Dating thread 151: We are the prize...

[30somethingandsingle]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps https://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Just dropping in.

TooOld I don't understand - why did the fact your iron was being tested for an STD make you have sex with him and embark on a relationship with him? I think I would have been running very fast in the opposite direction! As for Mr BE - what a jerk!

Comedy love the response to your IQ question. Do you ask everyone that question? I'm fairly bright but I have no idea what my IQ is. Time to get tested!

Azzizam 35 days waiting for a response?? That is an impressive amount of patience.

So I'm all alone this weekend and fairly bored and have downloaded Tinder again (dammit). A few familiar old faces bless them and appalling functionality from the app, getting profiles mixed up and all sorts. Is this standard these days or is it just having a bad day?

MrBE is certainly not guilty of over analysing, not even sure he can read! Lol. He's messaging like nothings wrong. Am ignoring.

So, am staying over MrMusic's tonight. Just had to let him know I'm bringing the dog, lol. Can't leave him overnight. I then sent a msg asking if I can bring the cat . Left it for a few mins before letting him know it was a joke.

Cassettes impressive amount of stupidity more like! 😉

@TooOldForThis67 the cat, bet he thought wtf!

Date tonight with Mr Fox. We haven't been messaging much as both been busy. I'm quite nervous about it being a first proper date for me without the sole intention of getting them into bed anyway

Bloody love this thread it’s hilarious
Welcome to all the newbies!
My update...
Tuesday coffee meet with Mr M (fab) looks gorgeous
Tuesday night sleepover with Mr Big
Wednesday lunch coffee meet with Mr Muscle (fab)
Friday eve might have a date with Mr Tall if I forgive him for ghosting and returning. Met him once before and I really liked him (looks like s Viking)

Things are v v odd with Mr Big...But will come back on that later

Anyone with dates tonight...may the odds be ever in your favour

Oooh @shitwithsugaron I'm excited for you - the anticipation must be unbearable.

@30somethingandsingle good luck with MrFox, hope you get the fizzy knickers in person with him, he sounds delish.

Have fun with MrMusic @TooOldForThis67 I know you will

You're a more patient woman than me @Azzizam

I'm feeling really nervous about date with MrBanker tonight - we were chatting about hotels earlier- there's me suggesting our local Premier Inn/Travel Lodge type thing and practically giving him a Groupon code for a free breakfast, and he's just messaged me to say he's booked into the poshest hotel in our city and would I be happy to meet him in the hotel bar or he'll meet me at a local pub if I'd feel more comfortable.😳 I should have stuck with the plumbers and sparks - I never felt intimidated by them. He is lovely though, been nothing but polite on the phone, but why do I feel like Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman when she's trying to act proper???🙈😂

30 shitwith and TooOld have fun tonight. Am jealous!

I have Mr FABF (fit as bloody fuck) from Fab getting me all in a tizzy today - meeting on Monday evening. That's pretty much certainly going to end in bed.

Mr Benn (Fab) is a possible meeting for a drink tonight, depending on how his afternoon pans out.

Mr Very Young and Very Keen (Fab) - coffee tomorrow.

Mr Irish (Fab) - drink on Tuesday evening

Mr Investment Banker (Fab) - drink on Wednesday evening

Two rest nights 😂 then -

Mr M (Fab) for a drink on Sunday

Hope to squeeze in a 'normal' date on Saturday if I can rustle someone up on Tinder 😂

FFS am exhausted just thinking about next week!!

Oh but lovely JeSuis enjoy 😉

jesuis enjoy!

batshit hope your Mr M (fab) isn’t my Mr M (fab) 😂

Hi all
I’ve been on my first first date in 5 months this afternoon and my first Tinder date. We met in a country pub and had a lovely 3 hours chatting but I don’t think we passed the “chemistry check” (words he’d used in previous conversation, which felt a bit sterile but I get what he means).
I have a massive headache, which doesn’t help but I feel a bit deflated and like I will never meet anyone I clicked with like I did my ex h. He had an affair so not the greatest husband but it was just so easy to be me around him. I just don’t think I can do this dating thing ☹️

jeSuis oooh swanky! Enjoy

@Sunshineandflipflops did you feel a click though? I think stay positive, and see it as a blip. I've had several dates but definitely no spark but I just think you have to kiss a lot of frogs these days. I see it as a learning experience, and hopefully meet some nice people. It was easy with my exes but those ended, you can't look back at these things

Is he in south London Marlboro?

@Sunshineandflipflops just wanted to give you a bit of a virtual hug. We aren’t going to be everyone’s cup of tea when we meet people, and that can be deflating. Also, I think when you’ve had that kind of easy relationship (even if the ending was shitty) then you do naturally compare.
I went out with someone for several months after my divorce - it was amazing at first, really easy, sexual chemistry was incredibly intense etc but he started to show his true colours a couple of months in. I missed the early bit (even though it wasn’t ‘real’) and I think I was consciously trying to recreate that when dating again afterwards. Took a long time to sort that out in my head.
(Not saying your relationship was similar in any way, shape or form - just wanted to empathise with you).

I had a second date with Mr HeadTilt on Thursday. It was good, though I found out that he smokes ‘occasionally when drinking’ which is okay, but he then said that he vapes sometimes too? I know that sounds shallow, but I just don’t want to date a smoker. Also when he went for a kiss there was A LOT of pointy tongue and I was literally closing my mouth around his tongue at one point to give myself a bit of breathing room from it
I’ve arranged to see him on Monday but I think it’ll be deciding time then.
I’ve canned a date off for tonight.
I have a date on Tuesday with someone that I’m fairly certain I called Mr Surgeon, for obvious reasons... he’s a little younger than me, keen, quite funny (my Achilles heel)...
I have a third chat ongoing with Mr PhD and I’d like to meet him for coffee this week... That’s about my comfort level with numbers as can’t multitask any more without it feeling like I’m playing games! So I’m not swiping at the minute.

@Eesha Thanks.
We clicked as in we had a nice chat for 3 hours and had a fair bit in common but did I get heart flutters or have an overwhelming desire to see him again? No.
I assume he felt the same way as I haven’t heard from him almost 2 hours after the date ended.
Maybe I just need to take a few days and see how I feel about getting back out there.

@WotcherHarry Thank you, hug greatfully accepted.
I just feel like being on my own is probably easier and less stressful.

I am in awe of how amazing you lot are...some of your dating schedules are absolutely admirable! Maybe I need to do the same to take some of the pressure off!

Hope everyone on dates tonight have fabulous times

@Sunshineandflipflops I actually really enjoyed taking a break. I do chat on PoF just to get the flirting in but it's nice not thinking about meeting anyone for a while! I think this sounds like a blip, just get back out there swiping

Pointy tongue hahahaha really made me laugh.... good luck with kissing him again @Harry

Good luck on the dates this evening.

Why am I so nervous! Say in my car as I'm a little early and don't want to look too keen 😂

Oh good luck @30somethingandsingle