You have described this man’s abuse of you in three other threads.
I have been utterly deceived and betrayed in the most wickedest of ways. I REALLY want him to face the consequences of what he has done. I am determined to end my marriage. He is a controlling and abusive conman...with evil undertones...selfish and cruel.
Those were your comments two weeks ago. What happened? Has he again conned you? You had already filed on grounds of adultery and unreasonable behavior. You had the proof that OW had been H’s long-term mistress, and you had recently sent this evidence to her husband to use in their upcoming divorce.
After discovery, H was still conniving and duplicitous. At one point, he came downstairs to tell you he had chosen you after having just secretly messaged OW to say he had chosen her. He actually did move into her 5 bedroom home with 4 cars, but wanted to move her into your home. He said he felt energized with her. He planned for you and the children to move to a smaller home around the corner.
You were outraged at his treachery with the woman you viewed as your “sister, best friend, and the children’s aunt,” with whom you shared Christmases, holidays, day trips, overnights at home, family events, and his PHD graduation. As she was an honorary family member, theirs was essentially an incestuous relationship that began when your younger child was in utero or newborn.
You actually suspected something as far back as 2014, but dismissed it. H and OW were always sitting together on the sofa, starting diets/hobbies together, and making decisions about your home while ignoring you. She would weigh herself in her bra and thong in front of him, but you didn’t think he was the type to “look and chase.” He was having sex with both of you.
In 13 years he has never told you he loves you, and he is never outwardly affectionate. When his daughter tells him she loves him, he refuses to respond that he loves her. Can you imagine how that makes her feel?
He physically assaulted you in October for an innocuous comment about the house that he heard you make to his mother. He tightly grabbed your forearms, and slammed you into the wall, pinning you there and glaring icily. You were terrified and your daughter may have seen the attack when she ran down the hall to tell you both to stop fighting. When you were able to break away, you ran to the car and tried to back out, but he blocked you. You didn’t lock the door, so he reached in and took away your keys.
In that thread, you said, “I felt like he detached a long time ago, but I am the sort of person that will bury their head in the sand, hate confrontations, and allow others to walk all over me. It’s my weakness. I haven’t felt loved by him.”
OP, he is still the same “conman...with evil undertones” who cheated on you in your own home and treated you contemptuously for 7 years. The same emotionally twisted narcissist who has never told you or your children that he loves you. The same abuser who attacked you last fall, possibly in the presence of your child.
Please pull your head out of the sand. Saying he is cruel and untrustworthy is a huge understatement. Do you really want to further damage your children by exposing them to this toxic environment? You are sabotaging your future and theirs.