Dating thread 154 - in which beards are encouraged.

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Link to previous thread:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3543468-dating-thread-152-onwards-and-upwards

@Lovemusic33 , take control of the situation! A quick "are we still on for tonight?" text will give you your answer.

I'm also getting ready to see MrFox. I am nervous as I think after tonight we will both know if we want to carry on dating/seeing each other.
I also can't decide whether to dress sexily or dress more relaxed...
Skirt and heels with a bit of cleavage or jeans?!

Rolls he did say he works late and would text me as soon as he gets back, He’s not a big texer and doesn’t tend to text when he’s working. I’m not bothered if it’s cancelled, I’m happy to have a lazy evening at home. Probably my fault for telling him I’m flexible and to just let me know when he’s finished work, I did also say yesterday that if he’s still unwell we can re schedule.

Hope everyone’s dates go well xx

Oh, OK. But yeah, maybe don't come across as so available next time

Just got sent a dick pick on POF from a 24 year old 😮, I’m pretty sure your not meant to send a photo of your dick through POF chat. Some things can not be unseen.

shitwith have fun

30 why not sex it up a bit.

lovemusic yes I would have assumed not but a bit rude not to let you know?

@Lovemusic33 . Tell him you're going to report him to the police for sending a picture of a child's privates.

Rolls I was more concerned about the state of his bedroom, told him “FFS pick your clothes up” 🤣

@Lovemusic33 🤣🤣

Hahaha love

Ok I am way, way catching up here...

@Matchedandmuddled 20% is a terrific return in terms of contact/interest ! Unless it's completely different for blokes of course.

I agree with @StealthNinjaMum the favouriting thing on Match is hard to fathom. You can do it accidentally by hitting the star on someone's profile. Or if you're doing the shuffle (stop sniggering at the back) you can hit the green tick to say you'd like to match with them, and that actually adds them to your favourites. Those selections expire I think, so next time that person comes around, you hit the green tick and go again. When I started on Match I thought favourite was a bookmarking operation so I would go hmm, nice profile, fave ... carry on reading. It took a few weeks before I was favourited and realised it sends a message through to the recipient of the favouritism. Yes, I am a bloke, and I don't read the instructions.

Oh and the other thing about favourites is that it very much allegedly (as I've seen no evidence of this) helps Match's algorithm understand your preferences so that it can email you the relevant (new) profiles you could be interested in. So apparently, worth fav'ing even if you don't think it's viable for some logistical reason.

Hahaha @RollsEyes and @Lovemusic33

I had one iron - Mr Stubble. Now I have no irons.
No reply to my message sent a couple of days ago. I sent a follow up last night - nothing.

He hasn't unmatched me. Just not replying.

And I've had no new matches for days.

@shitwithsugaron 🤞🤞🤞 toilet update.

I had a lovely date with Mr Unsuitable. Had a walk in the sun, went round some markets, cooked etc. He didn't stay over but that suited me. He didn't get too negative at all. At one point he got a message about his situation and I realised how incredibly stressed he is when I saw his reaction. So I'm cutting him a bit of slack. And not just because the sex gets better every time. But emotionally I've pulled back. I think I'm actually managing to enjoy it for what it is and while it lasts.

Also checking in for toilet updates from shitwith and 30

Glad all is well peanut I think enjoy it whilst it lasts*

I'm still catching up on the thread...

@TooOldForThis67 Its good you're focusing on mr Gardner. And have blocked mr wow. There was a while back there when you definitely had too much choice....

I loathe condoms. Completely destroy sex for me. Mr Unsuitable and I have both had tests so relying on that really.

I'm sort of glad but also sad that so many old faces seem to be getting lucky. Looking at you @BatshitCrazyWoman and @TooOldForThis67 and @CocoKoko123. And @30somethingandsingle
And hopefully @shitwithsugaron .

I guess once things come to an end with mr Unsuitable and I start swiping again I might meet someone. I can't imagine it though at all.

Oh you will peanut

So yesterday MrSAS asked me if I wanted to go to a gig worth him tonight and I couldn’t as it’s a long way away and I have a big day at work tomorrow.
I am sitting here drowning my sorrows but do you know what’s nice about him? He’s not on social media. At all. So I can’t get all stalker-ish and search him, I have no idea what his ex looked like and he has no idea about mine. It’s a revelation 😂

@Marlboroandmalbec34 well I wonder. I met a lot of men last year. Wasn't really into any of them though. Mr Unsuitable comes along and I'm all loved up and I suspect it's because it can't actually go anywhere so it's safe to let go. I keep thinking I might be one of @richdeniro s emotionally unavailable women.

No news from @shitwithsugaron

@hairyarsedman that's interesting, the emails i get often contain men who I have 1 or 2 things in common with me and live 200 miles from me. It seems completely random.

So I had a fab date booked for tomorrow with Mr Senior. Met on fab, talking on kit. He said he cannot remember what I look like ( I did send a face pic but on Fab they disappear after 24 hours) I sent him face pic a few hours ago and he hasn’t replied ☹️

You sound very self aware peanut

marlboro hopefully it’s just an unfortunate coincidence he’s gone quiet!
Did you get your date? lovemusic

sunshine see Mr S isn’t on social media and I don’t like it!! I want to see what his wife looks like 😂

shitwith and 30something I hope you are both having fabulous dates 👍

@peanuthedz I wondered if I was emotionally unavailable but I think old is just an artificial situation. we're forming opinions on men just based on a few pictures and words. We're trying to create chemistry that will never come. I went out with my first iron twice just to check there was no spark which was just cruel because when I messaged him to say I wasn't feeling it he was upset. In real life I might've met him at a party, chatted for five minutes and then moved onto the next bloke.

Well I went on at least 15 dates last year. Slept with about 6 of them. Don't normally DTD til
about date 3. Had a few month long flings. But I wouldn't have wanted a relationship with any of them. And I didn't get the feels for any of them. Maybe I just have a very high bar. I had no emotional support whatsoever in my marriage and I went through some terrible things. I feel like I've been on my own for years. I'm not sure I can let anyone get close. Someone mentioned holding hands up thread. There's no way I could do any public displays of affection. I wouhdht know how. And I think after years of defending myself against my husband I'd struggle to let my guard down.

God. Thoroughly depressed now. I'm tough as and I don't know how to be any other way anymore. Aaaarghhhhh. Time for gin