Dating thread 151: We are the prize...

[30somethingandsingle]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps https://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Just ask him to tone it down abit….I think men think we all love it and expect it

room wouldn’t say it’s normal. I mean I’ve come across one person like that on tinder and that went from the sublime to the rediculous. And I agree sex chat after one day is a bit quick. Flirting is fine but there is a line

I am impressed by the number of plates everyone is spinning. I'm rubbish at multi-tasking multi-dating dating so my WA life is uncomplicated and doesn't involve a great deal of agonizing. I will wish you all luck with your full diaries.

I am not sure if I can be as supportive or as helpful as others on this thread because as soon as I start typing something I feel like I'm in older brother mode talking to my sister about some unsuitable type she shouldn't be bothering with. But happy to give my thoughts if asked..

Thanks again for all the comments on my profile. This is the feedback/action plan I've gleaned (and which may be generally useful to anyone lurking):

Pics:

• More smiling
• Suited and booted
• Cut some of the active ones
• Grow beard

Text:

• Less is more, leave something to talk about
• Last para can go and have a simpler call to message
• Appear less busy - seems like I have no time
• De-emphasise the active side - it can be intimidating
• De-emphasise the dad stuff
• Username makes me sound like a drag queen - I think this may be the critical issue
• Add a conversation starter

For some reason I've been called on as an odd job man on previous dates. Maybe joke about this for a convo starter ?

It makes me so uncomfortable crappy I haven’t replied to his last message and after consistent messaging for the last couple of hours he’s gone completely silent

I know what you mean user I feel much the same. I’m thinking I need to update my tinder profile and point this out.

Toilet update please @JeSuisPrest

@BatshitCrazyWoman I could t cope with that week!

I'm en route to meet mr Unsuitable who said quite rightly we shouldn't just meet and fuck. I was just looking at his insta wondering why the hell he's interested in me 🙁

Although as I've only read as far as 1830 I may stumble on the toilet update in a mo

Eesha nothing's worrying me, in all honesty this is all new to me and having registered on the apps over the last week it's been quite quiet and then suddenly ramped up massively this morning. I don't know if Sat morning is the usual time for everybody to suddenly come alive, but having been with the same person for 25 years I'm finding it quite strange having multiple conversations going on and women sending me pictures of their legs
Don't get me wrong, I'm having a ball
But yes date organised with MsBathLegs for next Sat and coordinating date with MsMarvel for the following week.

And I've asked for MrP's number! Oh how I'm excited. And overinvested after a day of messages 🙈😂😂.

Now my date from today has said, while in conversation about sport, that we should “do a boot camp together for our next date”. So I guess he does want to see me again? But do I want to see him? Aaarrrgggh! I don’t really want to get beetroot hot and sweaty in front of someone on a second date!

A boot camp? Literally can't think of anything worse to do for a second date. I mean why.

A usename makes a hugh difference snotty,glad you got some good feedback.
I'm fb friends with a guy who has posted on here recently asking for reviews on his profile,we never met but chatted through pof. His feedback was his pics need to be of him smiling more. We met,with change of t shirts and camera and I took some great pics, some in a field and in a pub! Hopefully he will be in great demand,also a great guy :) He gave me a few tips too. Friend for life

Loo update - ooooooh yes..... he's lush 🙈😂. I think I may be having a sleepover I posh hotel...

Oooo get you jesuis have fun

I assume he felt the same way as I haven’t heard from him almost 2 hours after the date ended.

@Sunshineandflipflops if you aren't feeling it then that's that, but I feel I need to point out that two of my cclose friends that are getting married right now weren't messaged by their soon to be husbands for 3 days after the first date ended! People don't all message in the same way, lots of people think it's not good to text so soon etc... so I don't think that necessarily means anything.

Sorry the first bit was meant to be bold (slightly drunken posting ☺️)

@Sunshineandflipflops sorry just saw about the bootcamp - that would send me running for the hills! ☺️

Great update jesuis!

Haha! I like fitness but a boot camp as a second date wound send him running for the hills at the sight of my red, sweaty face! He also suggested park run, which I do anyway but I look horrendous when I run and sweat a lot so no chance! I have suggested yoga 😂

So excited for you @jesuis

@snotty a dating disaster or funny story is required to keep my spirits up if you will lol

@ant have the hunky dorys arrived yet...
Batch bread... real irish butter...buffalo HD crisp sandwich...

Lovely JeSuis - enjoy! Mr FABF (Fab, Monday) has booked a lovely hotel in central London 'just in case' ...

Second loo update- I'm in his room... 🙈 he's gone to get my overnight bag from my car - a lady is always prepared 😳👍. Speak to you in the morning x

JeSuisPrest I don't think I could be any more jealous right now! Have fun 👍

jesuis 👍

jesuis loving this update! Enjoy!

warrior Due to their disastrous-ness, most of mine would be recognisable to the women involved, and I would hate for them to read about it on here. But I did date an incredibly loud and utterly unstoppable snorer for a while. At first I thought it was a one-off perhaps down to too much ..err.. wine but alas no.