Dating thread 155 - Spring lovin'

[supercali77]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Had a date last night for drinks with Mr Lawyer. Turns out he only comes to London for work and strong flags = married so not for me

Chatting to a promising Mr Avengers but he is only 6 months post split so will proceed with caution!!

@WarIsPeace

Ha reminds me of this

@DaffoDeffo

You have a good point regarding it's all about you, versus all about them. I never looked at it that way and I will need to let that soak for a bit. I don't think I am "all about me" type of person. Rarely, anyway.

I've deleted Facebook (though it's yet to finally fall away) and people find it uber suspicious!

mrdrummer I didn't mean to imply you are. I think the thing with OLD is you always have to remember that (certainly in the early days) you have no idea what these people are like. We don't know their motivations, we don't know what's going on in their lives, we don't know how sensible or sane they might be. You may well be trying to be rational with the most irrational person in the world. We shouldn't forget that women have been killed doing OLD by meeting violent and abusive men.

I always think if someone shows irrational behaviour, which he did, then it's best to just walk away rather than trying to rationalise with them. Maybe they do deserve a real explanation or maybe you want to have a say but ultimately if after ONE date someone blocks you on all platforms, you are certainly better off out of there with absolutely no contact from anyone and tbh loo I would be tempted to block him back so he can't undo it!

Just catching up with the last 50,000 messages...🏃‍♂️
I think there are wildly different expectations on texting/confirming arrangements and I think it's good to be relaxed abou that. The woman I dated in January almost never replied to a text within 12 hours. It got me thinking that people perfectly well managed to arrange meetings before the mobile phone was invented. I do prefer making arrangements well in advance to sorting details out last minute, then the issue of how quickly people reply doesn't come up.

Myold is there an update from yours, did you message him?

Loo
from a person who hates being ignored via text. His reaction was out of order, he could have just asked. I understand he may have been rejected before. But you are not the before. Let him get on with it. NEXT...

Oh my lordy,that guy is me. Can't knock my little phone. No ticks to agonize over or selfies even. Just txt and call !

@vwman that is hilarious, thank you! Also, that is my xh. Conspiracy theorist with no social media...

Just getting ready for date 7 (I think, when do you stop trying to count?!) with MrFox. Feeling a little apprehensive as I have a few questions I want to ask him and will have to try not to make it sound like an interrogation 😂

lifegoes thanks for asking. I sent a text this morning saying that I wasn't sure what was going. I pointed out his weird texting pattern and how he seems reluctant to fix a date this weekend. Told him it felt like I was being played.

He hasn't been online all day and so hasn't read it.

Oh Myold I really hope we are wrong. What is your gut telling you?

Keep me updated love.

My gut is saying he's married.
I've been chatting to someone else on Fab. I might ask him if he wants to meet instead

I would ask him. From what you have said it sounds as he is and even more that he hasn't been online all day today.

I'm off out for my date now, let's see how I compare to last nights date 😂

Good luck with your date lifegoes
Just enjoy it for what it is and don't think about what else he might or might not be doing

Thank you Myold i shall

30something hope it goes well and you get the answers you want!!

Good luck lifegoes and 30something

lifegoes Loo update!

Reading this thread cringing at my own behaviour but grateful to learn how I must be perceived. I frequently go out without the phone, forget to charge it, don't reply to whatsapps, make last minute plans. I think I said before I must be terrible to date. It's a good job no-one wants me

Hope everything goes well on dates tonight.

I'm another that prefers to know times and arrangements the night before. Don't mind if it's late evening.
But nothing worse than going to bed not knowing the exact plans.
Ruins my lie ins.
Also if someone tells me they can meet one day over the long weekend and will let me know the next day.
Then I here nothing so have to either ask or just end up arranging to do something else which is kinda stupid as the other person obv doesn't know I never actually planned to meet them that day last min..

Quick update. He's hot! Very good to talk to, already asked to see me again. He keeps checking his phone most of the night which is a hate of mine.

lifegoes that is such good news. I hope the rest of the date goes well and he stops checking his phone (I hate that too).

lifegoes will you see him again? Did you call him out on the phone thing? I’m guilty of this. But usually my DD will be texting me...