Is he attracted to me?

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Married male friend. He calls me for chats 30-90 minutes at a time. Never when he’s with his wife. He hasn’t crossed a line in telling me his feelings but we talk intimately about my relationship and invariably sex comes up in the conversation. Does he fancy me or is he just being a good friend?

We’re in our late thirties. We met after he got married.

He's just using you for jack-off material. Stop discussing sex with him.

You're a married person attracted to another married person. But instead of stepping away you're diving straight into affair territory. You're already acting on it by have secret phone calls and wondering if he fancies you back.

And if he confirms that he fancies you, what will you do?

Does your husband know?

I’m interested because it’s nice to know if the person you’re interested in likes you back. I don’t intend to act on it.

Why am I an idiot?

Husband knows he’s my friend.

I suspect if my friend knew that I fancy him he’d say we should go no contact. At the moment it’s still ‘innocent’ as nothing has been said.

I think it’s unlikely that he does fancy me though.

Define "interested".

Interested means having an interest in something. I’m interested/keen to know how he feels.

Curtain, I find your personal attacks unnecessary.

Well if that's all it means, ask your husband for his opinion on the level of interest between you both. Or his wife?

Ewww.

Maybe work on your own marriage, or end it before you destroy someone else's. Have you no thought for your husband or his wife? It doesn't really matter of he fancies you or not, you can't go there.

I think you want him to fancy you. I think it's not appropriate to encourage these type conversations with a married man when you're married.

If I caught DP doing this, it'd be over for us. No question.

This is how innocent people like his wife see their marriages, families and lives torn apart.

How does he know it's a while since you've had sex? Can you not see how inappropriate this is?

So you're not a bad person and wouldn't act on it, so why give a shit if hes interested?

Don't be a dick!

Let's be honest though, you're dying for every comment to scream at you saying how interested he is

How pathetic

He wants a shag OP. Don't be a mug.

If your marriage is over to the point you're edging into affair territory then end it. Your husband deserves better.

He knows because he’s a very curious person and asks me masses of questions. We chat a lot so these things eventually come up.