"Joke" on pregnant woman by fiancé

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NC as potentially outing.

Would you find this "joke" funny?

Woman working full time as a nurse on a busy ward is 15 weeks pregnant after a miscarriage earlier in the year and has suffered bleeding and several scares in this pregnancy. SPD, dreadful morning all day sickness and struggling to eat so lost over 14lbs. Just before discovered pregnant had severe gastritis and was treated with IV medication in hospital for a week. Is exhausted, stressed as had to have lots of time off and is really struggling. First child.

After a disagreement over something trivial (shampoo) finance changes every single clock in the house so that she turns up to her afternoon and evening shift an hour early. He had already left for work that morning.

She doesn't find it funny but he thinks it hilarious as do her work mates.

Leave, op. There is nothing that would stop me that's for sure.

I'm struggling to work out what his friends find funny about it. They sound like a proper bunch of twits.

Hope you begin to feel more comfortable. Pregnancy can be hard at the best of times.

I suppose to some outsiders/his family, the clocks thing might be amusing (though he'd have got an earful from most women I know). I'd struggle to see the humour in the plug-cutting and the clocks together. You might direct him to an advert for a much better pair of new straighteners for him to buy (It's horribly sexist and heterosexist but a presumably straight man using straighteners?).

Pregnancy can bring out the worst in abusive men. You'll know best whether this is a clumsy/thoughtless attempt at humour or something else. Equally, you'll probably be keeping an eye on behaviour in the future and re-interpreting past behaviour.

Not funny, nor ok. Even worse that they still think it’s funny. The cutting of the electric cord is petty, spiteful destruction. I seriously hope the victim of this behaviour gets out before it gets worse. Perhaps the fiancé (damn hope he ain’t no more!) should be given these comments to read.

OP that's just horrible and not in the slightest bit funny. It's controlling and obsessive. Nobody should have to live with a bastard like that

I bet he unplugged the straighteners before he cut the plug off, altering all the clocks even her phone, what a prize twat his family sound pretty pathetic too, is this really the man of your/her dreams. What's he going to do if children annoy him? Dont lower yourself kr stop to his level by retaliating, just ignore it and move on.

I think you've seen the light OP
but wanted to add - this man is horrendous. He must be dumped immediately, if not sooner. I don't want to know what he'd be like as a parent.

I can honestly say that's really upsetting to listen to, let alone go through.

That's no joke

He does sound like a real jerk. The hair straighteners incident sounds particularly bad - but only the girl in question knows how she feels and whether he makes her happy and whether she should stay with him.

Changing the clocks is no better than gaslighting. Cutting the plug off the straighteners so she couldn’t use them is controlling. Emotional abuse is now a criminal offence.

I would be very wary of this man. Definitely LTB.

It upset me to read this. I hope the poor woman has some real life help. If its not you OP, encourage her to post here for support.
He is an utterly vile bully. At least he's a fiancé not a husband. Get rid, he will only get worse

Of course you could cut the plug off his console....... doubtless he will find that hilarious

He's not only and arsehole, he's a stupid arsehole for repeatedly burning himself on the straighteners in the first place.

He didn't do it last Sunday by any chance?

What a prick. I'm completely shocked that so many people in your real lives find this funny.

Maybe a lot of people don't really find it funny. Perhaps he's claiming that they do, or they don't have the full story.

I can guarantee that many of those whose are saying it’s funny or laughing along, don’t actually think so. They’re just going along with the group and don’t want to appear as if they have no sense of humour. His family are probably the type will blame you the first time he hits you. Abuse often starts during pregnancy and gets worse as time goes on.

I’m sorry you’ve lost a pregnancy. 💐 By any chance was there little ‘jokes’ during your first pregnancy too?

I gasped when I read that he'd cut the plug off your straighteners.
for you op

I'm struggling to work out what his friends find funny about it. They sound like a proper bunch of twits.

She said her workmates found it funny not his, which is odd

This is a man who likes to “put you in your place” when you disagree or just don’t conform. I’d be very worried about the damage he’d do to the confidence of growing children.

Awful behaviour worse IMO as he would know how bad the lady was feeling due to her pregnancy seeing it first hand. Very spiteful.

Ex-fiancé, I sincerely hope?

If this is you, OP, please just leave him.

LTB. And before you do put a pint of prawns in his pockets, throw away his work security pass and give his favourite football shirt to the charity shop. Equally hilarious comebacks. Bantz.

I would not stay with such a childish "man"