Dating thread 154 - in which beards are encouraged.

[Crustaceans]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Link to previous thread:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3543468-dating-thread-152-onwards-and-upwards

Sunshineandflipflops thank you. But that's how it is for me on OLD.
I rarely get matches or any replies to messages.

I've had a series of one date wonders for the past 2 years.

Wow jesuis what a great few dates!

I struggle to find anyone’s conversation interesting after a day. I have now been old for 2 full months and have only really been interested in 3 guys. I have had other dates but more to distract myself. 1 of the ones I enjoyed messaging turned into a nutter and one was far too short in real life

@kerkyra

No drummer,why waste her time,he isn't engaging in conversation!

No, I appreciate that but it is totally set-up for a witty/sarcastic/withering riposte

@Sunshineandflipflops How do you all find the time to go on so many dates?!

I only do 2 or 3 a week if I'm lucky. Some weeks none at all. STBXH does his share of having DD overnight and I'm lucky to have a wonderful DM who although she doesn't quite under why I can't meet a nice young man in the supermarket/library/on the school run is happy to babysit for me once a week.

although she doesn't quite under why I can't meet a nice young man in the supermarket/library/on the school run is happy to babysit for me once a week.

😂

I think I have got too used to my own space and have told MrSAS hat I’m not looking to fill every child-free day/evening with a man!
I find dating emotionally exhausting and couldn’t handle more than one first date every two or three weeks but I am
In awe at those of you who do!

MrDrummer he is engaging in conversation now....sort of.
He's trying to defend his laziness in not replying to my original message. He admitted it was laziness. But says he is usually polite and courteous.

Shamelessly marking place
Just going to catch up on all the latest. Might take me a while this thread sure moves fast

@MyOldBrainStoppedWorking

Good for you. Tbh his laziness is probably pretty indefensible!

Update on date
Nothing wrong with Mr Games at all
But ...
Nothing really right either
☹️

Meet him tonight??! haha, I don't know shit,but when I get like this I can hardly sleep the night before

myth will you see him again?

Not sure - there is certainly no potential for a relationship :(

@JeSuisPrest hard, but what a positive situation to be in!

I am meeting MrFox tomorrow for a night on the town... on a Thursday! He has work on Friday but insists that we make the most of my child free nights. Hopefully I won't get too drunk and let my mouth run away with me.
He's also finally very politely asked if I would like to stay at his afterwards. Hell yes!

I also plan to ask him if he is dating or chatting to others. I am so not prepared for the answer, but I need to know.

Morning daters! Just bookmarking. I had a glorious 10 hours sleep which I really needed after my shaggathon Tuesday

@Mythologies what happened? I had high hopes for you! Hope you're not too disappointed 😕.

Morning Miracle Thank for positive thoughts.
Nothing happened - had a nice enough evening and we chatted - just that he is a bit of a drip really.
No vibes at all :(

Maybe nerves though? Myth I'm always really nervous on the first date. Even now 😂.

@30somethingandsingle I'm firmly of the opinion that knowledge is power and we can deal with most things as long as we have all of the facts. Not knowing and feeling unsure is a horrible feeling and leads to overthinking and anxiety. From what you've said about him so far, he seems like a pretty straight up guy. 🤞

@Marlboroandmalbec34 You can really go off some people... so jealous 😂👍

@30somethingandsingle Do you need to borrow sunshine's tote shag bag? 😳

@JeSuisPrest I am actually going to buy my own tote bag today 😂😂

Oh Myth that's a shame. It could be nerves though - did he mention another date? Would you go on another date with him?

30 exciting. But definitely ask him - I agree with JeSuis that knowing is better than uncertainty.

I am now going away for a weekend for my birthday with Mr BC. Which is in a month's time 😳 I really enjoy being with him and so I'm going with the flow and will see how things go over the next few months ... Seeing him on Saturday and am really excited. Even though I only saw him on Tuesday ...!