Dating thread 151: We are the prize...

[30somethingandsingle]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps https://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Pof is deathly silent for me at the moment! I previously deleted tinder but I'm going to give it another go.

The list of men in the contact list made me laugh. I really need to start numbering the duplicate names. I accidentally called a "Fred pof" at the weekend. Someone I've had a couple of dates with recently. I accidentally called a " Fred pof" I had a disastrous date with about 5 years ago when I first started OLD. And he answered 😱😂

I quite like pof. I generally hide my profile to avoid the messages from complete scrotes and just message anyone I like the look of.

The lack of height on Tinder does my head in 😬

I changed my profile on tinder to include height requirements 😂. It doesn't seem to have made a difference to matches and saves having to ask the question and the awkwardness of trying to think of a reply 🤷

I quite like POF just because you can chat without matching. I've found Bumble to have changed for the worse for me in that I've matched but no reply to my message so just an ego boost for many. Even people I thought I'd give a chance to but never look at twice in real life! So very put off it.....

@shitwithsugaron I had one claim he'd forgotten his own birthday once 🙄😂

30sonething Mr Fox sounds like a bit of a.... Fox.
tooold Mr BE sounds like a dick, hope you're OK.

I'm still on fab - deleted my photo for a couple of days. Just put it back up & lots of messages. Now in the process of deleting messages from the marrieds & in a relationship ones, the droopy dick pics, gimp profiles, men in women's underwear.... And there's not much left after that! How disappointing

@TooOldForThis67 sorry about Mr BE, you definitely deserve better than that

@supercali77 I agree it is possible he's been online for all sorts of reasons (possibly just to look at you!) so it is worth talking to him. I accidentally click on my Match app all the time just because it looks like my Mumsnet one! ☺️

I am half heartedly talking to the iron that is away and also have replied to another message, but I don't know I feel like I need a break, this thing with Mr Italian has really knocked me and made me feel quite down, I really didn't see it coming and I like to think I can tell if someone is into me. So I may keep talking to Mr Swede, the one that is away, as also I just like him as a person, and otherwise leave it for a bit.

When an iron you thought was cooling randomly likes an Instagram post

30something I quite like tinder for some reason

Would you take a huff if someone you had swapped numbers with and was talking to via WhatsApp. Deleted you off bumble?

Is it wrong that I've deleted them?

I just didn't see the point if I'm talking to them via text 😕

Aaaargh after talking about distances on tinder I checked mr Unsuitable. He's coming up as less than a k away. He's usually 8k away. And we spoke on the phone earlier but he was very vague about meeting me tomorrow. Said he doesn't know what his plans are. I looked at his what's app and his last seen is at 9 exactly which is his normal date time. My spidey senses are pinging away. Why was I so fucking stupid to believe him when he said he wasn't sleeping with anyone else????

God I hate this.

Shall I message and say I need to know about tomorrow eve as a friend wants to meet up?

Swings and sodding roundabouts.

@Peanuthedz what do you mean normal date time?

Is he meeting someone close to you, right now?

I don't know! Well he usually met me at 9.

I loathe the insecurity this breeds in us all. It could all be totally innocent but now I'm spying on his what'sapp.

@lifegoes I wouldn't have a huff no. But people are odd! If you've swapped numbers it shouldn't matter 🤷‍♀️

That's what I thought @Peanuthedz people are odd. I thought well he has my number

Bollocks.
I am gong to be spending a lot of the next 6 months on our office in Europe.
Good points: easy to get home to see kids, bring them here in holidays etc, great fun city. Women are tall 😍
Bad: miss the kids, negotiating with ex, little other option than celibacy or fwb neither of which i want. ho hum.
roll on September!

I've just realised that if his tinder is at less than 1k away then he must have opened it yesterday in my house! Which makes me think it might have been an accidental open. Aaargh I hate this.

Not over thinking or over invested at all....

Oh ffs!

It's a tinder glitch. Every bloody match I've got on there is saying they're less than a k away.

God. Maybe they all actually are. Maybe they're all surrounding my house like tinder zombies!

Oh god. I'm sending it to the cloud. I can't actually take going through that again

@Peanuthedz crying with laughter. Don't look out the window

Actually laughed out loud at Tinder zombies 😂
Thank god it's just a glitch!

I love and hate the beginning bit in. equal measure. The excitement of getting to know someone with all the paranoia and second guessing that goes with it 🤦‍♀️

peanut it’s like The Birds but with Tinder matches... all flocking outside your house 😂😂😂
The paranoia is awful. I don’t want to have to meet anyone new again!!

I quite like fab:
Me: what's your IQ?
Him: wot you mean, babe?