Would you email the other woman?!?!?

[purplepoppet]

Help! I'm so hurt & angry..I have started another post (previouse one - Advice Please, husband blaming me for going off with another woman)

I have just found out that this woman is back on the scene again and they have been emailing each other constantly and recently seeing each other...

He has completely fed her a load of bullsh*t as he has done with me...god there's so much, I wouldn't know where to start!

The thing is, I'm so hurt & angry...this woman made our life a misery over christmas and during the time we were trying to make it work...now she's on his case again and what makes matters far worse is that he's snivelling to her about how he only made a go of it with me because of our daughter...and that his happiness didn't come into it

Anyway, I'm rambling, sorry...been up all night and felt like I wanted to email them both to put the record straight and let her know what a lying, cheating, b&st&rd he is!!

I realise I'm very upset and don't want to do anything I regret...should I email them both and have my say, or should I somehow just let it go and let her realise for herself??

Help!! So frustrated, but then on the other hand, don't want to stoop to their leave iykwim...

oh my god purple he is a complete tosser, dont even let him feed u all this crap about him being depressed and its all ur fault stuff..........he is a disgrace to be humiliating you yet again...and his floozie is jst as pathetic as he is,im so sorry that uve got to deal with this hurt all over again x

Stop it - nothing you did justifies what he did. It is because it is easier to blame you than admit that maybe he could have dealt with things differntly. I am sure there were times when you did not give him as much attention as you should - we are all guilty of that at some time. But nothing should make anyone treat someone like that you have every right to feel angry and hurt. Dont give him or the OW the satifaction of knowing that this is getting to you. You are stronger than that.

i dont understand y all the floozies fall for the poo that comes out of mens mouths??????????

purplepoppet,

this is just so unfair on you. Shouldn't he have known you would go through hard times and the important thing is sticking with it!! I'm so sorry that he's not mature enough to show you the respect you deserve.

you're a brilliant personxxxxxxxxxxxxx

I'm not to bad thanks...struggling a bit to be honest...it's almost a year since it first happened, but this time seem to be worse..I'm absolutely gutted, how could he do this to me, then justify it by blaming me He just doesn't get it at all..I have to pick myself up and move on now without him...easier said then done though...looking forward to witching hour when the kids are in bed and I can have a glass or 2 of vino

I would find one of his complaining emails to her, and forward it to both of them with corrections (ie the truth) - oh and I'd copy in his boss... but then I am a vicious cow sometimes

Hope things improve for you soon, purplepoppet

ooooooh i like littlelupins idead thats really good.dont let this man and absolute slut of a woman destroy u anymore than they have done........get a sitter and go out this weekend and start living for u, stop exsisting and revolving ur world around these horrible human beings

thats the hardest thing as much as we love our dc we have to put on the happy faces and carry on where as they just walk out and dont have to see the pain they have caused.

Unless you have gone through this you dont understand the pain it causes. But i honestly believe we women feel pain differently to men.

Maybe it is that they can walk out while we stay at home. I really feel for you pp im going through exactly the same at the mo. but unfortuneatley no one can say anything to tak ethe pain away.

Time does help they say. And i believe what goes around comes around. All these cheating twats will get their come uppance one day.

What he completely fails to remember is that I had severe PND (alot due to his complete lack of support), plus soon after I was diagnosed my Dad died very suddenly and traumatically of cancer Again, he was extremely unsupportive and his basic attitude was 'he knew it was sad, but to stop taking it out on him'

Then he has the nerve to tell me this is down to me because I neglected him!!

God I hate him SO much right now

I like th eidea of sending the emails to the boss - isnt there some way of sending to everyone in his adress book (by mistake of course!!) Now that would be wickied and how would he treat you then? surely not worse than this

The thing is, its not in my nature to be spiteful...although I've given it a damn good go today I've called him all the names under the sun...infact I've come up with some corkers, which is unlike me...but very theraputic!!

selfish bloody pigs! teaching my boys to be considerate not that they will have much choice they have 3 sisters to answer to if they dont!

when women get hurt it rocks the core of their universe...and although a woman CAN forgive,she WILL never forget.well now u know that he didnt deserve the second chance u gave him.....so theres definately no need to give him a third is there??????

oh the anger stage is a beauty! i smacked his gf when i found them only cos she called me a slut!! She has since apologised because his dumped her for her best mate and go therthe sack and threathened to slit her throat! all in the past week!!

oh my god sugar.....r u loving that her life is shit at the mo lol

yeah! only found then 4 weeks ago. they met the night before i caught them. but she has rung me in tears telling me how she loved him how his hurt her broken her heart! ffs they were only together 3 f'ing weeks! and im supposed to comfort her!

Blimey Sugar...heavy poop!

Oh my word!! She's clueless!! She's on the same planet as my tw*t of a husband!!!

must be a network of them! you will see on other threads ( fab and glam tour) just how low my scun x has been.

should say scum!

wtf????? who does that??????? she steals ur man then rings u up telling u about her pain...what a nob ed

hurts like hell though doesnt it? its got to get better? and hard when rl firends /family dont really understand because they havent been through it or are maybe just bored of hearing how much you hurt?

she is only 21

i think she was hoping id tell her how to gethim back tbh.

If you email them both it might bring them together further against you - they may even laugh at you for emailing them.

Rise above it all and keep your dignity. Your dp seems incapable of realising or so recognising how badly he has acted so you may as well give up trying to make him see it and concentrate your energies on the kids and yourself. Make sure you treat yourself and the kids, you deserve it and they are lucky to have a strong mother like you.