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Dating thread 153- The adventures of... [Title edited at OP's request]

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30somethingandsingle · 04/04/2019 15:10

Dating thread rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Link to previous thread:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3543468-dating-thread-152-onwards-and-upwards

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shitwithsugaron · 05/04/2019 16:13

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Mythologies · 05/04/2019 16:13

Joined PoF so that you wise people could look at my profile - It's hilarious reading some profiles. I particularly liked the 'distinguished gentleman' who seemed to be in Florida Confused and didn't 'deal with any riff raft (sic) or drama.' Is he perhaps on a desert island? Grin

Lovemusic33 · 05/04/2019 16:14

I don’t wear make up unless I have a spot to cover up, maybe a bit of lip stick or gloss and that’s it.

I have a date Sunday with Mr Normal, we are going for a walk and then pub for lunch (if all goes ok). He rides a motorbike, I haven’t told him yet that I hate motorbikes 😐. I then have a date wed with Mr Not my type (just a drink in local pub) and Mr Teacher is obviously on half term and wants to meet for a coffee sometime next week, not sure if I will fit everyone in as kids are home and childcare is scarce.

ItsAMiracle2015 · 05/04/2019 16:15

Thank you shit! Chatting to Mr Guitarist who has last seen off and blue ticks off and wondered if it meant he couldn't see mine...

WarIsPeace · 05/04/2019 16:19

I always wear a bit of makeup but I seem to notice the difference much more than anyone else does. Bit of mascara and blusher would make me feel better but tbh you're likely to look shagged out tired regardless

ItsAMiracle2015 · 05/04/2019 16:20

Wow I need foundation in my life. Unless I'm going to the shop 😂.

MyOldBrainStoppedWorking · 05/04/2019 16:29

After my mad swiping on Bumble last night, I got 5 matches.
Four have expired. Last one is Mr Tattoo who very quickly asked for a date.
Have sort of arranged something for Wednesday but if he doesn't start putting in some effort then I'm cancelling. Sending 'xxx' and emojis with heart eyes is not a 'getting to know your date' conversation.

Child-free week and zero interest! At least the sun is shining.

30somethingandsingle · 05/04/2019 16:30

I asked MrFox if he would like to bring our date forward to tomorrow and he said yes he would love to. Not messaged much else due to both at work so no suggestions as to what to do... still hoping he invites me to his, though I can't stay the night if he does...

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Peanuthedz · 05/04/2019 16:31

Phew... I thought afterwards that line was a bit near the knuckle.

I don't really need makeup as I don't really take it off...

I mean I definitely need makeup. Mascara eyeliner lipstick is always on but it's all long lasting... so I don't need to take much.

I spend an awful lot of time in a swimsuit and hat so I've lost any self consciousness (dignity??) about my body.

user1466783975 · 05/04/2019 17:20

Good luck everyone on dates this weekend.

I look bloody horrific without some slap,i really am aging very fast :/ I remember the ex from last year saying' I bet you were really pretty when you were younger,can you show me some photos'. oh piss off potato head with your deep bellowing voice hmmm

Anyway, date still on for tomorrow but he hasn't really asked much about me at all. Lots of hun and the odd babe. Hopefully he is just very chilled and laid back?

Sunshineandflipflops · 05/04/2019 17:27

@unique1986

@Sunshine

I hope he has a good body! What does he look like btw..

He is he fittest 49 year old I have ever met (fit in all senses) and if the muddy wolf run t-shirt photo on his profile is anything to go by, then yes, he has a good body, hence me not wanting to walk around naked near him!

user1466783975 · 05/04/2019 17:28

I also got a txt from the bloke I was going to have as a fwb,but then I declined as I quite like him ( we dated a few years ago) and he asked if I fancied going to a second world war code museum(oooh yes!) and he doesn't just want sex. So not sure whats going on there

Ant330 · 05/04/2019 17:30

peanut very funny line and very true, that and shitwith's "oh be still my beating vagina" have had me laughing out loud!
All quiet my end just waiting for date 4 on Sunday evening, but with lots of messaging chat and flirting in the meantime. Apps deleted this week, they were an unwanted distraction.

Peanuthedz · 05/04/2019 17:33

I'm loving @user1466783975 with oh piss off potato head.

ItsAMiracle2015 · 05/04/2019 17:38

user do you know anything about him and him anything about you? I have no dates lined up. I'm really liking Me Guitarist. Called me a heightist because of my tinder profile. But he's 6' and swiped right 🤷. Funny. Intelligent. Seems to get my weirdness 😂. Yet, no mention of a possible date? I don't know how you arrange them so quickly? How many days chatting before asking?

LilyRose88 · 05/04/2019 17:47

Just got asked for my dress size and boob size on Tinder. Classy!

user1466783975 · 05/04/2019 17:51

ItsAMiracle I know very little. And that's how I like it these days. As I've had,what, over 40 dates in the last 4yrs and hardly anything comes out of them! I've had three relationships from pof in that time so my thoughts are do not overinvest and ask for a quick coffee/drink. He hasn't asked much about me, but often when I've met men of few words,i get on with them once we've met. I tend to like the builders,sparkies and plumbers so often in their pof profile don't say a hugh deal but in person we can click.

This one lives at home and works in a factory,which are two things last year I would never have gone for. But I don't think i'm in a place for a serious living together relationship so just going to see what happens. Also 12yrs younger than me (this is all so wrong lol). But is local,works hard and see's his two daughters loads so that's good!

With my Guitarist,you have nothing to lose by just saying ' do you fancy a quick drink sometime (or a little strum :) ) .

I unhid my pof profile the other night,37 views yet only 3 messages. none I would fancy.
I think just ask and if says yes,then great. If not,no loss. Good luck

ItsAMiracle2015 · 05/04/2019 17:54

Oh I've way overinvested already. I think because the rest of my conversations are 'u r beautiful hun' and 'hows Ur day going'. So yeah definitely overinvesting 😂😂.

But surely you have deal breakers that you'd want answers to before meeting? Maybe I have so few child free dates the idea of a wasted evening makes me not want to bother 😂😂.

30somethingandsingle · 05/04/2019 17:59

Help!

He's just messaged "drink, meal, cinema, bowling, go for a walk, none of the above? What would you like to do?"

Do I just take it he doesn't want to dtd yet? Or is he being a gentleman? He did suggest having a few too many but I can't as have to drive. How do I tell him I want something a bit more... intimate? Or should I take one of his suggestions instead?

Proper dating is hard, definitely out of my comfort zone!

OP posts:
ItsAMiracle2015 · 05/04/2019 18:00

How about a takeaway at yours? 😉

supercali77 · 05/04/2019 18:05

30something you could say something along the lines of 'Any of the above sound great, i'm also down for a classic Netflix and take out date night'. It gives him the option to jump for that?

richdeniro · 05/04/2019 18:05

At @30 - If I were you I would do an activity date, he clearly is looking for a relationship. I am in that place where I don't want to dtd with anyone for a few dates as I don't want to get hurt and would much prefer to date/get to know someone before.

Mythologies · 05/04/2019 18:06

Envying all the dating activity going on this weekend.
It will be just me and my cats and radio 4 - unless I go round to see my mother ...
Good luck everyone!
I am reading and learning ...

user1466783975 · 05/04/2019 18:06

Ask him to call you? That usually get's rid of the ones who just want to message.

um,deal breakers? well, I have a few faults,like I am glued to my vape pen and my son off 11 has refused to go to his dads tonight,so that leaves just tomorrow night my only free kidfree night for a fortnight!

This one tomorrow is quirky,full of tattoo's and a pic of his tongue piercing...yet i'm quite conservative. I just like kind,absolutely no sexual innuendo's, someone cheeky and confident. Animal lovers too. oh,and I don't want someone who wants to travel,i've done that and want to be homely

ItsAMiracle2015 · 05/04/2019 18:13

rich surely you could still get hurt whether you DTD on date 2 or on date 8?

user that's a good idea. I need to ask him as I don't think he's going to by all accounts. I think I'll ask for the phone call and see what he says. If he avoids it then I at least know I'm not wasting my time hugely overinvesting.