Dating thread 160: fallen in love with someone you shouldn’t have fallen in love with

[CassettesAreCool]

The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

15/05/2019 19:56

God @JeSuisPrest that's my worst nightmare of being in a relationship. Like others and yourself I need my sleep. Times I have shared a bed I've been right on the edge in case they wake me up. I mean wake me up for sex no problem. Just not for nothing.

Good news in a way @LilyRose88 Least now you have a plan to let it repair and know what it was. There are some great running shoe shops that will actually get you to run for 30 seconds on a treadmill. They then build the insole around how your foot lands IE in our out. Which then supports your upper joints.

@lifegoes I have a spent a fortune on different running shoes in specialist shops and they have all insisted that I have a neutral gait. When I was being treated for plantar fasciitis last year the doctor who did my shockwave therapy told me that I very slightly turn my left heel inwards when I run and that I should wear support trainers. I went to buy a new pair of trainers from my usual shop and they gave me a hard time about buying support trainers, telling me that they were not right for me.

The physio I saw this morning examined my feet really carefully and did various tests and said exactly the same as the foot doctor - that I need support trainers. He looked at my trusty Nike Zoom Pegasus (neutral) trainers that I was wearing and said they were not right for me. I explained that I only ever wear them to go to the gym as I do have some Asics support trainers but my Nikes are the only comfy footwear I can tolerate at the moment with my sore foot. He made me promise not to ever run in the Nikes .

I think sports shops are generally good at analysing gait, but for awkward people like me they do sometimes get in wrong. I think Sweatshop does a custom made insole for awkward people like me for around £55 so I may go in when my foot is better and see if they can sort me out.

Oh, I'm clueless when it comes to all of that. Not as clued up as yourself sorry @LilyRose88 I just knew they had helped me previously as I've got a bad hip which I hadn't realised meant I automatically put more pressure on the opp knee 🤷🏻‍♀️. So they helped with that. Sorry I wasn't any use there 😂😂😂 but at least you know exactly what you need. (I'll be coming to you for advice)

@lifegoes hey no worries. I agree that sports shops are usually the best place to go to for advice about the correct shoes. I am just plain awkward it seems . At least I have been told by two different healthcare professionals that I need support shoes, so I know what to look for. And I have quite the collection of running shoes that I can't run in, but can wear to the gym.

I wear Nike Pegs LilyRose88 ;) Getting off topic of the dating thread here but so much of what happens at the ankle and foot is controlled by the motion of the knee which in turn relates to how stable you are around the hips and pelvis. I was sold/prescribed support shoes years ago but now stick to neutral + core work for pelvic stability. As you were everyone

My new iron is Netflix and a glass of wine. I think I'm smitten 😂

Ha hahaha love that @supercali77

Haha supercali...my summer romance starts in half an hour

@supercali77 Anything decent? I’ve gone for the umbrella academy and beer.

@JeSuisPrest that's a lot of booze esp if he was drinking on his own. I'd be more worried about that than the lack of sleep.

Can't join in the running chat sadly... now if it was swimming...

@TooOldForThis67 good luck with the fags. Don't under estimate how difficult it can be and go easy on yourself. Ask @Marlboroandmalbec34 who is hopefully still off Nick?

I'm really low. Out and out depressed in fact. It's physiological but that doesn't help that much. Waiting to see GP to tweak meds which treat my condition but they can be a bit difficult. My gut is screaming loudly that mr Unsuitable has lost interest. However he is also really busy with work. So I have no idea which is true. Maybe both. He's coming over this evening, not seen him since weds. I had a wobble on Friday but he claims it's all fine. Who knows. Maybe he's coming over to dump me. Even if he's not it won't make any difference to my paranoid depressed mind set

@Peanuthedz Having spent the last few years of my marriage with a binge drinker, my antennae is finely tuned for drunken twattish behaviour, perhaps too much, so I'm not over reacting to it at the moment. He wasn't offensive/rude/argumentative he just wanted a cuddle crushing me in the process

@JeSuisPrest Ah ok. I'm similarly slightly over sensitive! Mind you I imagine he can probably tolerate a lot if he's that big! It's probably the equivalent of me having 2 and a half glasses 🤣

Although actually even that would give me a headache

I’ll talk about swimming @Peanuthedz. 😂 I spend a lot of time talking to people about swimming in general (mostly DS2 who is obsessed).

I’m sorry to hear that you’re feeling so low.

I swim and gym, no good at running and running doesn’t tone (I really need to tone).

Mr Dog is still sending me messages which I am ignoring. Meeting Mr Banter on Sunday which will hopefully take my mind off things with Mr Dog.

Having issues with Tinder, Mr Photographer disappeared, not sure if he unmatched me or if Tinder is playing up because I also had a notification to say I had received a message from someone else but I can’t access the message (only really old messages showing up)?

Oh I find running really tones me up @Lovemusic33 my legs, bum, abs and arms.

You need to block him

I love sleeping with Mr BC - we fit together really well and I feel so relaxed and 'safe'

I don't run (hate it as it's so bloody time consuming!). I do Pilates and Lucy Wyndham Reid's YouTube workouts. Her workouts have had a remarkable effect on my body. She does a lot of HIIT which appeals to (extremely time poor) me. I recommend her!

@SimonJT @kerkyra @lifegoes hehe, we need to start a netflix group. Actually last night I watched Good Omens but now Love Islands started! Guilty pleasures

"What/if" is a good watch on Netflix

Amazing how many men either forget they've sent you numerous of messages, that you just didn't reply to. Or they are actually obsessed and don't give up.

I agree that you should block Mr Dog.

I do Pilates and try to fit in swimming. And I cycle to work, but that’s not all that far or all that arduous. Mostly I do 2-5 Pilates classes a week. I always feel much better afterwards. It’s made a huge difference to how toned I am (and I stand much straighter and taller) in the year I’ve been doing it consistently.

Actually I’m going to try to make time to swim 2 or 3 times a week if I can (now that work has quietened down a bit). I always feel much better for having had a swim. I used to swim while DS2 trained but his training times are now such that there’s never a part of the pool open for public swimming. You’d think an increase in his training hours would increase the opportunities for me to swim. But it’s exactly the opposite. Tbh, I don’t miss Saturday mornings of choosing to swim in the extremely fast lane of male triathletes (all very nice generally, but much faster than me) or the extremely slow lane of vertical breaststrokers (although it did at least give me something to do for the 90 mins DS2 was in the pool; now I have to consider drastic actions like driving to McDonald’s to buy a coffee).

A Korean odyssey on Netflix is good. It’s quite odd (and subtitled) but really enjoyable.

Well I am a walking zombie today and am fuelled by caffeine.

Sunday eve was my date with MrArt and last night I went to see The Spice Girls (not my thing at all but someone had a spare ticket and no-one to go with so I thought why not!). Anyway, another late night, which doesn't sit well with this 40 year old!

Mr Art and I are messaging and intend to meet up again but I am not free until next week now. He seems lovely but I think I've said before, I'm not one to get swept away easily so will see how things go. I'm also not sure how things will work when he doesn't have a car and lives with his parents at the moment. I don't intend to do all the travelling and trains can be expensive if you get them regularly.

I also run - I'm no Mo Farrah but it suits me as I can go when I want, no memberships to pay and I get fresh air at the same time.

Haha @shitwithsugaron.

On the bright side, at least you don’t drive there. 😂

I do not enjoy running in the least. And I have a back/pelvis issue that makes it a less than optimal exercise choice for me. In fact, that issue even affects swimming as I can only swim front crawl or backstroke.

I guess the expense of trains issue is really Mr Art’s problem, @Sunshineandflipflops. I wouldn’t want to do all the travelling either.

Ugh, just had a bored swipe on Tinder and the first guy that came up said in his profile "if you're divorced, great, if you're not, get off here and sign the papers first". What a knob. I understand that some people don't want to go there if someone isn't divorced yet but there are so many reasons why someone might not yet be divorced but is ready to date.

Sorry, that just hit a nerve. He wasn't even attractive.