"Joke" on pregnant woman by fiancé

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NC as potentially outing.

Would you find this "joke" funny?

Woman working full time as a nurse on a busy ward is 15 weeks pregnant after a miscarriage earlier in the year and has suffered bleeding and several scares in this pregnancy. SPD, dreadful morning all day sickness and struggling to eat so lost over 14lbs. Just before discovered pregnant had severe gastritis and was treated with IV medication in hospital for a week. Is exhausted, stressed as had to have lots of time off and is really struggling. First child.

After a disagreement over something trivial (shampoo) finance changes every single clock in the house so that she turns up to her afternoon and evening shift an hour early. He had already left for work that morning.

She doesn't find it funny but he thinks it hilarious as do her work mates.

No not funny at all. I'd be really upset

What a tool.

Would I find it funny? Absolutely fucking not. Pregnancy aside I’d be furious.

What a twat.

No. It's not a joke if it's after a disagreement, it's an act of spite. Mean and inconsiderate when he should be being caring and thoughtful (I bet he's not being either). She (you?) could have done with that hour in bed.

Honestly, I think it's horrible. I truly hope he's he generally nicer...

After a disagreement over something trivial (shampoo) finance changes every single clock in the house so that she turns up to her afternoon and evening shift an hour early. He had already left for work that morning

That's not a joke. That's passive-aggressive behaviour by a coward who couldn't handle a disagreement. Especially awful to do this considering what the other person is going through right now.

I suppose it was an April fool's joke. Not very funny or nice but it's probably the diet if thing he does.
I wouldn't be happy, but equally wouldn't be upset or angry about it too long after the event. Anger and upset can be more draining than anything else.

Not only not funny but also cruel and shadowing the ‘laugh’ with work mates is bullying

Who doesn't have the time on their phone? Anyway, No, not funny at all .

Sort of, not diet if.
Should read, before sending.

No. No I wouldn’t at all. It’s not a prank if you do something to someone after a disagreement, it’s an act of malice.

what a childish and unkind pointless thing to do, I don't think I would find it funny, did it happen when the clocks went forward at the weekend?

What a tosser.

What a horrible thing to do

A joke is when everyone is laughing, not when everyone else is laughing at one person. I'd be furious whatever the circumstances. That poor woman.

What a tosser he is.

How did the disagreement over shampoo of all this come about, did he orchestrate that particular row too?.

She could also do with some new workmates if they at all find this funny.

It would be a shitty PA thing to do after an argument even to a non-pregnant partner.

Robbing a woman who is having a stressful high risk early pregnancy of sleep and making her feel like a fool when she is undoubtedly already exhausted? Beyond shitty and I'd strongly advise her to call off the wedding, pointing out to her gently that abuse often starts in pregnancy and it's in stressful moments that people really tell you who they are.

You do not want to be with someone who punishes you with such cruel "jokes" after minor disagreements.

It's sound more like an act of spite than funny - if she was in a better place and hadn't had argument and could see the joke herself perhaps.

It come across as spite and surely undermines trust as a whole in the relationship.

Sorry, straighteners, not shampoo! Don't know where shampoo cane from He kept using her straighteners and burning his forehead and ears. She objected because every time he used them he burnt himself. So he cut off the plug so she couldn't use them either and changed ALL the clocks, including her phone clock, tv, kitchen, everything.

The man is abusive. I hope the woman realises this.

Fiancé is a twat. Even if she wasn’t feeling so ill, struggling AND carrying his child it still would NOT be funny.

We all work as much as we need to, adding an extra hour onto an already exhausting day is awful.

He is going to be a great dad

You are Engaged to a Dickhead. Do Yourself and Your unborn child a favour and get rid. it will only get worse.

God almighty
I hope she is reassessing what her options are in terms of staying with him.
I hope he has redeeming features ..

He sounds like an abusive knob. It makes me sad to think someone is being treated like that.

What a horrible man, PA, nasty, entitled (to keep using something and then destroying something belonged to someone else), stupid (to keep repeating an action and not learning).....just plain horrible man, regardless of state of health of the other person involved. State of health only makes things worse