Dating thread 151: We are the prize...

[30somethingandsingle]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps https://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

@shitwithsugaron Shirts? Nope. Don't do shirts. Too smart for me.

A few hairs poking up from a t shirt neck though.... 🥰

Had a fun hour with Mr Scouse. Good sex and a great laugh. Not my usual type looks wise but might be a good FWB as good fun and I defo won’t overinvest..had a sniff of him but smelt of nothing!!

Can I say this is the trouble with this thread... every time I come off OLD I read on here for a bit of vicarious dating and then read all your descriptions of what's attractive in a man and think, ooooh I could just do with a bit of furry dad/gorilla back/ginger beard whatever and I start swiping again 🤣

You're all a bad influence!!

Good luck to those who have dates this eve!
Smell & sniffing.... Really interesting - at the end of the relationships, I hated the whiff of my 2 ex Hs. From now on I'll have a good sniff, because that's not odd at all
Just remembered I dated a guy who sniffed a LOT - he had a class A habit.

Mr Elba would like me to 'revise my decision as he means me no harm'. He's also messaged me when I was on fab - 'I still have my eyes on you'. Which cracked me up, but I've now decided that he's a potential serial killer.

And no no no to hairy men!!!!

Don’t mind a hairy chest love a hairy head and a stubbly face. Hairy bums and backs and big bushes do nothing for me 😂

I'm just going to leave this here for you @ComedyBoobs

Hahahaha! JeSuis love it... or not. Yikes.

Haven’t had time to think of Mr SA tonight, POF has been crazy, haven’t had time to messages any matches in bumble (running out of time before they vanish). I now have a selection of old irons and some new ones. Some have amber flags waving.

Mr Tattoo..
Been talking to him on and off for years but he always vanishes or I find someone and we have never met, I think he’s a bit of a bad boy, something tells me he’s probably not that great.

Mr Bondage...
The Dom but says he doesn’t mind being sub, very good looking, well educated man in a suit, shares a hobby but lives quite far away.

Mr Ex Army...
Lovely guy but being ex army he has a few issues which he has been open about and he doesn’t drive, wants me to go and pick him up 😐

Mr Sensible...
I say sensible because he’s the only one with no amber flags, a bit older than I would like but shares several interests, wants a relationship, hasn’t mentioned sex and his kids have grown up (no baggage).

Mr Sea..
Lives right next to the sea, been talking on and off for a while, ex army, good looking, similar interests, hopefully meeting him soon.

There are a few others, one possible ok one. Hopefully I can keep myself busy with dates, I’m going to try and multi date so I don’t over invest in anyone.

I love hair everywhere. I might have to meet up with Mr young for a hair fix, he’s like a big fluffy blanket all over.

@ComedyBoobs proper laughed out loud to serial killer 😂😂😂😂

And another thing. I've dated on the more 'usual' sites in the past but with fab I like to message via kik ASAP.
So it's fab, then kik & of course I still log into fab. But the ones on kik then message via fab to say - are you ignoring me on kik? or 'so, this is where you are' or 'you not interested?' & various other versions of why the fuck arn't you messaging me exclusively.

I find it odd that on a swinging site that the men seem to be very territorial. I don't care if a guy I'm messaging is online on fab. Anyone else on fab who has similar experiences?

tooold The chat - which was done via WA can count on my hand in the last decade how many phonecalls we have had. and was a slight overstatement. Basically he said that I can now move pass the fact I cheated on him and focus on the real reasons why we broke up. For instance the lack of communication including phonecalls and how we should have used more of our holiday to see each other. it was a very long distance heavy relationship. Just glad we are finally getting to the bottom of why we broke up and he's looking past the cheating.

Ant and Marlboro how did this afternoon go? ]

I'm with peanuts I don't get the rolled up shirt sleeve thing although love a bit of a gorilla.

Just curious what does an iron mean?

shitwith yes I can have a look at your profile, but think I'm quite a bit older so bear that in mind.

comedy exactly this. It’s a bloody swinging site but you get stick for not exclusively messaging!!! Mr Scouse is writing me a veri..if I post it there will be backlash from the others I am taking to on Kik!

still18 gooof thanks, good laugh, good sex potential FWB

Love I've only met 3 doms, 2 were friends, one was a bit more. But they all say that, it's part of the act to say, yup I can be a sub. They arn't, won't be & know how to play the game. So unless you enjoy being tied to a bed, or anywhere else for that matter, thay are best to be avoided.

marlboro - you're on fab? Mr Big wrote a veri, I didn't want it posted for exactly the same reasons.

@ComedyBoobs yes!! They are very territorial and if you delete or don't respond to a message, loads of them message again and again and again... and if you 'look who's viewed me' you can see the serial killer potentials as it shows how often they have viewed you... scary shit!

30something yes, arn't they just. I'm putting it down to male pride.

I'd quite like to be tied up 😳 never have been. Must add it to my bucket list....

comedy yes I am. My Mr Big (who I met on tinder- FWB) told me to check it out and wrote my first veri- I got loads of interest off the back of it!

Fab is soooo funny. Mr Scouse said Mr Big keeps looking at him and loads of mr Scouse irons keep looking at me. I am desperately trying not to look at Mr Big on there as I overinvested and he has become much more interested in me now he knows I am on there and meeting guys😂

comedy your right, I think I will avoid the Dom.

Mr SA has just messaged me (just to ruin my good evening) saying he has been thinking about me all day and he wants to talk.

Had a 10 minute chat with MrBanker. He seems very nice and doesn't sound like Joe Pesquale - yay! I don't normally do nice. I do rough, mean, treat me like crap whilst I give, give, give until I have no self esteem and am an anxiety ridden shell of my previous self. So let's see how this goes. He says he'll message me later...

I'm hoping he's one of those nice in public, bad boy in the bedroom types, but he's only had one date since he separated from his wife last November, as he finds OLD a bit scary - welcome to the club pal, take a number!

God yes 30something I ask for face pics with first message...one guy messaged and I recognised him (own local newsagents) I said not a good idea as I think I know you, he keeps messaging me saying he has worked out who I am etc etc. There is no way from my profile he would know who I am 😂