Dating thread 153- The adventures of... [Title edited at OP's request]

[30somethingandsingle]

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6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
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Gloomy post from me too.
Doubting myself quite a bit this evening. Am I ready for a relationship? I don't quite know. I think I'm just maybe overthinking as MrFox is the only man I've had any desire for a 'proper' relationship with. Is it because he is the first decent iron I've given a chance? He's handsome, kind, appears honest, is a gentleman and quite honestly makes me a bit weak at the knees. Messages just the right amount at the right times and makes me smile a lot.... so why am I fighting the urge to self sabotage?!!

Ladies we are all worth it. It's a numbers game,

The first I guy dated on OLD I cried when I got home as he wasn't my narcissist ex

The second lied about stupid things

The third went on holiday kept me waiting but forgot to tell me he had a girlfriend and the last one...

Well he stalked me.

And I'm still hopefully 😂😂😂

Uh oh mr BoringTeaMan hasn’t quite got the hint I’m not interested. He keeps trying to make small talk which I know will just be dull

But how do we find them?
I'm getting nothing on POF as usual. And I've had 2 matches on Tinder. One who just said no thanks. And one who's gone quiet.
Zero matches on Bumble.

@shitwithsugaron For the purpose of that statement, hairyarse and myself will be honorary women!

On a slightly better not Mr Chalk ‘n’ Cheese and I seem to be back to normal flanter after an iffy few months

pof do the speed dating evenings?

Twice now I've deleted my accounts on tinder and bumble and logged back in using my email address.

I often move the area slightly and age. Just to see what's out there.

Oh god help! Somehow managed to bag a meet up with mr TeaMan. Not keen feel like I need to get out of this not sure how though

@MyOldBrainStoppedWorking Genuinely, I think it’s luck if you find one. They are out there - it’s just not necessarily easy finding one that is going to be alright for you (and hang them agree).

I think that might be true on or offline though.

@StealthNinjaMum

There must be loads of other men around like them

I am one-of-a-kind, stealth

@mrdrummer you're probably right

I just remembered, I did used to have a bearded pic for profile pic and still got zero interest.

That doesn't mean you shouldn't try it again. Send it to us for a critique.

I’d happily join in the drinking but had such a big night Friday I don’t thunk I could stomach it. Interested in what you guys think about age gaps. Had a shock moment today when I realized my mr engineer is going to be 50 on his birthday. I’m 42. I’m sure he told me he was 48 originally but yet I do remember him saying 1969 so maybe it is just my bad maths. His ex’s were younger too but somehow I just got a shock. Am I being stupid. I know it’s just a number

@ccgirr I don't think 8 years is such a big difference, is it just because he's soon to turn 50?
MrFox will turn 40 this year and I'm 31, so similar age difference and I haven't really given it a second thought.
Age IS just a number.

Yeah 30 it was exactly that. He has 2 older girl’s and eldest has child so was a shock when I first heard him being called grandad. He waited a few dates before telling me as has 2 young ones too and then today the number 50 hit me. It’s just me overthinking I’m sure- we’ll hope I’m sure 🤣

@ccgirr Half his age plus 7, I thought the general rule was, so you are well within that limit.

Wow really mr drummer?!? So 32 his ideal?!? I’m shocked

I think that's a minimum rather than an ideal...

Bloody hell hope that’s not every mans ideal? I would have to start dating 60 year olds!!
I have set my age limits as 7 years younger 12 years older. Tbh I don’t fancy men more that 5 years younger as they are in a different life stage I find

Ha Marlboro I agree 🤣🤣🤣

It's a stupid "socially respectable" minimum that someone thought up. I am roughly the same age and I think much more than 8 or 9 years below might feel a bit awkward tbh, plus you are getting into the "might still want to squeeze out one last child" territory.

I set my age as my age and up to 12 years older. More chance of them already having children (and therefore not wanting more, as I categorically, don't!).
I have also just always preferred older men.

Thanks drummer that’s good to hear. We have already agreed neither of us wants more- 6 between us! You’d think It would help me feel more confident but still doesn’t! Can probably thank past relationships for that!