Would you email the other woman?!?!?

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Help! I'm so hurt & angry..I have started another post (previouse one - Advice Please, husband blaming me for going off with another woman)

I have just found out that this woman is back on the scene again and they have been emailing each other constantly and recently seeing each other...

He has completely fed her a load of bullsh*t as he has done with me...god there's so much, I wouldn't know where to start!

The thing is, I'm so hurt & angry...this woman made our life a misery over christmas and during the time we were trying to make it work...now she's on his case again and what makes matters far worse is that he's snivelling to her about how he only made a go of it with me because of our daughter...and that his happiness didn't come into it

Anyway, I'm rambling, sorry...been up all night and felt like I wanted to email them both to put the record straight and let her know what a lying, cheating, b&st&rd he is!!

I realise I'm very upset and don't want to do anything I regret...should I email them both and have my say, or should I somehow just let it go and let her realise for herself??

Help!! So frustrated, but then on the other hand, don't want to stoop to their leave iykwim...

Oh no...I've sent another few ranting texts this morning!! It's official, I have no shame and have totally humiliated myself again!!

I'm just so hurt and angry again...I can't bear it

No you haven't humiliated yourself honestly you haven't.

You have to get your emotions out and if that means you rant at him so be it. He deserves it.

We would all like to be this stereotypical 'perfect' woman who is completely composed, able to rise above everything, able to keep every emotion completely in check...

But we're not! We are human. You are dealing with this so well and in the best way you can. Don't be too hard on yourself xx

I'm also trying to be as dignified as possible so that they both have nothing to sl*g me off about to each other...however, I have realised they will do it anyway

I need to get a grip of myself!

listen its perfectly normal for u to be feelingg this way........i used to do it for weeks when dp and me broke up i had no shame whatsoever and i didnt give a shit if he thought i was pathetic,i was like a bunny boiler.................then i stopped being a mad bitch and got on with my life,we did get back together but it was a differant situation....turns out my dp actualy had remorse,just do whatever it id you need to at this moment in time..........he'll probably tell her ur stalking him anyway even tho ur not

He has just text me saying he's sorry... he realises he's let me down!!

Effin understatement of the century!! He's completely crucified me!!

You are not being silly - he has hurt you so badly and if this how you react then its ok. At least you wont be able to look back and wish you had sent the text.

Sometimes i regret not going and smashing her face when i first found out. I did telephone and i know that she was shocked (because she told him she thought i had guts to do that). My only regret is that it is too late now and at least if i had done it at the time people would have understood.

Just do whatever it takes to get it out - it probably is out of character but what feels normal at the moment anyway?

Be kind to yourself today - even if you have been a bit silly you are still not sinking to their level and hurting people are you?

Hon we have all done it I sent hundreds of texts to both of them when I found out for weeks - am not particularly proud of it - likewise she told him I had more balls than he did - but she never showed any remorse to me at all

let u down?????????????????????,oh my effin god he is priceless!!!!!!!,that is THE understatement of the century.the whore bag must have asked him to pick his towel up for him to be saying sorry to u

It is the lack of remorse from the ow that i find hard. She had the bloody cheek to say 'its only infedilety get over it'. I am just hoping one day that she will face me and i will say to her (because from what i have heard she is not 'over' it and is very angry with him at work) the same thing with a smile. (now must stop having wicked thoughts as it is not good for a calm day.

Oh hurtwife, sounds like you're struggling a bit too

Wish I could give you all some advice But I can't see the wood for the trees at the moment myself, so sorry, I'm not much help to anyone at the moment

"its just infidelity", oh right its not just "u bastard have just taken my world from under my feet and shit all over it,i cant eat sleep or function because i dont know how im going to get over this, and be ok again??????????" i hate whore bag women

im sorry dorry for u both,im full of venom for u seriously(quite worrying really,i just wish that i could fast forward this part of ur lives so u didnt have to feel so shitty about things x

hurtwife 'its only infedilety get over it'
I do hope that day comes when you can say it back to her with a smile!!

and pp 'he realises he's let you down'

I don't know what else to say!!

I sent a massive massive email to my H not long after I'd met the other woman and found out everything. I went on and on about how much he'd hurt me, all the terrible things he'd done, the impact on me and ds... I said how much I hated him for letting her be the one to tell me, when 30 minutes before I met her I begged him to tell me the truth and he wouldn't... I sat and listened to a teenager tell me all the things she had done with my husband and how she was there with him, the day my baby was taken ill and went to hospital with them in the ambulance, only to sneak out minutes before I arrived...... and his reply...

'sorry'!!!!!!

What should I have replied to that??!! 'oh well it's ok then'!

btw I'm not 'quite' as angry as that last post looked! just wanted to let you know you're not alone

Mylittlestar, that's the sort of thing I would get back from my cheating bar steward of a husband....just 'sorry'!!

It's effin infuriating isn't it?!?!?

Yep sure is infuriating to say the least!

But then again it's a good thing because it shows that they have absolutely no excuse for their actions and cannot even begin to explain or justify it...

No consolation now. But in the future when we are over this we know we can look back with no regrets. They will have to live with the consequences of this forever - but more importantly, they have to live with the guilt too.

hows todt going for u purple

Hi suezee...I'm getting there slowly thanks. I have refrained from any texts or contact this morning, so that's something. I did text last night though to tell him to go to the doctors and sort himself out. Again wish I hadn't done that He doesn't deserve me to be concerned about him. It's mad, but minute I hate him, then I have moments where I'm worried then text something like that....then I'm back to hating him again for all the hurt he has put me threw and feel a complete idiot for texting and showing him I'm concerned!!

There's clearly something wrong with me I feel like I'm going mad

sorry, how are you doing?

morning all how is everyone today?

Crap

Sorry

dont be sorry. you will have really down days and every now and then good ones! but hopefullt it wont take long till its lots of great days and just the odd crap one!

I've had a terrible day today

I don't think he will ever understand how hurt and humiliated I feel...I just don't think he has the capacity!!

I sound really unkind, but I just hope he gets his comeupance...I bet he won't though, he always seems to come up smelling of roses

Oh well...I'm just feeling extremely bitter

I have to see our friends at the weekend...I just don't know what to say to them

they always do. i know its hard and unfortuneatly there i s no tim escale on it hurting. but it will get easier i promise x