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Dating thread 153- The adventures of... [Title edited at OP's request]

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30somethingandsingle · 04/04/2019 15:10

Dating thread rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Link to previous thread:
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OP posts:
Candace19 · 08/04/2019 07:22

@Deadsouls I've had a catalogue of strange requests and it's only been a week! To highlight the most bizarre - someone that wanted me to flirt with other men to make him jealous & one that was desperate to have a baby & wanted to impregnate me before the week was out 🙈

wishywashy6 · 08/04/2019 07:22

@Deadsouls I once had a man dressed (badly) as a woman sending me pictures of himself inserting various household items up his arse and asking if he could be my sissy 🤔
He was probably about the strangest!

Sunshineandflipflops · 08/04/2019 07:35

Well I had a solid 9 hours sleep last night after going to bed aching everywhere possible and feel loads better.

I’m not sure how many marathon sex sessions I can endure but he said yesterday that what we need is a whole day where we can just have sex solidly 😳😂

WarIsPeace · 08/04/2019 07:36

Blimey wishy you win. Or at least, I hope you win because I don't want to beat that.

MyOldBrainStoppedWorking · 08/04/2019 07:41

wishy I think I've come across the same bloke. Or maybe there's more than one of them!!
Sent me photos of him modelling different shoes including a pair of women's sandals. Then followed with photos as described by wishy. He was blocked.

Think I'm just going to wait and see if last night's date gets in touch. Might drop him a text this evening if I've still heard nothing.

ItsAMiracle2015 · 08/04/2019 07:49

@HairyArsedMan is your profile too serious or wordy? I tend to swipe left on the profile that are essays and don't have any humour in them 🤷.

@MyOldBrainStoppedWorking I'd wait and see if he messages. You don't sound overly keen anyway so no loss if he doesn't message.

BatshitCrazyWoman · 08/04/2019 08:15

Yay wishy for the hotel date! Deadsouls all of us here have had something similar happen -- it's a crazy world, OLD. It is not your fault.

I also slept well 😉 and next date is planned. Am going to hang around here if that's okay, because I'm well aware it could all go tits up before the next date!

HairyArsedMan · 08/04/2019 08:19

@ItsAMiracle2015 It's impossible to be wordy on Tinder/Bumble. It's too long definitely on PoF, Match but not overly serious.

likeridingabike · 08/04/2019 08:47

Candace19 I had that, a bloke who wanted me to flirt with other men and tell him about it, he had been single for a long time after his wife's affair which made it even weirder. Nice looking, good job otherwise very eligible.

ItsAMiracle2015 · 08/04/2019 08:48

I had a guy that wanted to have sex, but I should continue dating to find a boyfriend who would then watch me and this guy have sex. Ha. All sorts online.

wishywashy6 · 08/04/2019 08:50

@WarIsPeace ha I'm not sure I'm so proud to win that title!! 😂
At the time I was with a load of army guys (my best friend is married to a major in the army and we were at an event with them) it was fancy dress and there were lots of them dressed as Freddie Mercury in the ' I want to break free' video. They began some weird picture exchange with him, think he thought it was his lucky night! 🙈

Mythologies · 08/04/2019 08:58

Morning all.
Well - Mr Games has not come back this morning Sad
That lasted all of a day and a half.
Oh well ...

ItsAMiracle2015 · 08/04/2019 09:05

Mythologies what's the story with Mr Games?

Mythologies · 08/04/2019 09:11

No story - thought someone had finally responded to my profile (which I had transferred from GSM to PoF so that you guys could advise.
Only response that seemed to be going anywhere in all the months I have been OLD.
Lasted a day and a half
And there I was planning my outfit for meeting him ...
Hope everyone else is having more luck.

ItsAMiracle2015 · 08/04/2019 09:20

Mythologies has he just not replied to you? Mr Guitarist and I are struggling to even find a day that we're both free to meet. It's looking like it's not going to be for 2 weeks, which is a bit shit. Plus I've not been online since we started talking but a lot can change in 2 weeks. And he's definitely still talking to others. It's hard this 😕.

Mythologies · 08/04/2019 09:24

Miracle Last night he was going out and he said 'speak soon' rather than 'speak tomorrow'
Over thinking? Not me - Oh no
Here's holding out that you and Mr Guitarist get to meet.

ItsAMiracle2015 · 08/04/2019 09:26

I think you might be overthinking 😂😂. Nothing to suggest he's ghosted. I wouldn't message though and just wait to see if you hear from him. It's only 9:25 😉.

kerkyra · 08/04/2019 09:28

Oh mythol it's so hard isn't it. Keep your chin up and hope he is just one of these that doesn't message much.

After seeing the village guy Friday and Saturday eve and having some nice snogs back at mine ( he was too shy to go for them on the sofa so both were as he left,by the door) I have decided I really like him. But he has said he wants to be free for a bit but also really likes me.

I said i'm here for him as a friend,a bit of company and maybe a snog or two which he said 'that's good then'. He txt me lots yesterday but I think I need to just move on,dont I. Can imagine him in the pubs at the weekend and txting me late at night asking if i'm in. I can't do that.

Maybe I just need to wait till things settle his end and just be friends in the meantime?

bat,you seem to have the feels?! This is really lovely...are you still swiping or just concentrating on this one.

Hairy arse you come across so well on here,with a great sense of humour. Hoping you get lots of matches soon

JeSuisPrest · 08/04/2019 09:30

@Mythologies Don't overthink it, he could just be busy. I think we're all a bit guilty about thinking our irons are invested as we are, especially if it's one that's standing out from the crowd or your only iron. I sometimes think one at at time is the way to go, but if it dies a death for whatever reason it can leave you feeling pretty cut adrift and having to start again.

@likeridingabike reminds me of the cuckolding banker I had a date with.

Had a lovely 4 hr chat with MrCornish last night. Apparently my photos and personality don't match and I'm not like he thought I would be at all 🤔 I look 'posh' in my photos, which I assured him I'm not (I'm not wearing a tiara or holding a Waitrose carrier bag). I shop in Aldi and threw up on my bosses shoes at the Christmas party. So we're going stay in touch and try to arrange a meet up soon.

ItsAMiracle2015 · 08/04/2019 09:34

I feel like we could be friends JeSuisPrest 😂😂. I matched on tinder this morning with someone who I swiped right to like a week ago. I think I may have to keep my options open as I don't want to be heartbroken in a week's time still going to marry Mr Guitarist eventually though.

Mythologies · 08/04/2019 09:39

Jesuis that sounds good :)

Peanuthedz · 08/04/2019 10:08

@HairyArsedMan thread beard fetish 🤣

@30somethingandsingle Don't see it as overinvesting, see it as investing. No risk no reward. It all sounds good (not envious about height hands and red hair at all)

@Deadsouls It's a very steep learning curve. My first OLD was an utter disaster. I broke every rule on here (hadn't moved on from AIBU...) and totally overinvested and when we met he was soooooo creepy. Felt a total idiot too. Because he was clearly creepy from his messages!

I've never had an exclusive chat. But I've only been exclusive with two people. First I was banned from tinder (don't ask it was for very boring reasons) and he knew that and I was his first OLD experience so we knew we were exclusive. It was alluded to vaguely.

With Mr Unsuitable i just told him "if you fuck anyone else then you're not fucking me". Had to be direct his English isn't great. That was after second sleepover. He agreed.

I've found that actually most men are exclusive. Most of us don't have the emotional energy to be sleeping with lots unless there's no connection.

JeSuisPrest · 08/04/2019 10:09

@HairyArsedMan I think your POF profile is brill, but def try and get an couple of beardy pics on there if you can 😉

Peanuthedz · 08/04/2019 10:09

@HairyArsedMan oh let's see your profile. Pleaseeeeee

MrDrummer · 08/04/2019 10:22

@JeSuisPrest I think what Mr. Cornish means is that you look classy in your photos, to which I would concur :)

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