Dating thread 154 - in which beards are encouraged.

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Link to previous thread:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3543468-dating-thread-152-onwards-and-upwards

putastrawberry
Unfortunately no. You could possibly pm me a link to your profile? Not sure if that would work?

At least you are getting FWB's! That's a step in the right direction!

Marlboro no, not me!
Although I think from some of the chat we have had, she is developing the feels, and I don't want that...

I think you have to be a registered user to see profiles @man4allseasons but thank you for being willing!

@matchedandmuddled I don't necessarily think the guys 'favouriting' us actually mean anything although I'm still relatively new to this so could be wrong. Loads of guys seem to favourite me and ignore me when I approach them so I imagine them sitting there and click, click, clicking to make a hitlist whereas the two guys I have dated didn't favourite me, they just looked at my profile and messaged me. Maybe they favourite me by accident, I have done that before on the iPad and once you've favourited someone you can't remove that favourite which is really annoying.

Some guys favourite me every day which is weird as it's like they're saying 'look at me look at me' but never making an effort to get in touch. I ignore them but that's more because they live to far away or are too young.

I haven't really been very proactive at contacting guys but I have a 3rd date on Saturday with Mr Enthusiastic (I forgot to say he smelt very nice last week in reference to a conversation in an earlier thread).

I favourited someone once on match by accident (actually, my friend did it by accident) and he kept messaging me...wouldn't leave me alone! He was very religious and didn't believe in sex before marriage,which made me laugh. A lot.

putastraw - no problem. Sorry for the username fail!

Sunshine I need a tote bag this weekend - I am staying over at Mr Outdoors house on Saturday night! He has been really sweet and told me that he has no expectations and whatever happens (even nothing) is okay with him. We had our third date last night and it went really well. It is strange how we have developed a strong connection, similar to what has happened with Focus and her man. He is not love-bombing me or anything like that, but it just feels really 'right' and we are both in agreement about that.

I decided to keeps things in perspective and not over invest with Mr Outdoors so I have been talking to a few guys on Tinder but have not arranged to meet them. One asked me if I wanted to meet for a drink and I explained that my daughter is coming to stay this weekend (partly true, she is arriving on Sunday afternoon) and that I am going out with friends on Friday (completely true). I said maybe next week. His response - 'Don't bother then'. What a charmer!

I will see how things go on Saturday with Mr Outdoors but I need to have the 'exclusive or condoms chat' before anything happens between us.

sunshine
I have no problem with sex before marriage...

As long as it doesn't hold up the ceremony..

I've lost count of the number of times I've mistakenly "superliked" someone on Tinder by swiping up when all I wanted to do was view their profile

@stealth, thank you, I think I will stop reading too much into winks and favourites. 3rd date with Mr Enthusiastic sounds good, I'm sure I've read that smell is the most important sense, smelling a mans neck can be so delicious.

I have one iron which is a telephone chat tonight - super handsome picture on match! But I have just googled him and feel a bit intimidated - he is an author, has a masters and property abroad...wish I hadn't looked now. Google me and you get nothing. Must stay positive, he messaged me asking to chat and I have only just begun my search!

man4all can I ask why you don’t want the feels from your FWB when you say you want to rip her clothes off?

lillyrose sounds good, but don’t you want to test him out (with condoms) before the exclusive chat?

@Matchedandmuddled not sure it was his neck I liked or the aftershave. Will find out what aftershave it was - if it doesn't work out I can always buy some for the next man!

Good news about your chat tonight. I hope it goes well. Don't worry about the google, he'll have seen your profile and not been put off.

Marlboro in my mind, lust and passion don't mean love, and I (rightly or wrongly) associate the comments she is making with more love-like comments, than what I think a FWB is - if that makes sense?

Tote bag bought

I didn't get the 'I want to rip your clothes off' feeling on the first date with MrFox, it was actually a bit awkward. I wasn't going to have a second date, but as he was kind and my gut feeling tells me he's a decent bloke I went for date 2. Second date onwards I got the 'I want to rip your clothes off' feeling.
Maybe worth not discounting her yet Man4

matched he sounds great but I am sure you are super too!

Ah the smell thing! The only guy I have met so far who’s smell gets me is Mr Big- damn good smelling chap!!

man4all thanksit just helps to get a mans perspective on the FWB thing! Still on so knew to me!! I am always unsure of how to play things with mine!

Marlboro In my opinion, a FWB is someone that you can have an evening out or night in with. Meals, films, weekends away, chats about nothing in particular into the wee hours etc are all ok.

When they start saying things like "I'd make the perfect (man / woman) for you" or similar, then I'm afraid my alarm bells go off...

I love a man who smells good - really important! I have now bought some very sexy red heels for Saturday's date with Mr BC (have a day off today as had something to sort out for my SN son). I know he'll love them ....

I get it, Man4 !

Marlboro good thinking, I will use condoms first and then see how things go. I am 99% certain that he is not seeing anyone else but like me he could be chatting to people behind the scenes to keep them warm as it were. It is a bit sad that I am keeping a few convos going 'just in case' but that seems to be how the dating scene works these days. And it means that I don't feel totally over-invested (although I have of course fallen head over heels for him!).

Like 30something and Mr Fox I had some reservations after the first date as I thought Mr Outdoors looked better in his photos. Whereas last night I was gazing at him over the table in the restaurant thinking how damn gorgeous he was.

Bats I thought you would!

I like to smell nice for a date. I'm not sure a beard would work on me though...

I don’t think it’s an aftershave thing for me..it’s more of a skin smell. Pheromones or something

Oh bloody hell man4 that’s defo overstepping FWB and even I get that!

lilyrose I am again doubting the multi dating/ chatting thing. No one gets my full attention and I think I unwittingly ghost some nice guys because I am talking to another

marlboro I was semi joking about the aftershave - it was at the end of the evening so that had faded a lot. So a mixture of him and the aftershave. Still very nice.

Marlboro exactly I feel bad about the irons that I have been keeping loosely dangling. But to be fair they are Tinder irons and the convos have hardly been deep. And I clearly pissed one of them off after telling him I was too busy to meet until next week.

So if Mr Outdoors distance from me has changed on Tinder (as he is at work) does that mean that he has actively opened Tinder, or does his location change automatically if his phone moves location?

No idea how it works lilyrose sorry.

I kind of have to keep on multi chatting I think though. The only messages that really keep me amused are from Mr Big and that’s not going to go anywhere. I am hoping someone really interesting comes along 😁