"Joke" on pregnant woman by fiancé

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NC as potentially outing.

Would you find this "joke" funny?

Woman working full time as a nurse on a busy ward is 15 weeks pregnant after a miscarriage earlier in the year and has suffered bleeding and several scares in this pregnancy. SPD, dreadful morning all day sickness and struggling to eat so lost over 14lbs. Just before discovered pregnant had severe gastritis and was treated with IV medication in hospital for a week. Is exhausted, stressed as had to have lots of time off and is really struggling. First child.

After a disagreement over something trivial (shampoo) finance changes every single clock in the house so that she turns up to her afternoon and evening shift an hour early. He had already left for work that morning.

She doesn't find it funny but he thinks it hilarious as do her work mates.

LTB pdq.
Thats not funny it is abusive.
Do not let him convince you otherwise.
Nobody does any of those things to a pregnant ill partner and thinks it funny,. He is getting his own back on you for the hair straighteners fiasco. Just because he cannot use them without burning himself he is taking out his inadequacy on you. Putting you firmly in your place.
This will continue if you let it.
It will always be 'your fault for not having a sense of humour/misunderstanding him/making him do it'

He is pathetic and needs to.grow up.

Did your workmates know about the hair straightners too? They arent nice people either. Whats funny about making a person already struggling in pregnancy waste an hour of thier day somewhere they dont have to be?

Pregnancy is when abusive behaviours often start or become overt. Low level at first...

Believe him when he shows that he does not love, cherish & respect you.

This will not get better.

He’s too immature to be a father.

Please don't worry. She's now safe and no longer with him. Thank you for all the kindness and support

Let me guess, he says you’re overreacting and you can’t take a joke? Remember that it doesn’t matter whether other people think his antics are hilarious or not, you are being hurt and upset by his actions.

Please don’t stay with this man. It’s far better to be a single parent than suffer abuse (and he is abusive). You deserve much better than this spiteful, nasty scumbag.

I’m glad to hear that you have left. Please stay safe because he sounds the type to turn on the charm then to make threats. He won’t let you go easily.

Well he’s vile and this is clearly about you so I don’t understand the point of all he and she “disguises” but hou need to leave

I'm glad to read your latest post. This thread was really upsetting to read.

Beware of people who try to disguise abuse as a joke.

This is a mean-spirited man who went out of his way to punish and make a fool of this woman. He is an abuser who enjoys asserting his control and violating her boundaries. He actually feels entitled to her time, energy and possessions. His cruelty shows that he has no empathy for her and how she has suffered.

How will she feel when he mistreats the child? She needs to leave him ASAP.

So he cut off the plug so she couldn't use them either and changed ALL the clocks, including her phone clock, tv, kitchen, everything

Nasty abusive arse. He couldn’t use something properly so destroyed it?

I hope this isn’t you, OP. If it is, leave! If you’re posting about a friend, please support her to leave.

Oops! Was so incensed I didn’t RTFT.

Glad she’s safe.

I'm glad to read your latest post. This thread was really upsetting to read

Agree with Academic
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What a nasty, mean, vindictive man. I'm so glad that whoever she is, she and her baby will be safe. (He would be a dreadful, cruel father undermining a child's confidence and self-esteem)

Glad she is safe. Very relieved to read this update. This guy would escalate his abusive behaviour.

Glad she's safe and glad the thread was able to help

That’s brilliant, OP, but please make sure she’s prepared for the script and the flying monkeys. He will cry, apologise and try and make it look as if she’s over reacting, say he will change, threaten suicide, then try to tell her that she’s not ‘right in the head’ and that he will get custody of the baby, then will try to scare her into going back with him.

His family and friends will put pressure on her, say she’s over reacting, baby needs a father, they’ve been through so much to get this baby that the pressure got to him, he’s not normally like that, he’s sorry, she’s cruel, he’s so upset, he’s suicidal, etc.

He may end up ‘attempting’ suicide to make her feel guilty, take a sudden and mysterious illness, or a member of his family will, because of the stress. It’s all attention seeking bullshite to get her back.

Advise her to keep his name OFF the b