Dating Thread 157 - Kitten or Smitten: Which bench are *you* on?

[MrDrummer]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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@StealthNinjaMum Hahahaha

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Hahaha @MrDrummer has gone very quiet. 😁

I'm going to have the benny hill music in my head all evening.

peanuthedz and that's why I don't want a 30 year old. I would be singing Howard Jones What is Love (on the last thread) and Benny Hill music and he just wouldn't appreciate it.

But you're right, we've scared mrdrummer away.

Do you ever wonder how many people actually still have your phone number?
I've just received a random "mistaken" text from a previous IRON 🤔

I tend to delete numbers once I'm done with them ha

Thanks Stealth, CK, Miracle & Batshit.

Yeah he’s made no moves at all. Not even the chaste brush of a hand against mine. We’ve not even reached chapter five of a Jane Austen novel by this time and certainly no galloping Fs on my part... can I join your frustrated middle aged mums group???

I think I’ll go to the two things in May as will be a nice way to spend couple of evenings. And then exit stage left...

And maybe fire up Bumble later this evening (although getting sick of thinking of something to say and then radio silence...)

Emojina I never think of something creative to say on bumble. Not worth the energy. It's literally 'hope you've had a good day? 😊' for example. And I just copy and paste for my matches of the day 😂.

I've got one iron Mr Tall (6'4 and I'm 5'3, sorry, not sorry 😂). I think he's only after sex although he says otherwise but he's pretty and funny so I'm not fussed at the moment 🙈😂.

Haha @ItsAMiracle2015 that's exactly what I do on bumble. What ever message I first send to someone. The rest get exactly the same.

Thank you jesuis and supercali!
@batshitcrazywoman how did you go about moving from Fab style NSA fun to relationship? Did you both know from the beginning it could be an option or did it just evolve? I just know that attempting FWB with Mr Biker is going to be a recipe for heartbreak and I don't want to embark on that but I also don't want to freak him out and get all heavy after one meeting!

Is Bumble any good? I haven't tried it but I suspect I would see the same guys on it as POF and Tinder. I know the woman has to message the guy first of all, but apart from that, does it have anything special about it?

Miracle you're not on your own about not saying something creative. It makes me smile when I read complaints about the boring opening messages received from blokes, because at least 95% of the messages I received from women were "hey there :)"

I did try to mix it up a bit, some generic some more profile specific, some jokey. Never really concluded what worked best, apart from the one where I mistook a llama for a giant dog. I didn't get a date with her!

I honestly think if you like the look of someone, unless they've written something stupid/cheesey/filthy or have the spelling proficiency of a 3 year old, we'd all probably reply.

Alpaca not a Llama lol :)

@LilyRose88 I prefer bumble to tinder. I use both and often see the some blokes. But honesty, find bumble better

I’ve only used Bumble and as my stbexh was on tinder for about 2 years before we split up am a bit wary of it... but maybe I’ll give it a go in time.

LilyRose88 I also prefer Bumble to Tinder. I don't use Pof though as I just find it beyond annoying that just anyone can message.

@LilyRose88

I am a member of a really big running club. We are split 2/3 women and 1/3 men though. I rarely get to run with my club members though because I am injured all the time so it is difficult to commit to distances (so normally do laps of a local lake, so I can stop). The club did talk about sorting out a singles night but I think the ladies lost interest when they realised they would be the majority. I imagine, this is reflected across the country.

I did similar stuff to you last year, 3 or 4 timed 10ks in September/October. I only decided to do the half marathon the night before. Did make some friends through the club though. Word of warning: Don't add @hairyarsedman to your Strava... you will be weeping into your stats.

I agree. If I liked the look and the profile of the person it didn't matter if the opening line was creative or said something about my profile. Only thing is .... I never replied to txt speak or babe. I quite like a 'hey you!' as an opener. Or on tinder...a gif!? Saves thinking of a witty line

Yes only bad spelling or a babe of ‘you’re beautiful’ would put me off. A ‘hi, how’s your day going?’ is totally fine if I like the look of someone.

Mr S has been here most of the day doing odd jobs for me. Left before dinner though. Wish he’d stayed.

Ha, loving the flagrant breaking of rule 10 with MrDrummer here!

LilyRose I found Bumble utterly useless. On GSM and POF I had maybe half of women reply to my messages, and had dates with about 1 in 5. But on Bumble, after three weeks of swiping, literally not a single message. I'm not sure what that says about me!

It was really frustrating when someone who looked quite attractive - my "type" - had put fairly bland photos up and literally next to no words on their profile. How do you open the conversation??

On GSM and POF I had maybe half of women reply to my messages, and had dates with about 1 in 5.

Go, you stud @MarcMyWords!!!

Yes, I didn't say how many ran for the hills five minutes after meeting me though 🤣

I think it depends on your area with regards to Bumble. I live in a fairly small town in Sussex and get way more matches on Bumble than Tinder 🤷.

What's GSM?

lifegoes GSM=Guardian Soulmates. I think it's good for finding liberal types in big cities, but I've heard choice is very limited elsewhere.

I live in a very big city, never heard of it before @MarcMyWords just seen it's a paid service so it's a no from me

The guy I went on a date with called me today, we had planned to do something tomorrow, there aren’t many places we can go for a date/things to do where you can talk, so bar it is again 😂