Dating thread 155 - Spring lovin'

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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@lifegoes Excellent message!!!

@MrDrummer The hour long phone calls are when he's on his residential course- 2 weeks away at a time, then we meet up when he's back in our home city, but then he's working all hours to make up for time he's not being paid whilst he's on his course. But yes, we do communicate a lot 😳

I'm going to proceed with extreme caution I think, and keep my spidey senses alert for any fuckwittery. He seems very concerned about his potential heartbreak but I don't want mine broken either, and whilst the romantic in me is casting us as star crossed lovers, we're basically a couple of mid 40 odd year olds with a shit load of baggage, who would probably be just as happy with someone else as each other. Eventually.

I don't believe in soul mates or that there is only one special person, but we certainly have a connection that I've not had with anyone else, not even MrAbs. He just "gets" me in a way no one else does. 🤷‍♀️

In true JeSuis style I'm going to compartmentalise him and concentrate of my date with MrCornish tonight...

I'm meet someone new later.
Other guy isn't available all weekend... So what the hell.
Not my type looks wise but I don't often know until I meet once or twice .
It's one of those gets me out the house but I will do bit of shopping before hand.

lifegoes sounds like you did the right thing for you

His comments about you getting lots of male attention - I have found some guys like that and find it a turn on, want to hear about it. Yes, the multi-dating ones!

unique1986 hope the meet up goes well!!

Are you guys enjoying the weather?

I don't want to sound like a misery guts but the gorgeous sunny weather is making me depressed and envious. Depressed I have no one to share it with. Envious of everyone I view in a family. Feeling a tad hopeless.

Great message lifegoes

there is a lot of fuckwittage about!!

Nothing happening my side. Sporadic messaging from Mr Local. Lots of messaging from Mr Big. No new irons for me. Not feeling it but enjoying the sun

Sorry to hear how you’re feeling loo - am enjoying the weather to an extent but hate feeling too hot so can only tolerate it for so long.Not saying that there aren’t blissfully happy couples/families out there but just remember some of them may be unhappy with their relationships etc under the surface x

@looupdate I hear you.

Mr NVQ messaged to say he's been drinking all afternoon and wants to know where we're meeting.....I said we're not if you think it's okay to get in a car now

FML

Loo update- yeah I hear you too. Think coco is right it doesn’t mean they’re happy but it would Just be easy and nice sometimes

Puta straw- no way I’d be livid. What did he say. Could you taxi? But if he’s drunk is it worth it?

@ccgirr I'm not taxiing for a first date with someone who has that little regard for other people. He messaged me to say "have I blown it?" and I just messaged "yep". I'm not that desperate.

Put a straw- love it. Hope your evening isn’t wasted 💐

LooUpdate I know how you feel, lovely weather her today but feels depressing not having anyone to share it with, I’m on my own tomorrow all day, I’m not sure if I want to go out as everyone will be out with their family and I will look like a loner.

lovemusic33 go out and enjoy the sun.... You might meet someone irl!!

Looupdate it is easy to feel as though everyone else is having a happy loved up time of it, but appearances can be deceiving. I am on my own this bank holiday too and have just been into town where everyone and his wife was out and about. It is a seaside town so lots of happy families too. But I have come home with a nice salad, some fresh fruit and some wine for me to enjoy this afternoon/evening. At times like this I thank my lucky stars that I am not still with that abusive f*wit who I spent too many years with. I know it is not always easy to appreciate being on your own, especially at holiday time, but I always try to treat myself at these times. My POF and Tinder conversations have dried up so it will be me and Netflix tonight and I will do some gardening tomorrow.

@looupdate I hear ya.

I’m at home all weekend with my children. We don’t really go out and do much because DD2 has complex SN and autism, and BH weekends are way too crowded and busy for us to go anywhere. And I don’t want to spend hours in the car either.

Everyone seems to have lovely plans, and are all coupled up or doing family stuff. It just highlights how single I am.

My grandad died a few days ago and Mr Mystery seems to have ghosted me 🤦🏼‍♀️ So all in all I’m feeling really sorry for myself. I’m sitting in the garden with a bottle of Sol.

@putastrawunderbaby what a douche.

sidge sorry to hear of your loss x

@sidge I'm so sorry for your loss

putastraw what a knob, however he was going to travel to you, you don't spend the afternoon drinking before a date!
lifegoes well done! Sounds like you were about to be added to a harem of FWBs.

Yes I'm enjoying the weather, but just spent a mad 2 hours tidying the garden for the 1st time this year. MissOz clearly feels comfortable to come back to my house again (hoping it wasn't just the bath that was the deciding factor) so I'm cooking dinner and she's staying over

@Sidge yep. Families all look so happy. I found xmas difficult. Have to remind myself that ex made every outing miserable anyway. Sounds nice home with a beer. Sorry about your grandad too.

@putastrawunderbaby bloody boozy men. That's thoughtless. Better now than later.

I'm having a quiet weekend. Kids away with ex. I could do without seeing mr Unsuitable later as my poor old 50 year old body needs a rest 😳 don't think I'm meeting him anyway. Evening in with a paper and a gin for me later. Gardening first

Thanks guys. I feel so miserable today.

Do you ever wish you could get back with your ex just to experience that family unit again?

@LooUpdate nope. No. No no no. Never. All our days out were shit. I'm sad I'll ever be a "proper" family again though. But I'd never go back to that miserable existence

@looupdate yes, and I hate that even if I'm ever with anyone else they won't be my children's father and it won't be the same BUT it was never going to be roses round the door, it was tense, it was lonely, the good times were wonderful but they were outweighed by the bad times.....I'm grieving for a fantasy.