Dating thread 153- The adventures of... [Title edited at OP's request]

[30somethingandsingle]

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6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
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So is date #3 to early to be DTD...? 😳

sunshine I think date 3 is perfect. That's enough to know you like someone. But then sexual compatibility is so important to me. I don't see the point in investing more time and effort and not knowing 🤷

@Sunshineandflipflops it's never too early if it feels right for both of you. There are no rules

I never both verifying batshit so can't help you on that one.

Don't you have to Miracle?

And Sunshine I agree with Miracle it's not too early at all. I don't want to get invested in someone only to find out we're not sexually compatible.

Nope, never had and I've used Bumble for ages. I did go to do the photo verification but it was dark and I was lazy so I just never bothered 🤷.

flipflopsandsunshine just go with the flow, do what feels right for you and most importantly have fun

Those that DTD within 3/4 dates.
Do you have a good gut feeling about having a relationship with them?
That's if your after a relationship be it short or long term.

@30somethingandsingle Yeah baby! 👍😂

So I'm safely ensconced in our Cornish holiday cottage and chatting to a lovely guy I matched with on Tinder. I'd seen him a few times on POF then he disappeared so I never ended up messaging him. The problem with living down here is a 25 mile distance is an hour's drive. He such a sweetheart, really reminds me of MrPlumber with the things he says it he'd actually looking for a relationship. I think this may be a weekend holiday romance where we never meet 😂.

MrStone still thinks he's is getting his leg over on our next date on Thursday. Normally I'd agree because I quite fancy a shag anyway, but not this time. I put him in his place and he said OK, let's still meet for a drink - I may have promised him a snog, but this is real progress for me.

sunshine if it goes well tha man is going to have his face in your fanny - don't worry about nipping to the bathroom in the nuddy. He will not give it a second thought 😂

@unique1986 I am not really the best to answer as since splitting with exH I have just been with fb's/fwb so things move faster than normal as the 'relationship' is based around sex.
MrFox is my first go at heading for a relationship, but I do have a very good gut feeling about him. I just figured that date 1 or 20, if that's all he's after then he'll be gone afterwards and I'd rather only 'waste' 4 dates than 20.

Hurrah 30 I think a lot of men prefer to let the women lead 3rd date pre-dtd so they don't feel pushy or pressuring

JeSuis 😂😂😂 that's what I was thinking, but didn't say!!

unique personally for me it depends on the fella and what potential they have

jesuis yes exactly 😂

Mr Not My Type is like the perfect man, he messages just the right amount, asks how I am, remembers when I’m working and when I’m not and is really lovely. Only issue is I don’t really find him atractive and maybe he’s too nice.

I feel a bit bad that I have 3 irons on the go and none of them know about each other, I’m going to feel like I’m interviewing them for a job when I date them all this week. They are all very different.

That would make him show his hand, shitwith

Be careful it doesn't backfire shitwith, he may think you're telling him you've got the painters in because you only want to see him for some fun time and you're telling him not to come because nothing sexual is going to happen. Some men are not very good at reading between the lines. You need to say something like "I'm on, but I'd still really like to see you on Sunday for a catch up". If he backs out, then you know. 🤷‍♀️ Good luck

shitwith I agree with jeSuis it’s kind of crunch time with Mr Rugby. If he decides not to come over I think you need to know in your own mind that you made it clear you wanted to see him regardless so you won’t be second guessing. I really really hope he comes over

Back again from the really really early threads, tried dating a man turns out he is abusive (I swear I attract them) then after we split I met another man well actually I have known him for around ten years but never really got to know him properly we are attracted to each other so we thought maybe we should go on a date sometime soon we have chatted online and in person but he disappears sometimes just doesn't reply to a message and he never really starts a conversation its always me.....I'm thinking for all his talk he is just not that into me? That it's just not going to happen maybe it really shouldn't happen I dont know really its genuinely not supposed to be this hard to find a decent guy

Ok apologies I missed Sunshineandflipflops overnight bag and bathroom visit anxiety. Short answer: most blokes should have everything in their house (I do, bar the knickers and hair straighteners) and they are really not doing anything but savouring your return from the bathroom !

I’m sorry but I laughed at taking hair straighteners along; I was put in mind of that scene from the Marvellous Mrs Maisel where she surreptitiously removes and reapplies makeup while her husband is sleeping.

shitwith I would push to meet him somewhere else then. Take sex off the table and see if still interested

Hi slippery I am sorry it doesn’t sound great. Do you really want a relationship with someone who disappears and doesn’t reply?