Dating thread 152: onwards and upwards

[30somethingandsingle]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

azzizam defo a potato!

I possibly have 3 dates lined up, not sure I can take them all to the same pub, people will talk 🤣

After saying ‘I don’t get many potato men message me’ I have had several. I guess Mr Not my type is a bit of a potato.

Have been reading but so much on thread to go through and reply to everyone! Just popping on to say happy birthday rich

Thanks for all the messages :)

I responded this morning to her birthday message with a thank you and asking how she was. Was read straight away (bloody whatsapp) and she hasn't replied.

Am assuming she was just saying happy birthday to be friendly and part of putting me in the friendzone or she is just playing games?

rich I don’t know - hard to read.I think I’d leave the ball in her court if it were me.

Happy Birthday 🎂🎂Rich. Just step right back from her. She may or may not be stringing you along but you're way too cool to be bothered. 😉

Thanks both - that's what I have been doing, she didn't send me a single text on Sunday having literally spent the entire day with me the day before. I eventually sent her one in the evening, got a short reply and then she didn't respond to my response to that.

Wonder if her age (she's just turned 30) could be a factor? Or lack of experience?

@richdeniro Turn the ticks off. Best not to know read or unread. Whether she's friendzoning you or playing games, you deserve better than she is treating you. Concentrate you efforts elsewhere and put her to the back of your mind - she seems to have done that with you already. Very immature way to behave (her, not you) Perhaps you need to grasp the nettle and send a "I'm not really sure where we're at and if you feel we could be more than friends? I'd like things to develop between us, but if you don't feel the same, I understand and wish you all the best" type message. She's leaving you hanging mate.

@richdeniro

What she said. Ask her and move on.

Heard from Mr Unsuitable this evening that there's a strong chance he's going to have to go back to his home country in about a month. I cried! But he doesn't know that as it was all by text as he's away. I laid it all out on the line. Said despite all our differences I like him more than I've liked anyone in a long long time. And that I'll help him with his work situation. It's daft as I've only known him a month or so. But I've got nothing to lose. I've told him how I feel now I have to sit back and see what happens. I'm telling myself that's good as we'll have to move things on.... or he'll leave and that'll stop me before I get in any deeper.

Life, eh. Never bloody stops.

rich - you shouldn't have to be second guessing her. Move on.
peanut - Aww, I really feel for you . Hope you can make it work.

MrWow popped round with a pizza and has just left. We talked about OLD and then he went on about why we didn't work out. It shouldn't have bothered me as I'm moving on but it did - and I cried! Ffs. We kinda know we wont work and why but although it's a bit too late, I obviously do love him a bit. Now I feel like shit. We obviously can't be friends.

Just got back from bowling and had a great time, I won lol. I'm a bit merry so please excuse the ramble when you read in the morning :)
She's coming to mine for dinner on Sunday evening. I took the advice given and offered dinner out or at mine, and she seemed genuinely blown away that I wanted to spend my Sunday afternoon cooking dinner for her.
She's insistent that she won't stay over but knows the option is there. I've said I will behave like the perfect gent until she tells me not to. Apparently I can be a bit less gentlemanly on Sunday, but she knows my very jealous dog will act as a useful contraceptive :)
I'm a little bit worried that we seem to be falling for each other quite quickly, didn't expect this so soon after starting dating again.
Loads of other stuff to say as to why I like her, but I'll be getting ahead of myself and properly drunk rambling! Keep repeating "it's only been 3 dates, it's only been..."

@TooOldForThis67  for you. Such a rubbish feeling.

@Ant330 Sounds like a great night, glad things are going well for you.

ant that’s great and sounds like Sunday will be lovely! Wish someone wanted to cook me a Sunday dinner

tooold sorry you’re feeling sad. Are you really ready to move on?

3 more sleeps here til my date with Mr Far and he's phoned several times, messages through the day but not millions. He's had some very average selfies and is still keen at the moment so hopefully won't be shocked and horrified by me

Peanut and TooOld
Just come back on after remembering I posted. I normally have a 'never post when you're drunk' rule, it's not too bad.
Good luck with MrFar warls hope it goes well.

3 more sleeps here til my date with Mr Far and he's phoned several times, messages through the day but not millions. He's had some very average selfies and is still keen at the moment so hopefully won't be shocked and horrified by me

Date with MrFox tonight. Conversation turned a little bit 'interesting' last night
I'm a bit too excited about seeing him again!

Oh good luck and have fun 30something

TooOld hope you're okay.

Ant sounds like a great date.

WarIs good luck with Mr Far.