Ok, that context I promised earlier. Nearly 3 years separated from long term relationship, and one hungry mouth to feed. Is separated an ambiguous term ? I use it to indicate 'completely split up but never married'.
I'm a little worried that I've been on dating sites too long now and have become one of those usual suspects you guys mention, and that this makes me look like a serial dater which is far from the case. Dates have been few and far between. I had been looking to meet someone that wants to be exclusive with me, though with the experience of the past couple of years of dating, I could accept less, given how tricky it has been finding time to really create the foundations when there has been a spark of interest to fan.
Reading the past couple of editions of the thread has been eye-opening (reminds me, must trim!) and funny ...I don't think entertaining is quite the right word ... but the thread has offered some sort of affirmation that there is a lighter side to it all. It's asked me questions like "do you want to do something like FAB?" (no), "could you handle FWB?" (only if I was in blissful ignorance!), so I must applaud you all for that 
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Similar issues to others with PoF - am I doing it wrong ? It's tumbleweed central. Not looking for quantity or an ego boost by the way, but a reasonable conversation leading to a date would be magical at this point in time ! The nadir was receiving a message last night from another hairy arsed man that had me checking my settings (all ok my end!), then ponder how on earth that could happen.
I realise I won't be hardly anyone's everyone's cup of tea, but I don't think I resemble a serial killer, so I hope I can PM my POF profile username just to check that I haven't unwittingly made some horrible faux pas or got the tone terribly wrong. (It looks like you can access profiles without signing in so you can view the profile completely anonymously by going to the public username search page.)