Dating thread 151: We are the prize...

[30somethingandsingle]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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WarriorPrincess I only have 2 of 12 bags left, they arrived on Thurs

@snotty well thanks for trying. Was it like a fog horn....

@ant what did I say... people say taytos are the best crisps ever but for me it will always be hunky dorys and they are a sexy crisp.

@JeSuisPrest whoo, have a good night!

So I am back home from my date with Mr Fox. He was nice, easy to chat too. At the end of the night we had a very awkward kiss, he sort of went for the cheek and then changed his mind it was nice but there wasn't a huge amount of chemistry there.

I think he was just being nice, he's very gentlemanly. I'm not used to men being so... reserved!
He messaged before I got through the door to say that he had a great time and would like to do it again. I'm thinking I should, even without the chemistry... glad I didn't book the hotel now!

Way to go Jesuis!

Well I'm back home, in PJ's with Brandy n coke in hand.

MrMusic's daughter brings her dog over when she stays. He's a penis sniffer and wouldn't leave my dog alone! Not the most relaxing start to an evening. Plus his daughter had her b/f round, so there were 3 teenagers lurking around. Didn't feel comfortable. I was cold thro constantly letting dogs in and out the house. When we did manage to snuggle up on the sofa, we had 2 dogs lying over us, all protective!!
I just thought, I'd rather be at home, warm, in my kitchen, chilling, doing what I want. Selfish? So, anyway, told him I didn't feel v relaxed and I was heading home. I think he felt the same, he didn't argue. We had a brief kiss goodbye. Feel disappointed as I'd shaved and worn new undies but it's just a blip and we're still feeling our way around.

I've never got this far with anyone before on OLD (not even after 9mths with MrWow) and I guess blending lives/families/pets takes a bit of effort.

So I'm a bit less giddy now (and sober) but am thoroughly into MsBathLegs.
She's suggested coming over to walk my dog with me next Sat pm. Don't really want to wait that long but it's the first opportunity we will get due to work and kids.
Trying not to get carried away, but failing bloody miserably
Have a handful of other conversations to continue but don't feel that motivated to do so.

@tooold how did it go with his kids meeting them

Ooh exciting @JeSuisPrest !

I've just come back from seeing Mr Unfeasibly Large Beard. His plaintive messages made me feel like I owed him closure. We ended up in bed, so that didn't really go as planned

Warrior - They are teenagers and totally indifferent. We said Hi. Lol.
Ant - Sounds like you are smitten with MsBathLegs. I totally get you re the convos with other irons but don't put your eggs....... as you may never know if one of them is the next best thing! Sorry if that sounds jaded! Lol.

Shitwith - So what happened? Any regrets or did it just close a chapter?

Sounds awkward too but I think all of us would feel the same in that situation-as you said probably just a blip as you feel your way around the relationship.shit what is the latest with Mr Rugby?-you clearly like him lots and yes looking forward to jesuis update too!

God I’ve got myself in a right pickle. I’ve been dating two men: Mr Giant & Mr Martial Arts. I’ve had 4 dates with Mr Giant (professional, confident) and 3 with Mr Martial Arts including this evening (classes himself as a feminist, sensitive, empathetic).

I know I need to pick one soon but I just don’t know what to do! I like them both but they’re so different that it’s for completely different reasons. Bitterly regretting the multiple dating approach now.

Ooooh another update whilst he's in the loo. That was nice 😳, I may have my beer goggles on and not sure that I 100% fancy him but he could be a slow burner and he's so romantic and has got his sexy talk off to a tee... Seconds away, round 2...🙈😂 Up yours MrAbs, someone is treating me the way I deserve to be treated, you could learn a thing or two.

Great update jesuis 👍

Jesuis - If you have to question if you fancy him then maybe it's just a bit of fun and why not!
Aww, Shitwith that sounds disappointing. But, nothing ventured, nothing gained. At least you have closure.
Mia - Try writing it out on paper the for's and against's.

So, coming home so early I've been msg a few old contacts. Yeah, my bad! MrMusic hasn't even read my summing up of the night! It was putting a positive spin on an awkward situation.
So, MrRY replied to my offer to drop off his t-shirt he left after our 60hr date! So, it looks like I'll be seeing him tomorrow. He thought I was just not interested after the cancelled date last week.

So. Seems like I'm a loose cannon. I don't know wtf I'm doing. I wish someone suitable would knock some sense into me.

Morning everyone!
Sounds grand jeSuis

I am so overinvested in Mr Big I don’t know what’s going on. Having a sleepover at his next week. The issue is Iknow it will never be more than FWB. Our diaries really don’t work so can only meet twice a month, we talk about others we are dtd with and check out each other’s potential irons on fab. We get into message frenzies every day and I lose interest in all my other irons!

@Marlboroandmalbec34 if you know it isn't going anywhere, you HAVE to force yourself to focus on other irons. Easier said than done. But also I'm a believer in if there is potential, you'll somehow find the time. Can you suss out how he is feeling about it?

Thanks Eesha. The thing is I only really want FWB and if I could see him a bit more regular I would stop looking but I can’t.
We message every day for over 2 months so he must like me a bit.. I guess next weeks sleepover might clarify things a bit for me and maybe him

Well good morning all, what an evening. Perfect gent, very compatible in bed, but it was the first time, he may be keeping his gimp outfit in the wardrobe until we know each other better, who knows?😂

Had a nice cuddle in bed this morning, but no round 3 which surprised me a little since when we've been chatting we we've both said how much we enjoy morning sex.

Both of us got calls from our idiot exs last night - mine had found a "tablet" in our daughters overnight bag and demanded to know what it was- it was a sweetener... MrBanker's son called to say it was 1am and mum still wasn't home from a night out (son is 22 and wanted to go out, but was babysitting his younger sister). MrB called the ex - she was walking home pissed, couldn't get a cab.

Anyway, now gone our respective ways to collect our offspring- has got a bit of a drive home. Just had a message off him thanking me for and "amazing night". Hopefully see him next weekend or during the week for lunch when he's working in my home town.

Did I feel fireworks? No. Did I have a lovely evening. Absolutely. So on balance I think I'll give it a few more dates (if he's up for that as well), and see if anything develops.

Off to catch up on the thread and everyone else's antics from last night.

JeSuis glad you had a good time - maybe don't over think it and have fun. A confidence booster after Mr Abs.

shitwith at least now you can draw a line under that and file it in the past.

Marlboro it's not that easy to find a FWB that ticks all the right boxes - maybe go with it?

TooOld another loose cannon here. No idea what I really want! Monday'a Fab guy (can't remember what I called him!!) is very very promising indeed (we Skyped ....). Getting nowhere with Tinder really. Have been messaging a bit with someone I can't really be bothered to name, who wants to switch to .... email 😳😂 Never had that before (will suggest WhatsApp!). I'll switch to POF later today

Mr Young and Keen (Fab) cancelled this morning's meet. He has no veris, says he's met a few women from Fab though .... I think he hasn't, and he's taken fright! But FFS why can't I get anyone to meet me on a Sunday morning?! Second week in a row (last Sunday's date stood me up ...) Off to see what I can rustle up 😂

shit maybe that’s just what you needed? Now you can draw a line under it and move on?

My date for today has vanished, we arranged a rough place to meet but not an exact pub, haven’t heard from him for over 24 hours so I’m guessing it’s not happening. I’m not too bothered, he isn’t that hot and seemed a bit boring. I will spend the day in my garden instead.