Dating thread 151: We are the prize...

[30somethingandsingle]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps https://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

I don't have last seen on my WhatsApp. I do have blue ticks though.

I thought Mr Italian had turned off his WhatsApp read receipts (and unmatched me on Match) because he didn't want to see what I was up to, after all why would you turn off read receipts for the benefit of others? But given the surprising turn of events, I must have been wrong! I can only think he is speaking to someone else or something, I am driving myself a bit mad today trying to figure it out as it was such a surprise.

I actually just remembered on our first date when discussing dating he kind of complained about people who bowed out after a few dates without giving it a proper chance "saying there was no romance, when there was kissing and holding hands". Which is exactly what he's now done to me! 🙈🙈 I know I need to stop thinking about it, it would be so much easier if it wasn't so baffling..

@Peanuthedz also think that's fine btw

Well we've agreed we're exclusive. And I'd like it to run its course. And I got myself in a right mess with multi dating in the summer. I ended up accidentally sleeping with two men in one day. Which was fine as it was all no strings/friendly etc but I'm in a different place now and I like mr Unsuitable!

I think I'll message in a few days and tell him and ask him not to unmatch me. He's my age, shared hobby, lives v close, my type etc. Although usually the suitable ones aren't that great in the flesh.

peanut I've done that before. 2 men. 2 days. Felt like I was going nuts. Total accident! Did not expect the second one to happen

😳😳 it genuinely was an accident. Two FWB. One was going away and we'd arranged for him to come and see me first. I didn't hear from him for a few days and assumed he hadn't had time. Second FWB I popped in to his for breakfast. Got home a couple of hours later to a message from first saying he was on his way. I couldn't message him to cancel in time. I did at least have time for a shower in between. I did have a crazy summer but I hadn't had sex for about 10 years.....calmed down now. Honest.

Haha! This was me last week

I think I'm starting to calm down now. I have no intention of having sex with Mr Fox tomorrow...that usually isn't the case when I meet someone I like!

Looks like I've been let down for tonights first date with new iron 🤦‍♀️ disappointing waste of a childfree night. He says he's struggling with childcare but I think he may just have cold feet 🤷‍♀️

Well he didn't take my text well.

Told him that I just didn't want to go out tonight, it just doesn't feel right for me and nothing there

His reply
"Fuck you, you mean you've had a better offer, go fuck him then"

😂😂😂😂 BYYYYYE

@lifegoes 😂😂😂 he handled that well then didn't he? 😂🤔
Think you've dodged a bullet there!

Bullet dodged lifegoes

I have last seen off but blue ticks on. I answer in my own time not someone else's.

The only 'dates' I have lined up are Fab ones I seem to do okay on there ... need to get swiping ...

@lifegoes Nearly as nice as the one who told me he hoped I'd get cancer so my pretty hair and teeth would fall out WTF?? Next!

@lifegoes as expected 👋👋👋

JeSuis my contacts are all Ben (F), Peter (T). There are loads and I don't delete them!!

@BatshitCrazyWoman I like mine all grouped together, like a hall of fame for losers🙄

lifegoes excellent tip re iPhones BUT I have hidden all my toddler unsuitable pics but don’t know how to find my hidden folder??? Help

@Marlboroandmalbec34 go in to your photos now front screen (albums) scroll all the way down to other albums. You'll see a named one "hidden" they are in there.

Yep everyone, Bullet dodged. First day of NC with Mr fuckmeoff (AKA mr hol) hard!

@supercali77 hi, I’ve been reading the thread with interest - dating is hard!

He may have gone back online to close down any irons he had, not necessarily look or arrange anything.

I don't know how to have a hidden folder on my Android phone. I opened my gallery on the train and there are loads of cocks 😳😂😂

POF is entertaining but bloody hard work.

I have been chatting to this guy since yesterday and now we are chatting in messenger, I shall call him Mr Climber, he’s not British but his English is ok, now he’s asked me if he should delete POF as he’s talking to me. I told him not too 😐

Earlier a man messaged me, asked me if I dated military men, I replied with “I have in the past” he then blocked me 😐

I have 3 people wanting dates next week, one arranged for Sunday, one possibly Tuesday and another wed (have a feeling wed date will just end up being a friend).

Now talking to a Mr Teacher, but I feel a bit odd meeting a teacher, I was a bit of a rebel at school and didn’t do that great so I feel like teacher are way smarter than me.

POF is so hard, sifting through messages. But there are some decent ones.

I find bumble really good for my area, I've just deleted all my old conversations to start a fresh.

I am loathing Tinder and will be deleting and going back to POF at the weekend!

I'm getting zero anything on bumble or POF. Tinder is the only one with some possibilities but even then it's not great. Struggling to get 1 date 🙈😫😂

@Lovemusic33 talk about over invested by Mr Climber 😯😂