Dating thread 155 - Spring lovin'

[supercali77]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Looupdate it's tough, yesterday ex said he doesn't feel 'ready' for divorce. 3 months ago he was so adamant that I was this awful person and suddenly he's feeling nostalgic and has seen me reinvent myself.

But we have to focus on the reason why we're apart and make a really good life without these idiots. I have a 'proper' family with just me and my children and so do you.

looupdate

Thank you for the condolences. He was a very old man (95!) but it’s still sad. I’ve now got to work out the logistics of getting to the funeral on a school day... (4.5 hour drive away)

@looupdate no never, funnily enough. He made me so miserable and opted out of family time mentally if not physically. I think I miss the emotional closeness of having someone on a weekend like this, and I didn’t have that with him. So I miss the abstract concept of sharing a long BH weekend with someone, but not HIM.

@Sidge that's it exactly. I miss the concept of a family. But the reality was shit for everyone. And although I do get sad it's outweighed by the joy of not having to spend a BH weekend with my in laws.

....I'm grieving for a fantasy

I miss the abstract concept of sharing a long BH weekend with someone

Painfully true.

Thanks for sharing guys. My ex was terribly abusive, which just shows how codependent I am in nature. I'm working hard to change it though.

Same here @LooUpdate
Can hear all my neighbours enjoying their bbqs and I'm sat alone checking my phone for a message that i know won't come.
Before he ghosted me, we had made a plan to go to the coast today. I assumed it wouldn't happen once he ghosted me but for the past two days all I've really done is check my phone in case he had unblocked me and changed his mind.
I wish I had someone to enjoy the long weekend with. Even if it's just a drink at a beer garden.

can hear all my neighbours enjoying their bbqs

Ditto. Feel like life is passing me by.

On the plus side, there will be lonely men out there thinking the exact same thing.

Cee why did he block you?

Ok. Thread BBQ tonight. Sausages burgers halloumi and aubergine. Plus cold beer.

I hate hearing all the laughing etc.

God maybe I just need to get some more friends....

Back from date and it's a chocolate orange for me

My neighbours are having a bbq, I have got fed up with hearing them so have come inside to go on MN instead 🤣

POF seems to be dead now the weathers nice, I don’t have many irons at the moment, everything’s a bit quiet.

Aaargh @kerkyra we'll melt it over ice cream for pudding

Decent neighbours would have invited round. I can hear mine too.

I wanted to go to a gig tonight but didn't know anybody that would go so stuck it up on a meetup group and now I am going with some bloke called Andy!

@kerkyra spill the beans!

Thank you x I think date had had too many puddings :(
Why on earth say your body shape is average when you are clearly obese. My heart fell when he got out his car.
He did send a full length pic when I asked but think it must have been old.
Sweet bloke though :)

@kerkyra Don't get why you wouldn't use recent pics.

Sorry it didn't work out and hope it was a nice enough time even if it isn't going anywhere. We do need to discuss your unorthodox pre-date preparation!!! (kerkyra and I met for a non-date coffee beforehand... thank-you again... my round next time!)

Don't get why he wouldn't use recent pics. ^^

Sorry to hear everyone is feeling a bit miserable because they're alone.

I was hoping I would have a date this weekend but no one is interested. So I've just been getting a few things done around the house, met my usual sporty group this morning and now I'm going watch something on catch-up

I did finally hear back from Mr Probably Married this afternoon. He says he's looking after his mum this weekend. No idea if that is true. But I don't really care now.

looupdate my ex was a horrible alcohlic twat who would have used the bh to get pissed and aggressive so no I don’t miss him at all.

I wish I had someone to drink gin with in the garden this evening though ☹️

Thread bbq sounds great!!! I will bring jerk chicken

I've had to google that word!
I know,i go a bit nervy before a date but it's a real downer when you think this one might go somewhere.
His two head shots were good.
I'm obviously investing too much before a meet!

@shitwithsugaron Oops, sorry we'll call him Mr Random Gig Dude!

Bridget jones is on in a bit so going to get into my thermals,eat the choc and drink the wine.
On my own tomorrow but will keep busy

Sorry it didn't go well @kerkyra
I'm on the cider here.... tomorrow is another day.

Well I didn't have time to do any spring clothes shopping..
The guy I met was fine but 5/6 stone heavier than expecting..
I knew few extra pounds but not 20 stone.
Goodbye was awkward.
Oh well.

unique do you think our date was the same guy lol

Loo update with Mr random gig dude. Nice guy. Great venue. When I said I needed a loo break, he said he needed to go too. I said I'd wait for him to come back before I went! [Grin]

I’ve been on Bumble. Is someone saying they’re GGG a red flag?! Online dating is a bit depressing- I’ve had 20 first dates and about 2 second dates.