One really, really positive thing is that our younger son (17 now) is becoming a lovely young man with his own mind and rolls his eyes at his father when he starts moaning and groaning about something.
That's great.
I still find son and father a bit like a couple if that makes sense? Stopped him going to Uni - that was heart breaking to watch - keeping same job that is unsuitable really.
That's shit.
Do you think you son would go for counselling or would would simply not see that there's any reason for it?
Father didn't go on the holiday, accompanied him on the journey, spent a week on his own and then travelled back with him. All the other people were flying out but as his father has made him terrified of flying, son went by train and boat.
Your son tried to go on a holiday with mates/peers and his Dad went went the same place at the same time, stayed in his own separately and travelled wity your son (so your son didn't travel with the rest of the group)?????
He is such a fkg weird, inappropriate, cling on of a ..... I fint even know how to describe him.
Your poor son.
He sounds like he's brain washed him to not even question how odd all that is.
How old is the son, late teens?
Hopefully he'll start to question and break away as he geds older.
This is going tk be a major clash/problem when he gets a gf (or bf).
Your ex may or may not be gay, but he sounds like he does does thing ... there's a word for it, where they substitute their child for a partner.
He also sounds very domineering, controlling and weird about your son. It's so creepy and unhealthy sounding.