Dating thread 154 - in which beards are encouraged.

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Link to previous thread:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3543468-dating-thread-152-onwards-and-upwards

Ooh. Sounds fabulous batshit so pleased for you x

Sorry to hear this myth. It shows why meeting early on is so important. Will you try a second date or is there no point?

Struggling to keep up on here, dipping in and out whilst trying to survive the Easter holidays and continue with the dating game.

I’m meant to have a date tonight with Mr not my type but he message last night to say he might have to cancel as he was feeling unwell. A bit of pain as I don’t know if it’s on or off.

I also have a date on Sunday but he can’t meet until after 1pm which doesn’t give me much time as the dd’s get home at 5pm and he wants to meet somewhere that’s a hour away. He seems nice but has a young son who he has half the week and he’s only been single 9 months.

A few other irons in the back burner but haven’t got much time to arrange dates until kids are back at school.

I have a second date with Mrs Yogi-not-a-bear tonight. We are bowling (NOT blowing, although you never know... ). I'm not sure I'm feeling it tbh, but I need to give her another chance..

Sorry to hear that myth I had high hopes for you and Mr Games overinvested in someone else's love life

@Man4allseasons ☹ What's happened? I thought you were really keen on her Man4?

@30somethingandsingle Do you need to borrow sunshine's tote shag bag?

Ha! I have been invited to spend the whole weekend next weekend so I may need a new, bigger bag

JeSuis. No, that was Mrs LongBlondeHair, who decided she wanted more of a serious relationship than I did. So we decided not to take things further.

My 1st date with Mrs Yogi-not-a-bear was... nice. We hugged at the end - no kisses . Hopefully this one will turn out better.

Mrs Non-communicative decided she didn't want to pursue anything as I was (ironically) too non-communicative...

I have nothing else on the horizon, but am swiping away!

Sunshine:, Mr SAS sounds interesting, loved the rules of engagement, I still have no idea what I am doing on match, but hey ho its early days!

Mr Peru was understanding and appreciated the honesty and said to keep in touch, Mr Mill has responded and we are talking tonight at 8pm, he lives in the same town as me whereas Mr Peru was about 40 minutes drive, is it sad I am prioritising travelling distance?

Have great Thursdays......I have just completed first Zumba class and I was absolutely bloody hopeless - but smiled all the way through!

@Matched Sounds promising - will it be a phone call? I get freaked out by phone calls as I'm so unused to actually speaking to people these days! It does feel a bit more 'intimate' though than texts.

I don't think you have to have an idea what you're doing at this stage...as long as you are honest with people, as you have been, then you are free to have some fun and see who's out there

Matched I think travelling distance is a consideration, so no it's not wrong.

Man I thought you liked her, too - hopefully your second date will be better.

I've just bought a suitcase for my weekend away (in Europe) - am more excited now!

Oh I like her, but not really in a "want to rip her clothes off" way atm. I felt that with Mrs LongBlondeHair...

See, I never get the 'want to rip his clothes off' after one date. Most first dates I've been on I've come away thinking "that went ok, nice guy but not sure there was any chemistry", yet all (bar one) have led to further dates and have developed so maybe the other party sees something I don't! I need to get to know someone a bit before I decide I want to rip clothes off!

I think I'm a grower!

@ sunshine...yes it is a phone call, I am calling him so feel a bit more in control, guessing if it goes well I will ask him out or vice versa...if not back to have a look on match!

I was thinking about speed dating as I want the butterflies and I can't get them via a photo.......anyone tried this?t

Manforallseasons can I ask what OLD site you use? Also are there any big no's I should be aware of? I get plenty of views but only about 20% then wink / favourite / message so wondering what is putting them off?

sunshine I don't either, but did with Mrs LongbBlondeHair, and my FWB...

Yes, she might be a slow burn, hence the second date.

Matched I'm on pretty much all of them!

A big nose (no's?) would put me off --

I'm happy to look at your profile, I've (hopefully) helped a couple of the ladies on here - fell free to PM me.

Hi everyone, I’m back dating again. Is it really ok to date more than one person as I’m feeling very torn. I had a first date last night and he was lovely, very keen, but I had arranged a date for tonight with someone else before he came along. Now I’m not sure if I should go...... any advice? I have hidden my profile now as dealing with two men is proving hard enough.

Hi Man, thanks for offering, it's just as soon as I see a man with a pint of beer taking up most of the picture, no top on, wearing a costume, sunglasses, a view of up his nostrils I think no way hose!

Are you offering to read my profile or are you able to look at pics too...not quite sure how you can do this? Anyhow I'll start my trying to copy stuff in a PM. Thanks again.

@help.....I am super new to this but I would keep your options open, knowledge is power and the more you know what you want and don't want the better decision you will be able to make ..... and the greater chance for happiness!

Matchedandmuddled I've been speed dating. It was fun, a bit crazy but didn't lead to any dates for me.

I think a 20% hit rate of messages and likes is about normal. Doesn't mean there's anything wrong with your profile. And Match is very slow compared to POF.

@myoldbrain, thanks for info, why is match slow compared to POF do you think? How are you getting on with dating? I like the sound of crazy so may give speed dating a go.....I have plenty of friends but everyone is married and have little sage advice to provide me with.

Things still going well currently with my two irons (for now)

MrC called me last night for a chat. He sounds lovely and we've arranged a date for our next childfree day in Easter holidays.

Have my date with MrNorth tonight 😯 really not sure what to expect of this, not sure if we have anything in common but my god do i fancy him 😉😁

Hi All

I'm off to Morocco tomz, so will be off the thread for a week

Things are going really well with MrGardener and when I get back I'm going to change my attitude about not over investing and just go for it! I think I've been a bit distracted with MrWow and his declarations of love so we mutually agreed to block each other, long story but that's the gist of it. MrGardener and I just click, he's tall dark and handsome, the right amount of silly and serious and I miss him when he's not here. The first bloke in 2 yrs of OLD that I could see myself living with in the future!! And I don't say that lightly. . But as we all know here, anything could happen so I'm not going to get complacent.

Lovely to hear such positive news from @focus2019 and @batshitcrazywoman - so happy for you both!
@man4allseasons are you on Match? I could do with an honest opinion on my apparently very unappealing profile if you'd be so kind?
In my world, a Fab potential turned from Mr Safety Check to Mr Married And Wasn't Going To Tell You so that was a total no go. Met Mr Mint this morning, also Fab, nice social and I'd see him again. I can't move for potential Fab FWBs but on Match it's tumbleweed all the way. It's hard not to feel dejected about it.

@toooldforthis67 that sounds so exciting! And gives me hope for my own Mr Gardener date on Friday

tooold great update. Think that’s the right decision re Mr Wow! Enjoy your hol

man4all was it you who was going to upgrade your FWB to a relationship? If so have you decided against?