Dating thread 153- The adventures of... [Title edited at OP's request]

[30somethingandsingle]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Link to previous thread:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3543468-dating-thread-152-onwards-and-upwards

@candace19

@wishy washy what on God's earth is a 'sissy'?

Okay I want to respond personally to all but I keep forgetting who said what!

So thanks for sharing your experiences of first time OLD. It seems I'm not unusual in this respect! Ultimately even though it does hurt a little, it is all experience. And I do feel ready to take that risk.

@mythologies I resonate with that feeling of anxiety. I guess there's nothing to alleviate it, except not to message as that will probably make it worse! Leave it for a bit.
Said from a fellow over-thinker

mythologies some people are just terrible at staying in touch - I’m one of them. I frequently lose my phone or leave it at home when I’m out. I hope your iron gets in touch soon as I know it’s shit waiting for someone to contact you.

hairyarsedman a beard you say? You definitely need to announce it to the world. But can you groom it nicely first? I don’t understand the lack of swiping. Do you live in a really remote country area or the top of a mountain? If you’re showing your profile to anyone can I have a look too?

myoldbrainstoppedworking I was probably like your date last week - nervous, serious, talked about myself too much. I was better on my second date so assuming there are no obvious red flags personalitywise I would send him a text saying it was nice to meet.

ItsaMiracle2015 two weeks? That’s great, gives me extra time to plan my wedding outfit. I don’t really suit pastels so if you could get married in November or January I can justify wearing a darker, more wintry outfit.

Wowzers I just love this thread. What a lovely supportive bunch!

I was wondering last night if anyone has found their Iron on here? I mean realised they were actually dating in real life both asking for advice here and then it’s become clear they had been dating each other!

I have got me some new irons on bumble and arranged a date for Friday eve with Mr Senior. Seeing Mr Big for sleepover Tuesday. I am going to keep seeing him, I am not going to have a chat but I am going to keep dating others to protect myself from the investing.

I am going to stop messaging folk on fab though. I want to find proper dates not “meets” and “socials” I don’t want a Ltr but I would like someone to take me out when I am childfree

I was wondering last night if anyone has found their Iron on here?

Pretty sure that would be the end of that!... Realising that Mr Smallknob was oneself!

Marlboro I think that’s a good idea I was surprised people use fab as a dating thing when it’s openly a swing site?!?

@Marlboroandmalbec34 last year I met a fwb on here

MrDrummer you could be right! But really you could be someone’s Iron...Ever read details and thought “wonder if that’s me?”

Would be awful if named mr Smallknob or Mr shortarse or Mr Boring though.

One of the guys here...I think hairy was using initials at one point and my initials matched and I kept seeing it and panicking it was me - but it defo wasn’t 😂

😂😂 @MrDrummer

I don't think they'd last long with that name.

Oh I wouldn't dare use initials @marlboro. I feel extremely nervous about disclosing on here. I am amazed in general at the frankness, though it does seem you only do it to the knobs ;)

I did actually have a date yesterday. I cannot disclose more but she was cool in a good way.

If I ever get round to that profile revamp I will pass on @StealthNinjaMum and @PeanutHedz. I live in a major conurbation in the middle of the country and have a 15 mile radius, so numbers are not the issue.

@Marlboroandmalbec34

But really you could be someone’s Iron...Ever read details and thought “wonder if that’s me?”

Yeah, I my ears prick up whenever someone says their iron is incredibly good looking, witty, intelligent, etc. :D

Err .. had a date I mean.

Discussion topic: income on profiles, yes or no. I feel it's kind of pointless except maybe to hint at employment role and to maybe match up on lifestyle (though that's all about disposable income, which is a different matter for your average parent).

@HairyArsedMan

Sorry mate, everyone is too invested in you to let you off the hook that easily! C'mon, we need more deets!

Hi all. Still keeping up with you all.

Didn't hear anything further from Saturday date - not really surprised. With hindsight we probably didn't have much in common although was pleasant enough afternoon 🤷‍♀️

Anyway MrNorth is still in touch and date for Thurs evening still currently going ahead. I don't really know what to expect, not sure of we'll have much in common but my god he is so dam fit 😯

Have picked up another iron at weekend too who I shall call MrC. We have a lot in common and he makes me laugh but his photos aren't great. Hoping he just doesn't take a very good photo like me 😉 he's also only same height as me (I'm tall) but would mean id be taller in heels. Anyway he's asked me out so we just need to find a mutual childfree day to do that.

@Neverexpected2

he's also only same height as me (I'm tall) but would mean id be taller in heels.

What if he has bigger heels than you?!?

ccgirr so many of the guys who are looking for ltr on bumble and tinder are also on fab. I am still loving fab at times as it’s v funny but going to try more non sex dates!

Haha hairy I was about to argue with you that we don’t name our irons for their knobs and then I remember how Mr Big got his name 😂

hairy I would be really put off by income on profile

I would die if any of my Irons had been on here or if I had been mentioned and not realised 👀

Information needed HairyArsedMan. It's because we made you put your height on isn't it?

Hairy details- pretty please
No sign of Mr Games. Thanks for positive comments, but reckon just fizzled out. ☹️

MrDrummer it won't be a problem if he has bigger heels than mine - as I would not be seeing him again 😉😂

Do not put your income on your profile! Tasteless! I don't care what you earn.

There are people who hint st it with job and location. Nope. Don't care.

Mind you I currently have no income. Which then would make me look like a gold digger.

Me too lifegoes
The speed we swipe and get through irons there really has to be some overlap though 😂

neverexpected see I had a date with someone who said they were the same height. He was actually shorter than me by a few cm and I wore tiny heels and towered over him. He was a nice enough guy but I could not fancy him..hope your guy hasn’t added a few cm on!

Mr Big is on fab and tinder His height is slightly different on each. I called him out on it, he reckons he doesn’t know so I am gonna measure him on Tuesdays 😂

@HairyArsedMan You dark horse 🐎. Spill.

@Mythologies start swiping again as soon as you can.

Income on profiles is a no from me. As are photos of your car, and I'm not really interested in pics of pets unless the guy is also in them.

mythologies they do just fizzle out. I am the worst for letting them fizzle out. People have busy lives..he may come back later. I never message any of mine on a weekday morning as I am getting kids sorted/ working/ posting here 😂