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Dating thread 155 - Spring lovin'

999 replies

supercali77 · 16/04/2019 05:52

Dating thread rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

OP posts:
BatshitCrazyWoman · 17/04/2019 21:11

Dancing BC stands for Big Car 😊

botwotworks · 17/04/2019 21:12

Hi, bit of a lurker, but hello everyone. I’m interested in the lelo. I’ve got the lelo wand which is lovely (& so beautiful!) for clit stimulation, but prefer my rabbit for the basics. Sorry to launch straight into the smut first post. How does the lelo vibrator compare to a rabbit - they’re very pricey toys ! (Though a savings in batteries Wink )

ponyprincess · 17/04/2019 21:16

Batshit sounds so amazing!! Love hearing about the loved-ups

botwotworks · 17/04/2019 21:35

Errr, oops. As you were

unique1986 · 17/04/2019 21:41

I like the blue colour.

unique1986 · 17/04/2019 21:42

Quite pricey

ccgirr · 17/04/2019 21:49

I had a wand when abroad but chucked it as didn’t know how to change the plug to uk and couldn’t ask anyone except ex!! Was a bit too intense i thought anyway!
Love rabbits!

ponyprincess · 17/04/2019 22:05

Phone call was okay.. I get the sense he is a player.. But is local.. Maybe another (!) fwb

Sadie687 · 17/04/2019 22:12

Hi, hoping to join here as I attempt this online marlarkey. I was widowed a while ago and have never done much dating especially online so makes me feel a bit anxious! I’ve been lurking for a while and now hope I’m ready to join.

I had arranged to meet someone I was talking to online tonight but they cancelled as they are unwell. Well that’s what they said, not sure if they had second thoughts..

ponyprincess · 17/04/2019 22:18

@sadie687 welcome!! Lots.of.great advice and support here

I would put up with one cancel but not two

Early on most 'multidate'.. It helps not to get too focused/invested in one person. Until you both agree to be exclusive

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supercali77 · 17/04/2019 22:48

@Sadie687 welcome! cancelling once with a redo. Fine. Twice is an instant bin

@botwotworks 😂

@Sunshineandflipflops what a total sweetie! I bet this weekends gonna be a scorcher 🎉

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MrDrummer · 17/04/2019 23:22

@lifegoes

I suffer from body image issues, so I make sure I keep my shirt on til momentus coitus. I look okay with a shirt on but that hides some stubborn unsightly fat. I have decided to have surgery, at least in principle.

Actually weirdly, I went out with someone who kept losing weight over the months we went out and I started to find her less attractive the more weight she lost.

@HairyArsedMan

I'd go on you with a bromance running date if you would have me... Grin

@DancingWithWillard

Are you still talking to Mr. Ginger, even though he is giving you earache. He is trying to manipulate you through guilt.

@supercali77

My exgf produced a, umm, "double" rabbit at one point. I was shocked to learn such a thing existed!

Lollyjack · 17/04/2019 23:27

Ok so a first for me tonight. Been chatting to let’s call him mr jay. Chats going well asked me on a date a week on Saturday as I’m busy this weekend all good until I say I’m just a normal woman!! Apparently he’s done normal got bored and I’m not for him, 😂😂 I just get that message then “bye”. 😳😳 well I thought normal was a good thing not a raving fruit loop

WarIsPeace · 17/04/2019 23:31

@lifegoes I'm ridiculously shy about nudity. I'm a squashy 14 and just go for show off the boobs and pretend the rest isn't there... Proper fitted pretty underwear helps.
Current squeeze is much bigger than me and I know he doesn't think I'm fat even though I do. Previous one also liked my body more than I do.

I think by the time you're both naked they've got an idea of what they will find, and won't be surprised that you are not a tiny slim model under your clothes.

DancingWithWillard · 17/04/2019 23:51

Mr Ginger has been blocked MrDrummwr don't worry. I'm brutal these days.

DaffoDeffo · 18/04/2019 05:50

botwotworks I can't compare as I tried a rabbit once and hated it so I'm probably not the one to ask! I also v rarely use them internally so I might not be the tester you're looking for. I do think their stuff is excellent quality though.

DaffoDeffo · 18/04/2019 05:50

lolly he sounds unhinged!

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supercali77 · 18/04/2019 06:22

@Lollyjack fuckity bye Mr special!

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Lollyjack · 18/04/2019 06:49

Haha I blocked and moved on, I do t think I will ever understand men earlier in the conversation he was saying how he wants a peaceful life, no drama 😳😳 xx

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supercali77 · 18/04/2019 07:18

@Lollyjack I don't trust men with the 'no drama' line. No drama to me means...ive caused a lot of women to go batshit crazy and I'd like someone who won't make too much of a fuss when I'm a douche canoe 😂 they're also not aware enough to know that these are precisely the women they desire most. Armchair psychologist over here hahaha. Well done on the block.

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LilyRose88 · 18/04/2019 07:24

Lollyjack in my experience the guys that say 'no drama' are the ones that cause it!

JeSuisPrest · 18/04/2019 07:46

@LilyRose88How are things with you today? I hope that cockwomble has the good sense to leave you alone. Flowers

Marlboroandmalbec34 · 18/04/2019 07:50

supercali I am so stealing “douche canoe” and adding it to my every day vocab 😂

Ant330 · 18/04/2019 07:56

Just back from date 6 with MissOz, she was still poorly so we stayed in had a takeaway instead.
Date 7 arranged for Sat, but I'm tempting her into an impromptu date in my bath Grin she's only got showers in her house and misses having a bath, so I've sent her pics of my bathroom with big clawfoot bath ;)
I can't remember now who mentioned it, but don't play games about who calls or messages first. Nobody enjoys that do they? If you want to speak to somebody, even if it's just to get a "no spark but thanks" at least you know where you stand rather than waiting for a message that may never arrive. And honestly us blokes want to know that a woman is keen as well as you do, we have exactly the same bloody anxieties about dating!

LilyRose88 · 18/04/2019 08:25

JeSuis thank you for asking. I got a short message back from Mr Outdoors saying that he could tell that something was wrong. I didn't respond and I haven't heard anything since. I am so grateful to everyone who brought me to my senses and stopped me from my usual pattern of putting other people's feelings above my own.

I am feeling very good today and did a bit of Tinder swiping last night to distract myself. I also did a bit of reflection on why I have a habit of minimising bad behaviour in other people. The irony is that I have a very responsible job and appear confident in every day life.