Dating thread 153- The adventures of... [Title edited at OP's request]

[30somethingandsingle]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Link to previous thread:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3543468-dating-thread-152-onwards-and-upwards

mythologies you won't learn anything from me,i have no idea what i'm doing!

@ItsAMiracle2015 Of course but it's about figuring out someones intentions which is probably what he's doing. You're going to be more hurt if it doesn't work out and you've already dtd'd - at least I do.

I get you rich, it's the fast turn around of people and people disposing willynilly. I need that emotional connection first these days

@user1466783975 he sounds like my mr Unsuitable in many many ways... and he turned out to be very suitable indeed.

On so I caves an I'm back on pof as of today. Wish me luck

@30somethingandsingle how about go for a walk? You can have a really good snog on a walk... and then suggest going home to take things further. Def not bowling. No sex there. Please.

30something what number date is this? I think I've missed something 🙈😂.

I'm seeing mr Unsuitable tomorrow evening. We'll be having a chat about what he's going to do. Not messaged since yesterday morning. Feels like it all got a bit intense and I need a bit of space and I'm sure he does too! If he does say he's leaving the country I'll just have to suck it up.

This will be date 4. I don't want to invest myself much more to find we are incompatible in the bedroom as that is important to me.
I replied 'any of them are good with me, or I'm happy with a takeaway and film'
Now have high anxiety levels until he replies feel like bloody teenager!

This will be date 4. I don't want to invest myself much more to find we are incompatible in the bedroom as that is important to me.
I replied 'any of them are good with me, or I'm happy with a takeaway and film'
Now have high anxiety levels until he replies feel like bloody teenager!

@user1466783975 def. learning ... but am a slow learner - or there is something wrong with me that I haven't worked out.
Another no from me to bowling
Yes to the possibilities of a walk in a park - takes me back to my teenage years ...

Nah date number 4 is perfectly acceptable to be DTD. I'd have asked the same thing. Fingers crossed he agrees 🤞.

peanut,i'm glad your mr unsuitable ticks lots of boxes :)

Good luck surly,send some cheeky messages! My first to date tomorrow was ' oh hello,you look like one of the ones in that band 5'. He said 'why thank you'.
my reply was ' hang on,you don't know if I was on about the ugly one!'

yesterday I sent ' oh hi,i bet you get all the messages,don't be greedy :) '

I know,i'm a bit strange!

He's replied and jumped on the takeaway idea
Phew, can relax now

I like strange user. I think I seek out strange 😂😂😂.

Yay 30 🎉🎉🎉🎉. I thought he might. Probably didn't want to suggest it in case you were horrified 😂😂.

Date 4 is absolutely fine for DTD - wouldn't say that was early. And compatibility is very important.

Yay 30
Great news and fun.

Checking in. Not much dating going on here because life is full up and happy- so placemarking to live vicariously!

Have been musing on attachment theory- makes soooo much sense for Mr Welsh who is my FWB. I am learning lots about being able to maintain emotional distance and it's doing me so much good! Not been this content in a long whle :)

Yay 30 have fun!

Hi all. Still keeping up to date with you all.

I usually chat a few days with someone before arranging a date but as that hasn't panned out to date I've agreed to go for a coffee tomorrow with MrLocal after only exchanging a few messages. What have I got to lose 🤷‍♀️ it's my childfree weekend and I don't have plans tomorrow afternoon.

Been chatting with another for a few days now and on WhatsApp and had arranged a date for Thursday night next week. He's messaged today all fine (in fact he is flirty but respectful) but I've just noticed he's unmatched me on tinder and a message I've just sent on WhatsApp has only one tick so he may have deleted me 🤷‍♀️ if it doesn't go through by tomorrow I'll assume that's the case and I'll have another child free evening spare next week 😉 shame though as he has an amazing body 😂

never is it showing his last seen on WhatsApp?

I've finally done the personality quiz that was in the last thread. Advocate (INFJ-T) apparently. Not read through it but hopefully it's not horrible 🙈😂😂.

neverexpected good luck tomorrow
30 that sounds great
meh I would love to learn how to maintain emotional distance,i'm either all in or out. I hope to dear god i'm not a closet clingy? I'm going to look into it

@30somethingandsingle 👊

Bumble people - I'm having issues with verifying - although my phone camera works just fine, in the app the picture it takes is really dark and it keepa getting rejected. I've complained to them about it and tried everything but no joy! Did anyone else have this problem?