Dating thread 161: (Can anybody find me) somebody to love..?

[Sunshineandflipflops]

The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

I would love to meet someone who rocks my world, or even someone who I fancy, but such luxuries seems to be few and far between

Same here @LilyRose88
But I've decided not to date someone just because they ask and I'm feeling lonely. This time I'm going to try and wait for someone to come along that I feel I have a connection with.
It could be a long wait!

MyOld I swing between wanting to wait for that special someone and getting out there and dating anyone just because they tick a few boxes. I am in the latter camp this week but will no doubt crawl back to my usual place on my sofa waiting for Prince Charming to sweep me off my feet next week.

Supercali- mr messy is still married. House is up for sale but still!!
Mr army meeting tomorrow I asked and has never lived with anyone although he says near as damnit and never engaged.
Jesus I can pick them!!

Hi I've been lurking for months now but wondered if I could join you all?
I've been chatting to a guy on tinder for the past week and we have arranged a date on Saturday but I really can't read him, he seems so honest and sincere but there's just something that gets my spidey senses tingling! I'm on super alert anyway due to ex husband lying and cheating throughout the majority of our marriage so I guess I'll just have to see how it pans out. But I feel he's playing me just for kicks and reeling me in! Why is old so hard lol

@TwoOpenOneClosed what's getting your spidey senses going? One thing I'd say is whatever it is you'll probably get a better read on it after a face to face. If theres more in person...dont ignore it.

@ccgirr still in the family home?

@supercali77 yip!! Focusing on mr army tomorrow. Have told mr messy it’s very messy but think he'd like fwb while he sorts mess!!

@ccgirr fair enough haha x

New to this dating thread - dipping my toe in the water after dating an idiot for far too long. I'd forgotten how much hard work it all was, but thank heavens for forums such as these - at least we can discuss warning signs, laugh at the fools, and rejoice in other people's happy endings!

One question - what does Rule 10 mean - no dating the thread? Thank you!! 😀

Is anyone else wondering if @Sunshineandflipflops made it to the restaurant? The weather is still bad out there...🤔😂

So...i should have listened to you all. It didn't go well I did message at lunch time and he replied saying yes to meeting up. Just back as, after a good bit of chat, he said he was ashamed of his behaviour on sat, doesn't normally do that and shouldn't drink so much. And doesn't fancy me but didn't want to say it by text. Yes he'd rather drag me out in the rain and get my hopes up...

So I'm feeling pretty old and unattractive (he's younger). Nothing's changed in the dating world in 12 years - I'm still shit at it!

Hi super not sure but something just feels slightly off but it's probably me just reading between the lines and over thinking everything lol I can't even think of a name for him, I know you like to give all your irons a name! I just need to chill and not get so over invested in the first guy that comes along.

Ah that's shit @Misty9. Just because he doesn't fancy you is no reflection on you at all! Age has nothing to do with it lovely, you will be right for the right person but I understand what a knock to your confidence this must be. Put it behind you - you had a good night with him on Saturday and at least he was mature enough to give you closure - better than being ghosted and always wondering wtf happened to him.

I'm trying to look at it that way...and I did tell him it was decent to actually turn up. I was so nice he thanked me

I feel pretty burnt by it all though so will be licking my wounds for a bit...

Y'know, I don't think this thread is a good as it used to... I feel like something has been missing.

I can't think what that might be.

We made it to the restaurant and then we made it back to mine 😊

Guess who messaged me mid...erm...cuddles...?!

Hey Mr Drummer! How the heck are you?

@TwoOpenOneClosed Dont get over invested yes but equally, dont ignore your wee nudges of 'somethings off'. File it

misty that's shit, it does knock your confidence but its defo a numbers game. Chin up. Next!

@Sunshineandflipflops not mr sas!? God some men just have a sixth sense eh?

@MrDrummer the thread stop-out 😂

@supercali77 Yep. Just asking how I got on at an event I went to over the weekend.

Date with MrArt went well...can't help but think he was only after one thing but we'll see. He was pleasantly in 6ft 3 proportion anyway 😳🤣

Welcome back @MrDrummer we missed you.

Oi @MrDrummer don’t you think that you can just sidle back in here as if you’ve never been away and just join in again!

Oh hang on yeah you can actually. How the devil are you and what have you been up to?

@Sunshineandflipflops bloody hell Mr SAS really picks his moments to pop back up again doesn’t he?!

@JeSuisPrest I proper LOLed at your sex toy faux pas at the weekend, and I’m glad BL isn’t a threat (not that I thought she was anyway).

@BatshitCrazyWoman I am dying to know what you smuggled through customs on your dirty weekend away!

@Sunshineandflipflops

I am okay, thanks. I had a predicament with FWB and stupidly decided to handle it myself without consulting the thread... resulting in me getting dumped. So I figured I better not make that mistake again... so here I am (just a week too late!)

Thank-you, Stealth

Hey Drummer good to see you back! I'm expecting your absence to be explained with tales of one man's brave quest to complete Tinder! 😉