Dating Thread 156 - It is hot hot hot

[midcenturylegs]

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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MissOz and I are planning a weekend getaway, you've got me looking for places with hot tubs now cassettes

cassettes just make sure the jets are where you want them before you start! Don't ask me how I know!

ha! just saw midcentury post - that's exactly what I meant!

Does he make you feel like you want to go to bed with him immediately?

Is this VITAL for a first date?

For me first dates are definitely where I look and think would I like to. Not immediately but erm in the next week or so. Anyone that gives me the feeling of no, I don't think I do, is in the bin.
Because you need to like them and be attracted to them. Not just one or the other.

For the same reason I think too much messaging before meeting can be a bad idea, gets you liking them when the chemistry isn't necessarily there.

I'm still waiting to know the name of the group on Facebook @LooUpdate

It's meant to be a really good group where you can post before even dating the guy to ask if anyone has had experience with them and then also post to warn other women

Gah he’s kinky but I think even he would draw the line at an enema! 😱😱😱 Thanks for the warning though guys, I shall be v v careful 😳

thanks mrdrummer - I had joined meetup as they had some interesting industry specific meet up things but haven't gone to any yet!

notcoolmum cassettes not sure what i will do next. Have a really busy weekend coming up and all the dcs home so will have a proper think about it next week

@DaffoDeffo To be honest, I got as far as the front door to my first one, saw a huge crowd of people and turned tail. That particular group is a general social group, so I started to go to some of the smaller meets which were more specific (e.g. coffee, cinema outings) and that made it a lot easier. They can be a bit cliquey. Perhaps not an issue to a confident person.

@midcenturylegs re: hottub friend fiasco, if that happened today it would splashed () all over instagram!

Ha ha thanks mrdrummer that makes me feel so much better!

@MrDrummer
I did that once. Walked towards a pub for a quiz night. Looked in the window then couldn't face going in..
Meet is good if you enjoy socialising in groups and have no hang up s about your self.
I did go to a couple of things but always found there was one or two group leader types that I didn't like.
I felt like they would turn up to everything.
Which is annoying if you want to meet slightly less confident people and have more one on one chats.
Oh and I felt uncomfortable with people getting their cameras out to take photos!

Aw shitwith a Friday morning date?

Ooh you bragger shitwith 😂

How can you search for a username on POF?

I love a hot tub, but they don't really go with safe sex (condoms) ....

shitwith I've had similar conversations with Mr BC ... it's a bit disconcerting when you get on with someone so well so quickly ...

Meet Up is a bit crap where I am. Not much I'm interested in, and lots of things starting at 6 pm (not home from work then!!).

@shitwith and @batshit There is no such thing as too good if it's genuine. Don't self sabotage. Enjoy it!

You may have found what you and many others here are looking for, so don't throw it away!

shitwith and batshit so happy for you!

@shitwithsugaron definitely agree with previous posters, don't self sabotage, you might have found the one!

Re hot tub sex - yes not conducive where condoms are required I imagine, (I didn't need them when we had our hot tub) but I found it slightly thrilling. A well positioned jet can, errm, enhance the experience...

@Musti

How can you search for a username on POF?

Just google it. real ones tend to appear at the top.

shitwith batshit so happy for you both. Thinking of changing my name to marlbshit 😁

Are you a member of pof too? I think you can change your privacy settings on pof so you only appear to people who are logged in.

You should definitely just go with it @shitwithsugaron. Don't overthink it.

Things have always been easy and felt 'right' with MrSG. And that is just because we are actually a really good fit for each other. There's plenty of things about both of us that just would not work for other people, but they work for us. There's a very real feeling of 'oh, THIS is what it's supposed to be like, and who I should be with'.

After struggling through crappy relationships, it is hard to properly get your head around the idea that something might just work. But don't self-sabotage.