built stuff up for the both of us, I think. We get on like a house on fire by text.....but will there be a spark when we meet??

At the same time, due to feeling, frankly, horny, I've dabbled in the dark side that is FAB. Well, every day a school day, I never knew I had any more to learn about the male anatomy . Among the kazillion messages, I have had a few from men that are: decent looking, articulate, respectful, and, er, if they've sent me dick pics from the off they've been nice ones .

I'm only considering meeting up with one at the moment though, just for lack of time really. He's keen to meet, but away with work until next week. Thing is, we seem to be trembling on the verge of some really hot & steamy sexting. I actually really want to, he has some great photos (keen photographer, so very nice!), but I'm just a bit worried that we're going to say all kind of things via Kik, and then we're going to meet up, I'm not going to fancy him, and be a bit embarrassed about the things I've said previously....

I realise I've got exactly the same dilemma with these 2 irons, it's just that one set of communications is pure filth, and one is chaste and pure....The difference between FAB and Bumble neatly summed up, perhaps?

MrWow and I are over.
Will catch up on the thread later. Been feeling too low to engage in anything really. Second month of HRT and half dose anti-depressant, cutting down on smoking, drinking. At least my bones don't ache anymore and I'm sleeping better!

Oh @TooOldForThis67. I’m so sorry to hear it’s over. Take care of yourself.

Oh @TooOldForThis67. I’m so sorry to hear it’s over. Take care of yourself.

Oh @TooOldForThis67. I’m so sorry to hear it’s over. Take care of yourself.

@crackofdoom I'm in a similar situation. I've been messaging with one guy who I have met once and am meeting again this weekend. Loads of messages and although some flirty, nothing to dirty. However, I have also been messaging with a guy with a hot body who wants to meet up (more as a no strings attached) and the messaging is mega hot but I also worry that if I did meet him, it would be nothing like the messages. Mind you, if his body matches his pics I;m not sure I will care haha.
I totally get your apprehension but I say do whatever makes you feel good. If you want to get into some hot sexting then go for it. If you meet him and the spark isn't there no-one is forcing you to do anything.

@crackofdoom I'm in a similar situation. I've been messaging with one guy who I have met once and am meeting again this weekend. Loads of messages and although some flirty, nothing to dirty. However, I have also been messaging with a guy with a hot body who wants to meet up (more as a no strings attached) and the messaging is mega hot but I also worry that if I did meet him, it would be nothing like the messages. Mind you, if his body matches his pics I;m not sure I will care haha.
I totally get your apprehension but I say do whatever makes you feel good. If you want to get into some hot sexting then go for it. If you meet him and the spark isn't there no-one is forcing you to do anything.

@crackofdoom I'm in a similar situation. I've been messaging with one guy who I have met once and am meeting again this weekend. Loads of messages and although some flirty, nothing to dirty. However, I have also been messaging with a guy with a hot body who wants to meet up (more as a no strings attached) and the messaging is mega hot but I also worry that if I did meet him, it would be nothing like the messages. Mind you, if his body matches his pics I;m not sure I will care haha.
I totally get your apprehension but I say do whatever makes you feel good. If you want to get into some hot sexting then go for it. If you meet him and the spark isn't there no-one is forcing you to do anything.

@crackofdoom I'm in a similar situation. I've been messaging with one guy who I have met once and am meeting again this weekend. Loads of messages and although some flirty, nothing to dirty. However, I have also been messaging with a guy with a hot body who wants to meet up (more as a no strings attached) and the messaging is mega hot but I also worry that if I did meet him, it would be nothing like the messages. Mind you, if his body matches his pics I;m not sure I will care haha.
I totally get your apprehension but I say do whatever makes you feel good. If you want to get into some hot sexting then go for it. If you meet him and the spark isn't there no-one is forcing you to do anything.

@crackofdoom I'm in a similar situation. I've been messaging with one guy who I have met once and am meeting again this weekend. Loads of messages and although some flirty, nothing to dirty. However, I have also been messaging with a guy with a hot body who wants to meet up (more as a no strings attached) and the messaging is mega hot but I also worry that if I did meet him, it would be nothing like the messages. Mind you, if his body matches his pics I;m not sure I will care haha.
I totally get your apprehension but I say do whatever makes you feel good. If you want to get into some hot sexting then go for it. If you meet him and the spark isn't there no-one is forcing you to do anything.

@crackofdoom I'm in a similar situation. I've been messaging with one guy who I have met once and am meeting again this weekend. Loads of messages and although some flirty, nothing to dirty. However, I have also been messaging with a guy with a hot body who wants to meet up (more as a no strings attached) and the messaging is mega hot but I also worry that if I did meet him, it would be nothing like the messages. Mind you, if his body matches his pics I;m not sure I will care haha.
I totally get your apprehension but I say do whatever makes you feel good. If you want to get into some hot sexting then go for it. If you meet him and the spark isn't there no-one is forcing you to do anything.

Sorry I've not been following the thread much recently. I've had a few dates and having a second one this weekend.
My question is, does anyone get sick of dates and thinking of things to do etc? I have such a busy life that I genuinely cannot be bothered half the time coming up with ideas and going places and doing things.
I have a second date this weekend and its such a headache coming up with things to do when all I want to do is chill at home. I really want to see him though!

Apologies for the multiple duplicate posts!!! no idea what is going on.

Sorry I've not been following the thread much recently. I've had a few dates and having a second one this weekend.
My question is, does anyone get sick of dates and thinking of things to do etc? I have such a busy life that I genuinely cannot be bothered half the time coming up with ideas and going places and doing things.
I have a second date this weekend and its such a headache coming up with things to do when all I want to do is chill at home. I really want to see him though!

@crappyday2018 I know what you mean. Mr Art doesn't have a car and lives with his parents at the moment too so options are even more limited! He's coming here on Friday for a movie night as cinema times and trains didn't work out and I don't think I can go out drinking again and can't afford to keep going out to eat and splitting the bill!

@TooOldForThis67 Sorry to hear about you and Mr Wow. Do you want to talk about it?

Ah crap @TooOldForThis67 I'm sorry to hear that

@TooOldForThis67 So sorry to hear that. You know where we are when you're ready lovely