Dating Thread 156 - It is hot hot hot

[midcenturylegs]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3543468-dating-thread-152-onwards-and-upwards

I managed to get my words all messed up. It was regarding Fab "social" specifically. I think the question has been answered though.

My weekend plans are to attempt to clean and tidy my whole house and paint the kids rooms before a house inspection next week.

I also think my DD has had a break up so there will been teen angst to deal with.

So no irons unless there’s interest at the local tip or B&Q. It feels like Mr S has cooled down since our issue this week and we have no plans. :(

So I put Mr Mystery in the sea and now have a date tonight with a very cute Italian guy who’s 11 years younger than me 😳😳

I’ve got a first date tomorrow with let’s call him mr Miller. Been chatting for about 4 days, spoke on the phone he sounds lovely. Let’s hope he’s as nice in real life. 🙈

@sidge good luck tonight. Xx

I really dislike posting on other topics in this forum. Asking for some advice and straight away it's all patronising 🙄

I'm just sticking to this group from now on.

Hey all
Some quick advice needed....village man has just txt. Like nothing has happened. After being absence for two weeks. It's just a ' hi,how are you doing,how is your weekend shaping up'.
He just wants to come around after the pub,doesn't he :(

He really has no idea I was hurt! Shall I ignore

I don't even read the other posts on here anymore @lifegoes. They were actually making me feel really sad.

I would ignore kerkyra. I don't know your history though so maybe I'm being harsh, but I'd still ignore if that's how you feel.

@ItsAMiracle2015 I posted for some advice and got some lovely comments. But one or two are like the frigging psychologist police

Ignore @kerkyra

kerkyra did he even apologise? I would be inclined to ignore him but be prepared with some good putdowns if you bump into him in the pub.

I do think (don't hate me please 🙈) but you do seem to be attracted to narcissists. I am too. I find them way more attractive over 'normal & nice' guys. It's truly a repeating thing in my life.

@ItsAMiracle2015 I know haha I would agree but I'm actually in therapy and even if she didn't think he was like this. And I told her everything, she's just as shocked as me.

I think it's coz I like the intensity of things.

My last 3 actually full relationships have been with narcissists and they've been seeing other women or married and I had no idea.

Thanks everyone.
I will ignore tonight. Maybe send a cheerful hi txt tomorrow and mention I have my son all weekend (and loads of dates.Joke)

He didn't apologise as had nothing to say sorry for really. I txt to ask if he fancied drink in a pub garden the other sunday,he replied he had his son. I txt ok,chat soon.

That was two weeks ago. After three nights of pub and snogs.

I think he is just going through a crap time but I need to look after myself here. Or am I being harsh

I was with my ex 11 years and only after counselling do I know now he's a full on narcissist. They're amazing at it. And it's such a high. So now normal guys, with no high, don't seem as good. Like a drug. I'm trying so hard to actually avoid the high, but it's hard!

kerkyra ok say maybe you don't think he had anything to say sorry for but I do think you deserve an explanation. If I'd had three nights of snogging a bloke and then I ignored him I'd at least explain why I hadn't been in touch.

Tonight I shall mostly be eating. If I ever get out of work.

Of relevance to the thread - I've finally discovered the blue ticks on WhatsApp messages. I had never even realised they changed colour and was wondering what everyone was talking about.

@kerkyra A few dates have got in touch with me after months just recently. I don't bear any animosity towards them and in one case I felt deeply apologetic for letting the conversation slide out of view, so I was happy to chat in that situation.

I don't know where it will lead but I have to admit it makes me feel anxious as I'm trying to arrange a next date with ... I am unsure of the correct prefix .. Ms, Miss, Madame ? ... I'll go with MsGoldfish. There is another Ms in conversation with me at the moment but I am struggling to focus on that too, and no date and so no name yet. I'm a rubbish multi-dater.

@ItsAMiracle2015 absolutely get that, that's why I went into therapy after my last one as really broke me

We just love the high drug. I do wonder if this is why a FWB is better for me. But then I want something else. I don't even know what 😂

@HairyArsedMan are these conversations where you didn't meet? I think there's a difference between that and @kerkyra who I think (correct me if I've remembered this wrong) met him in a pub, brought him home, and snogged him 3 times. He was then a bit crap about responding to her but is on pof so clearly looking for women.

My Friday night will be the most boring one on the thread. Painting the woodwork in the spare room and maybe moving furniture. I will be avoiding Match and mumsnet.

@StealthNinjaMum No, they all involved meeting and several dates.

This is why I'm always intrigued by your posts irons lifegoes. Sounds like we go for similar guys twats 🤷. I bought a new book the other day 'Women who love too much'. It's a tough read but I found it a real eye opener.