Positive signs you’d found a keeper.

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Inspired by another thread.

Small things, or maybe larger, that meant you knew you’d got a decent caring person.

I’ll start.

On our second date.

I’d made a balls of flights and ended up coming into a different airport. He drove 80 miles each way to pick me up and took me to dinner.

Fourth date. Got up at 5am to drop me to an early train. I was going to get an Uber or walk (it was only a 5-10 min walk).

Always text straight back , was always there on time . Never let me down

PanGalatic Probably whichever he could manage with his eyes squeezed shut. Should mention he got bonus points because I also had amoebic dysentery at the time

@LocalBadGal - We have a winner!!!

What a super star your guy is :-)

My friend once said to me, you need a man in your life who would wipe your arse if you needed him too because you couldn't. I think she had it spot on!

Loads and loads. When we got serious he would drive 2 hrs after work to see me and would have bought some yummy things.

He would text me good morning, text me back/call me back quickly, always answered the phone.

He would pick me up from work every day going out of his way in the worst traffic ever.

When I would be leaving his house, I'd have my hand on the door and he would be asking me when am I coming back and I'd say as soon as I've put the kids to bed. My brother lived with me at the time and new man was a neighbour!

A million other reasons, he's just the best man and I think my heart would stop beating without him!

Such a lovely thread... Can't contribute to it though, as I don't have anything positive to say about my previous relationship. But it sure gives me hope that they're some absolute gems out there!

He doesn't care when I'm in my old pjs and woolly cardi, with greasy hair (current state)
When suffering with morning sickness, he cleaned me and the bathroom up
Makes me breakfast in bed most weekends and always gets up with our kids, leaving me to sleep in
If I wake up in the night, he wakes and always checks I'm ok. Im pregnant and he will go downstairs at any time of the. Ugh this to get me a drink/snack/heartburn tablet
He tells me how proud he is that I've started my own business

Been with dh a good few years and currently having a shit time at work, have a second interview lined up but have been unsure as worse for school hours and pick up etc. He texted me saying only thing that matters is that you’re happy so go for it and we’ll work out the rest together, even if I have to adjust my hours.

This may seem like a normal reaction but having seen so many unhealthy relationships around me, it made me so happy and love him even more(not that that’s possible)

DH drove 2 hrs to where I’d broken down. He got there before the RAC who were in the wrong place looking for the wrong car.

Update for today: I've been coveting something for the house in the sale, but not wanting to spend the money on it as it's totally unnecessary and frivolous. DH was out earlier, knock at the door, is a parcel for me with said item in .

All good signs...

Asks questions of depth and listened for the answer without judgement... just out of interest.

Flew me to Singapore for a 'date'. We never parted. Married with two kids. Plenty of ups and downs, but he's special.

Oh this is lovely! I had only ever known horrible, selfish men before my now DH.

Every evening when we start to relax on the sofa he insists that I get comfy and put my legs on his lap so he can rub my feet 😊

He thinks I'm adorable, I know that sounds silly but he genuinely thinks everything I do is cute and he tells me that all the time.

He tells me several times a day that I'm beautiful. Usually when I personally would say I look tired/busy or a mess.

I just love him. He means everything to me.

I lay in bed this morning wondering why the heck DH needed to open/close every car door about 100 times (ok, maybe a slight exaggeration...I was tired lol) before heading to work. 5 minutes later I heard him drive back...more bloody doors lol but then realised he'd come back to put the bins out to save me having to get out of bed...all was forgiven

I caught him talking alone to my ancient, mangy old cat like she was his grandma.

I have pretty painful periods ( I’m a big tit) and we’d only a couple a few months, I was doubled over in pain on my sofa, and embarrass. He went out and got me about 20 dvds (all chick flicks/romantics) and a big bar of my fave chocolate got the duvet and paracetemol and sat there stroking my hair watching Bridget Jones lol he still does the same now but it’s my favourite flowers instead of the DVD’s

DH covered my rent for me about 8 weeks into meeting. I paid him back quickly but I felt safe and like he had my back.

I'd bought a new and expensive pair of boots. Went for a walk in the rain and ruined them. Dp took them away and polished them and waterproofed them so they look good as new.

Second date I got horribly drunk. We were staying in a hotel. He took me to the loo to be sick (how romantic!) and held my hair and carried me back to bed as I couldn't walk. He then tucked me up and stayed awake watching me all night incase I choked on my own vomit.

I'm his princess, cheesy I know but I do love it and him dearly.

He has been sending me a funny or loving message at lunch every single working day since I met him.

He considers my kid as if he was his own. He never forgets to talk to his kids at the end of the day.

I left him taking care of the dog while I went away. When I came back I found a happy dog, a clean house and all the stuff I left in the laundry basket washed and ironed.

He cleans the kitchen as I cook, if I am tired he insists I should sit, have a coffee and tell him about my day while he cooks.

I can talk to him about everything, he is absolutely adorable.

Such early days, so I have no idea if we will 'keep' each other. But he is definitely a good man and helping to restore my faith in love and relationships.

This week he has been brilliant. I had a family crisis whilst on a date with him. He drove me the hour home, took me and my eldest to A&E, sat with my youngest talking about things they are interested in, picked us back up from a&e, then drove back the next day so I could get my car from his. I also crashed my car this week. He offered to drive to me but stayed on the phone with me whilst I got home (hands free) reassuring me all the way home.

He makes me a brew the minute he gets to my house. Has gone meat free for lent (I'm a veggie). Cares more about my pleasure in bed than his own. Is sensitive about my DC's feelings about him and the time we spend together. Always comes armed with his toolkit and will do a little job in the house for me. Is just genuinely kind, considerate and thoughtful. After an abusive marriage and a partner who cheated on me it's refreshing and lovely. We may not last but I appreciate how he cares for me. 🤞

Wrote ‘I love you’ in the frost on my car windscreen.

Held my hair back when I was sick and didn’t care when I puked down his arm

Rubs my tummy when I’ve got period pain.

Hides chocolate in random places for me to find.

Bought me purple Converse when Prince died.

Paints my toenails.

Gets up to feed our dogs at 6:30 every morning and lets me sleep, then brings me coffee at 7:30.

Writes songs for me.

Tells me stories when I can’t sleep.

I could go on. He’s a rare diamond.

What a lovely lovely thread, such a nice change on this board; but also incredibly useful as a benchmark for good partners and relationships.

My DH sings me to sleep every night. He has done this since our very first date, he called me once I was home and sang me to sleep down the phone and has done it ever since. When he goes away for business he will call me and sing me to sleep down the phone. He will not stop singing until I am sound asleep. So thoughtful, my daring.

That's true love