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"Joke" on pregnant woman by fiancé

165 replies

yetanotherparanoidnamechange · 04/04/2019 13:01

NC as potentially outing.

Would you find this "joke" funny?

Woman working full time as a nurse on a busy ward is 15 weeks pregnant after a miscarriage earlier in the year and has suffered bleeding and several scares in this pregnancy. SPD, dreadful morning all day sickness and struggling to eat so lost over 14lbs. Just before discovered pregnant had severe gastritis and was treated with IV medication in hospital for a week. Is exhausted, stressed as had to have lots of time off and is really struggling. First child.

After a disagreement over something trivial (shampoo) finance changes every single clock in the house so that she turns up to her afternoon and evening shift an hour early. He had already left for work that morning.

She doesn't find it funny but he thinks it hilarious as do her work mates.

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HollowTalk · 04/04/2019 13:22

He cut the plug off her straighteners?
He changed every clock?

I wouldn't live with someone like that. It's not mentally healthy.

HyHyHyena · 04/04/2019 13:23

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colehawlins · 04/04/2019 13:23

Has he admitted to changing the clocks?

There isn't the slightest chance that this was last week and they just didn't get put forward?

TooTrueToBeGood · 04/04/2019 13:24

Calling abuse a joke is on the same level as calling it banter. It's not, it's abuse plain and simple.

Thatnovembernight · 04/04/2019 13:24

The clock thing was shit but I’ve known enough insensitive, thoughtless pricks who would find this funny as an April fools. I’d disagree obviously. But cutting the plug off hair straighteners? That’s straight into very worrying territory. She needs to get out.

Creatureofthenight · 04/04/2019 13:24

He sounds like a total dickhead. I can’t imagine my DH ever doing something so mean.
It would be a nasty thing to do even if she wasn’t pregnant.

whyshouldiworry · 04/04/2019 13:24

I would be worried for the child too. What kind of "little punishments" will a spiteful father have in store for it?

Fabulousinmyforties · 04/04/2019 13:25

The man is abusive. I hope the woman realises this.

^this.

MadameAnchou · 04/04/2019 13:26

He's an abusive cunt.

Original poster
yetanotherparanoidnamechange · 04/04/2019 13:27

Thank you for the replies. It wasn't when the clocks changed or April fools. His family thought it funny too.

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notharryssally · 04/04/2019 13:28

He sounds unhinged.

lottiegarbanzo · 04/04/2019 13:29

He's a vindictive arse. He wants her to be scared of him and his reactions, to 'keep her in line'. Nasty.

eddielizzard · 04/04/2019 13:30

Horrible. Shows complete lack of understanding and empathy.

lottiegarbanzo · 04/04/2019 13:30

Did he tell his family and friends why he did it? As an act of vindictive retribution? Did he tell them he'd vandalised her straighteners?

colehawlins · 04/04/2019 13:31

Dump him.

EstrellaDamn · 04/04/2019 13:31

If this is your partner OP, I hope you're getting rid of him ASAP.

AnneOfCleanTables · 04/04/2019 13:31

In isolation, someone changing all the clocks as a joke could be funny and that's probably why your colleagues and his family are taking it as a joke. But the context changes everything. He did it because he wasn't happy about the straighteners and he took the plug off the straighteners - that's not a joke either.
As an aside, why did you care that he was burning himself? Surely that's his problem.

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yetanotherparanoidnamechange · 04/04/2019 13:31

Yes he did. Gleefully admitted it thinking himself hilarious and clever.

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Bezalelle · 04/04/2019 13:34

I wouldn't believe it had happened, to be honest. Too many chances to see the real time between home and work - phone, public clocks, car clock.

Lichtie · 04/04/2019 13:34

Think I must be the only one that finds the clocks part quite funny, I would definitely do this to DH for a laugh, and he would find it funny. But would have to figure out his phone clock, hope he didn't turn on tv, his car clock... Too much planning.

The cutting plug is a different story

Ninkaninus · 04/04/2019 13:34

Is the woman you?

If it is, you need to get away from this man now. Seriously.

This is abusive. It’s cruel, it’s nasty and it speaks volumes about what kind of man he is. He will ruin your life and that of your child.

When a man tells you who he is, listen.

Whatsnewpussyhat · 04/04/2019 13:34

His family thought it was funny that he cut the plug off the straighteners and made a pregnant women go into work an hour early?

If this was done over something so trivial, I'd dread to think what he would do over a more serious argument.

As others have said, it was pure spite. Putting the woman in her place so she learns not to argue back in future

amusedbush · 04/04/2019 13:34

He is an abusive cunt and if this is your partner, you should leave.

BlackCatSleeping · 04/04/2019 13:34

He's not very nice, is he?

I think you deserve better. Take care of yourself Flowers

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yetanotherparanoidnamechange · 04/04/2019 13:35

Doesn't drive, walks (hobbles) to work. Didn't realise until saw the ward clock and puzzled faces of work mates.

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