Dating thread 153- The adventures of... [Title edited at OP's request]

[30somethingandsingle]

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I would be going out with men in their 70s. Eughhhh,

I think age depends on the person. Stbexh is almost a decade younger than Mr Enthusiastic and is just a grumpy old man in comparison. Mr Enthusiastic just seems to have more energy and a more positive outlook on life. But I do wonder if sex with a man in his 50s is different

@ccgirr

Hold up a second. You have just found out the guy's age yet you have already discussed the maximum collective child head count?!?

Back on pof for some rebound chats and got a twenty five year old asking me to have a night with him and also chatting to a dad at my sons school. Could be awkward!

I'm 50. Feeling it a bit tonight. Mr Unsuitable is 35. Hence Unsuitable. My age is set 47-55 but his age is wrong on tinder. I never thought I'd get on with anyone younger than about 45. However it does make me feel old. He talks about when he has children. And has such freedom.

I'm a bit maudlin tonight too. In his bed after a marathon session. I want it to be more than just sex. But the sex is so good.

25yr old has just messaged 'let yourself go,i promise you will enjoy it'. bloody hell,i've never done this sort of chat before. need to block!

got a date with school dad,he's a bit rough around the edges but I like that...and no sex talk thank god

@kerkyra That was quick work! Go you!

Lol drummer we’ve been dating 6 months 🤣 I’m a bit ditzy and was only when he told me iPad code that realized it was his dob and sunk in. I was thinking he was turning 49 and that didn’t seem so major.

Stealth- no concerns there though I don’t think multiple times in one sitting is on the cards like someone described the other night. Don’t tell me things will change soon?

Peanuts he still wants kids?

@ccgirr If he told you his iPad code, then surely it must be true love?!?

ccgirr I don't know I haven't dtd with him so have no idea if things will change - Just having a date is difficult as we both have such busy lives.

I'm joining you all in a group dating wallow. I can't even talk about it right now. Watching legally blonde, drinking wine and eating a cream cake. Fuck it

Stealth think that’s reality at an age where both have baggage. Makes it tough!

Drummer- love it! If only it were that easy to tell. Complicated as I’m not divorced yet. Feel that makes him hold back. Whenever we discuss ex and divorce he always says if that’s path I want to take as if I’m going to change my mind. I didn’t really expect things to work so quickly but trying to still not over invest and take things as they come. L word is in my mind though

peanut I hate to be the voice of doom but if he is younger and wants kids etc is it really wise for you to be investing in getting him to stay? Sorry not been judgemental just wonder if it’s worth looking at the long term if your life goals are not the same.

@ccgirr It's quite heartwarming to hear the L word mentioned. It doesn't get much of a look-in on here, compared to all the swearing and OLD misery. Good for you and I hope it works out.

Have been reading everyone’s posts but again too much to respond to all!Just wanted to send hugs to all those having a down day and say welcome to unicorn👋

@Marlboroandmalbec34 you're totally right and I'm living in cloud cuckoo land. J think I've been pretending I'm 20 years younger. To myself not him I don't look that young....

I know it can't be a LTR but I guess I've got swept up in it. I thought I could enjoy it for a few months at least but it's starting to feel a bit daft. If I told you all the other Unsuitable things about him you'd agree. Ah I like him though.....

Should do a sweepstake on how long before I'm back in the apps......

The guy I am dating is 49 and I’m 40. No complaints here...never met a man with as much stamina!

His kids are also older, which I prefer, although he might get fed up with mine being a bit younger and I am more restricted than him with free time.

peanut hope I didn’t put you in a funk before bed but i saw this in real life. A women in her late 40s who had a fling with a guy in his 20s. They fell in love bought a house etc. He NEVER wanted kids. 10 years on she has grankids, he is desperate for a baby. They love each other but they are kind of miserable

I have 2 kids and defo don’t want more. I swipe left on anyone on bumble who says they want kids as it’s non negotiable for me but I wouldn’t want long term someone to resent me for that.

You cannot help who you like though!

It’s sleepover night with Mr Big..hoorah. I am going to be skipping all day. Yes I am a fool

My last relationship was with someone 8 years younger than me. The age gap didn't make any difference to us.

However I noticed a huge drop off in interest on OLD once I turned 50. It's like having a 5 at the front suddenly makes you undateable. So many man, even those in their 50s, have a maximum age of 49.

I'm not wallowing, he's told his mum about me and we haven't even DTD yet.

Thanks drummer 🤞🏻
Peanuts- I agree with Marlboro If it was me I’d get hurt. Marlboro why a fool? Think is normal to look forward otherwise why bother!
Sunshine- agreed no two second wonders lol. Older and younger kids so always interesting!
Hope everyone feeling a bit brighter this morn x

Anyone else read the Daily Mails article on new term cloaking ?

Annoyed by all the comments that say that the person was unreasonable in being upset at being stood up. 😡. Shocked that they think it's ok to arrange to meet someone and then not even bother to tell them that the date is off! That is just part of modern dating and to get over it. Jeeez.

Haven’t seen it but Daily Mail
Readers are a whole different breed (sorry if I’ve offended anyone)...

Are you ok supercali ?

Yes supercali hope you’re feeling better.