Dating Thread 157 - Kitten or Smitten: Which bench are *you* on?

[MrDrummer]

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Ant and Shitwith - sounds like all parties are keen and long may it last.
notcool - MrS defo sounds like a keeper. Sure it isn't just FWB for him or have I got that wrong?

And just to add that I love being able to do cartwheels and handstands without any worry now .

I'm confused @shitwithsugaron he wants to meet ASAP and already arranged a date but I can't go. So arranging another?

And I'm also not that old that I'll be joining a carnival with a smirk on my face.

@CassettesAreCool
Sorry to hear the original topic made you uncomfortable.

Regarding the comments after, you censured us for what we were saying because the way you felt about the topic. I can see why vwman would comment. And then to suggest his response was like "‘pulling the girls’ pigtails’ sounds like you are suggesting some kind of bullying behaviour?

@MrDrummer I was referring your insinuation about the true reason for my name, nothing else

Ah, right vwman. I think wires are firmly crossed. Can we all uncross them and move on, please, @CassettesAreCool ?

I think moving on is an excellent idea before we have another 'egg-gate', because I hate to think what name this one will have!

notcoolmum I don't know why if I'm honest, I may well be looking for the reasons it shouldn't work rather than just enjoying it.
I think I've said before that I didn't expect to meet somebody I liked quite so quickly, and I worry that I'm either not ready or that I'm throwing myself into this because it's the 1st relationship since my marriage rather than because it's right.

tooold I really hope it’s not FWB for Mr S. Back in February he had a wobble about his separation, kids and what he was able to give to a relationship and I walked away from him. Which lasted not much longer than a weekend as we both couldn’t stay away.
The separation, kids and his worry are still a factor and he says he can’t give me as much as he wants but at the moment it feels like more than I’ve ever been given by anyone else. So I’m happy to see where things end up. But aware I may get my fingers burnt and I will only have myself to blame!

What is the issue with egg-gate? It was about weird behaviour, perhaps controlling, perhaps testing, perhaps a sign that Miss Lingua thought or wanted something more that FWB was occurring? Does she want to be put on a pedestal, etc? A million and one things. It wasn't about a bloody easter egg, that's for sure.

Ah ant. I worry about that with Mr S. I’ve been single for ages but I’m his first since leaving his wife. Does that make me a rebound?

I’ve really not had this connection with anyone before. We just fit in so many ways. I’m really comfortable with him whilst also fancying the pants off him. He’s not my ‘type’ in so many ways and yet somehow he seems to tick all my boxes. With my experience I’d say a connection like this is rare?

shitwith it’s meant so much to me he’s given up so much of his time with nothing in return. He knew my house inspection was stressing me so he wanted to help. He’s been amazing. All being well with the kids I’m going to drive to his tomorrow and show him exactly how grateful I am!!

This thread seems extra sassy today! 🤷😂.

I have no news but I've also had people say they were on to meet at midday and then by 3 a sorry can't; forgot I had the kids, got to work late etc etc and then never hear from them again 🙄. The worst are the ones that just ghost you the day of meeting!!!

MrSAS and I don’t see each other for a week at a time quite often due to me having the kids. He said the other day though (after 9 days apart) that he thought it was good how we don’t live in each other’s pockets because we get to miss each other and it’s even better when we then see each other.
I have to agree and can’t imagine spending loads of time with someone after I’ve got so used to my own company but I’m a bit of a loner by choice 😂

I manage to see MrMetal a couple of times a week, three occasionally, between his work and both our dc it's not easy, that said, I'm so used to my own space now that it's enough for me.

I know he'd like to spend more time together and definitely more sleepovers but he accepts that until dc are older this is how it is. My ex doesn't have dd overnight ever so I'm reliant on grandparents for overnights which is a little awkward. "Ex MIL can you have dd overnight so I can have morning sex with my new man ? " 😁

Awww ok. Thought I missed something @shitwithsugaron

@emski1972 might have missed an update from you but did your iron get in touch with you? Hope you are ok either way!

I've had an iron cancel on me on the aft of a 1st evening date, nothing said about setting anything else up. I contacted him the next day - I'm very straight-forward so basically said "Do you want to re-arrange or are you not feeling things" etc. He replied with "No"... and apologised for me having to chase him up on that, he should have told me etc. Actually restored my faith in OLD, that. Then (as he drinks in the same pub as friends of mine) said if he sees there me he'll buy me a Guinness.

notcool - your story is similar to mine. I'm MrWow's first since the breakup with his Ex. He also had/has a lot of hassle from her re: kids, finances etc. Part of the reason we split last yr. For us it took being apart and seeing others to make us realise that the 'connection' was special and it doesn't happen often.

@CassettesAreCool with you on things getting a little too much.. Esp the "VW" - save that for the locker room perhaps

mrdrummer in true old lady style I’ve had a nap and am in a much better mood. The convo did trigger some bullying memories for me but that’s entirely my problem. Happy to agree wires were crossed, so pax and move on.

I was with you about the egg by the way. it was hard to make sense of that but probs also just crossed wires.

midcenturylegs nope radio silence...
I did say at 3pm that leaving work at 5pm and have to vote. What you thinking?
I’m so cross..
Can I tell him it’s a poor strategy for ditching someone and I’m a grown up and can take it..

@ant559 happy to look at your profile if you're on Match

Struggling to keep up with everyone but it seems like there are lots of positive things happening!

I had an awesome first date with Mr Biker We've been messaging loads since and I'm hoping he'll want to meet up again at the weekend so I can have my wicked way with him.

@CassettesAreCool Only got 4 hours sleep myself and am a bit sensitive too. Can't have a nap until I finish work though. Glad we are cool :)

@midcenturylegs We had a joke about necrophilia on the thread a day or two ago ("Rigor Mortis" comment, not by me) and I don't think anyone batted an eyelid. So, I think the grossness threshold is pretty high in the thread and very subjective. Never my intention to offend, though, so sorry that I did.

@CassettesAreCool Sorry to hear of the trigger. Bullying is everyone's problem.

Grossness threshold in the thread is high but it felt to me like lads in the pub laughing about gaining their 'vampire wings' and if challenged by women would probably say 'it's only banter.'

The rigor mortis comment was just funny and could've been said by a man or a woman.

That's my opinion, completely subjective, we're all adults who can post what we like, but telling you how I felt.