Suspicious texts

[MrsSeanBakedBean]

I have found some suspicious texts on an iPad linked to DH's phone. Just called the number (withholding mine) and it went through to voicemail.

Texts from DH were asking 'when are you working next?'

The reply is addressing DH by a wrong (made up?) name saying 'I'm in flat d'. There are later texts arranging to meet for lunch / coffee.

It sounds like he's been texting a Dec worker. I'm feeling sick & shaky.

What should I do- confront him or wait?

We have been married 13 years and have one DS.

Completely expected reaction of the manipulative pathological liar clutching at straws. It means you’ve unsettled him (maybe a bit narcissic thinking he had played you so far) and you now have the upper hand. You’re doing well at keeping strong. Sending you hugs.

What a dick! Have you made an appointment yet OP? To seek legal advice?

It's hard I know but it's you fighting this knobhead back. He doesn't deserve you/

What a complete asshole!
It sounds like you're handling all this really well and with your dignity intact.
Well done!

Kick the fucker to the curb and enjoy your life with ds :) have a nice holiday or something to celebrate your freedom x

What an ass!
I'm so sorry but maybe there's one positive thing; you can afford to divorce him. So many times women can't/don't leave because of finances. You aren't trapped, you don't have to put up with him, and I hope he gets nothing.

Hi op, am late to the thread but have just read it all. You are an amazing woman!

I'm so sorry your suspicions were true but I think there is more to come unfortunately.
In these situations, the cheater will usually only admit the bare bones and other lies
unravel over time. Be prepared to find out more.

Please please see a SHL ( shit hot lawyer ) and find out exactly where you stand over the inheritance and your plans for divorce? going forward.

Personally, I would still consider hiring a private investigator to fill in the blanks and this will allow you to heal quicker and get rid of this knob jockey from your life for good.

Lastly, please do something nice just for you with the money, doesn't have to be a big thing or expensive, maybe just something you've always wanted to do or buy or a place you've always wanted to visit. To receive inheritance in the first place means you have suffered a loss, I'm sorry for that as it seems to have escaped your h's mind. He sees your value in monetary terms unfortunately and I hope karma bites him hard on the arse xx

Glad you're getting proper legal advice, OP! Morally, clearly he's a dick and I hope you find a way of legally safeguarding your inheritance.

How are you OP? x

OP... could you get away for a week or so...stay with a relative?

It's half term next week in most UK schools...why not take your DS on a break... Centreparcs... Spain...just have time away from your no good H.

So sorry op

Sorry you are going through this! He is getting angry as he has been busted and is projecting it onto you as if it is your fault. Stay strong and keep posting if it helps you get through this. You are doing great xx

I doubt it's an escort but it's possible he's into swinging. Swingers often meet up for a "social" - a coffee or a drink first, to see if there's chemistry. If she's married as well, that's why the "is it okay to call". Sorry you're dealing with this OP. It sucks.

oops sorry - somehow missed the other pages in the thread. Doh :-|

Sorry I am late to the thread as well!
OP you are doing brilliantly!
Lawyer yourself up very fast!

Just caught up with this thread.
I'm so sorry you are going through this OP.
I hope you manage to get the inheritance ring fenced with a solicitors help!?
You sound very switched on but this is going to be a horrible time for you.
Get as much family support around you as possible.
Tell people. Make it very real.

Sorry been busy the last couple of days. I'm staying strong somehow - I have a faith so that helps.

I do have moments of utter despair though (a) at his he could lie to me and (b) how anyone can lie like that in general. It's the deception which really hurts. If he'd admitted to it I don't think it would have hurt as much?

I now have to assume lots of other things have been lies too.

Hi Op, good to hear from you , stay strong and it’s good to know you have faith , it does help

Some people are just shits , he’ll be doing the same to the next person too. I think sometimes you have to just put it down to then being a bad Apple 🍏 with a shit moral compass. Doesn’t make it hurt any less but knowing that this is their character flaw and no one else will get ultimately receive better treatment makes it slightly easier to deal with. My ex from a while back cheated on me and told me “I’d made him do it as I don’t listen” since then every woman has been with since he has also cheated on. I guess they didn’t listen either 🤷🏻‍♀️.

Have you seen a solicitor?

Sending well wishes xx

Sorry the middle part didn’t make sense , I have my little one pawing at my phone 😂 x

Just read this whole thread. In shock. Hope you're okay x

At least you now have your eyes wide open to how he really is.
Be careful as when he realises he is not going to get his expensive car, he may lash out physically as he has already verbally.

What an absolute bastard.

You handling things really well OP. Hope you and your son are doing something lovely this weekend, to take your mind off of things

How're you doing OP

Big hugs, hope you are ok x