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Suspicious texts

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MrsSeanBakedBean · 17/05/2019 22:32

I have found some suspicious texts on an iPad linked to DH's phone. Just called the number (withholding mine) and it went through to voicemail.

Texts from DH were asking 'when are you working next?'

The reply is addressing DH by a wrong (made up?) name saying 'I'm in flat d'. There are later texts arranging to meet for lunch / coffee.

It sounds like he's been texting a Dec worker. I'm feeling sick & shaky.

What should I do- confront him or wait?

We have been married 13 years and have one DS.

OP posts:
Miniloso · 18/05/2019 19:29

Just text saying you know she’s been shagging your OH, and she’s welcome to him!

Lefty1 · 18/05/2019 19:29

No one knows what he has told the OW , or when he met her. She may have known he was married , she may not have but what’s for certain is she most certainly knows now and is probably expecting that he will attempt to save his own skin ....he’s hardly got a good track record for truthfulness so far has he

lifegoes · 18/05/2019 19:29

I agree @Lefty1 as I said earlier men will say/do anything to get out a situation like this. So I'd use that to your advantage OP and say that to the OW. her reaction will tell you everything and if she doesn't reply to you..,

She WILL certainly go mad at him causing him an even worse "headache"

DoxxedFox · 18/05/2019 19:30

Not really. I think we might be talking at cross-purposes. Not to worry anyway.

Lefty1 · 18/05/2019 19:30

@blankittyblank please read the thread , things have moved on ...a lot

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MrsSeanBakedBean · 18/05/2019 19:31

Life goes- yes the OW was texted after D H had been confronted with screen shots of messages and just before he stormed off to shop to see OW

OP posts:
Miniloso · 18/05/2019 19:32

When I msg’d the OW, I just said ‘Hi, do you enjoy shagging other women’s boyfriends?’ She was mortified and told me the lot.

blankittyblank · 18/05/2019 19:32

Sorry! Thought I'd scrolled all the way through. As you were...Blush

Lefty1 · 18/05/2019 19:33

@lifegoes
She WILL certainly go mad at him causing him an even worse "headache" I bet his head feels like it’s going to fall off!

OP you have handled this incredibly , i feel I need to buy you a virtual drink 🥃🥃 x

lifegoes · 18/05/2019 19:34

@MrsSeanBakedBean send your text. You have nothing to lose now only more evidence to gain should you need it. It might hurt a bit more. But you have every right to send her that text.

rainbowlou · 18/05/2019 19:36

You’ve handled this brilliantly Flowers
(Please buy yourself a Porsche when you kick his pathetic arse out and the divorce is through)

Lefty1 · 18/05/2019 19:42

OMG imagine how sick he would literally be when the OP is bombing it round in her Porsche 💃🏻 , seriously Beyoncé could learn a lot from this thread !

QueenintheNorth7 · 18/05/2019 19:55

I’m so sorry op, what a dick! :( keep your money safe and try to get a divorce ASAP.

stucknoue · 18/05/2019 20:16

So sorry, join the abandoned women's club, we aren't bitter, honest! I think I would actually prefer it if h had someone else, would make more sense. At least you have money, and he can't access it.

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MrsSeanBakedBean · 18/05/2019 20:35

Lefty- thank you for the drinks.

Yes I think I might buy just buy myself something nice when all this is over.

(I imagine he had grand plans to impress OW with 'my' new Porsche...)

OP posts:
Mummacake · 18/05/2019 21:07

It may be that your inheritance could be ringfenced to a degree given you had separated at the time of your inheritance & you had already been involved in sone proceedings over your child. It's quite obvious to an outsider what he was up to Angry Get rid of the free loader and enjoy your life Flowers

Lefty1 · 18/05/2019 21:24

He’s a spineless excuse of a man OP, you on the other hand sound impressive and formidable. I have no doubt that your life will massively improve once he exits via stage left . Onwards and upwards lovely.

Do you have some decent friends and family around you as a supper network? You seem really strong but it’s always good to have people you can call on if you ever start to feel a bit sad Flowers xx

Lefty1 · 18/05/2019 21:25

Support network that was meant to say but supper works too! X

aIways · 18/05/2019 21:50

Well done OP! He's treating you with absolute contempt. So hope he doesn't get a penny of your money (and you come zooming upto the court door in your Porsche just as he's stepping off the bus Wink).

SandyY2K · 18/05/2019 22:00

I wouldn't have messaged the OW. He was clearly lying to her if he used a fake name.

You just need to sort out your money and leave him. It's obvious you're a cash cow for him.

EKGEMS · 18/05/2019 22:24

I'm such a petty bitch I'd get a toy model Porsche and give it to him and say this is as close to a Porsche you'll ever get from me then hand him your divorce papers

Lefty1 · 18/05/2019 22:33

😂😂😂 that’s genius!

lifegoes · 18/05/2019 22:58

Did you message the OW @MrsSeanBakedBean

Weenurse · 19/05/2019 00:15

Good luck 💐, he sounds like he could be very difficult going forward

HennyPennyHorror · 19/05/2019 02:34

OP I'm glad you've found out what he is...and that you're going to get rid.

He's probably shitting now. I bet he's trying to work out how to win you back!

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