Dating thread 151: We are the prize...

[30somethingandsingle]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps https://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

@Lovemusic33 at least if it works out you won't need another tattoo

30something it’s a pretty common name and once I was dating a guy with the same name, I totally forgot about the tattoo until he spotted it whilst ummmmm taking me from behind (it’s on my back), he stopped and said “WTF, why is my name on your back?” 🤣🤣
Would save me getting it covered though.

tooold yep LT. doubt will meet we live a good distance apart. Think it’s the crypticness of it. We talk regularly anyway so why label it as chat as opposed to normal

Good for both of you 30something and lovemusic. It has read like both Mr S/SA were pushing boundaries and not listening to what you were saying. 🌟👍

Still18 - so a chat on the phone, like you do anyway, but putting in a special request for one? Let us know what he wants as we're me nosey buggers, lol.

Its good to see some clear boundary setting from loads of people. You are pretty amazing really, even if it’s all a bit heartbreaking.

On sniffing, I love a good sniff of MrSG. He always smells amazing. It’s not even aftershave or anything; it’s just his skin. I like to stick my nose against his neck and sniff. He reciprocates. Apparently I smell really great in the morning (pre-shower) as I smell even more of me. 😂

It’s definitely a proper biological thing. After the first time MrSG stayed over in my bed, I slept on the pillow he’d used the next night because it smelled of him. I remember years ago I had a BF and I knew the end was nigh when I started to dislike the way he smelled. Particularly after a night out. I just found him a bit repulsive.

That’s hilarious: stopping DTD to ask why his name was tattooed on your back. Do you find that you have to explain it to men often?

Not one to hang around, I'm in the process of arranging a date with an iron from pof. He's tall (6'4), broad, and very very handsome (and seems very normal). I'm going to call him Mr Fox.

That sounds promising. 😁

I am still loving @Azzizam‘s description of her ideal body type. Very hairy with a slightly podgy tummy.

It goes to show: we shouldn’t necessarily be worried about what we look like. It might be that our body is just what someone else is looking for.

MrSG keeps telling me that I am so fit and attractive. I look at myself and think, ‘that’s a bit wobbly’ but I’m glad he likes what he sees.

@30somethingandsingle MrFox - whoop, whoop!

MrBanker has just messaged to say he's driving home, can he call me for a chat later. I've never gone out with a man who wears a suit for work before - it's always been plumbers, chippies and sparks 😳. 6ft 2, clean shaven, posh voice (so he tells me - I asked him if he sounded like Joe Pesquale- he assures me not hence the offer to call me later...) Very different to my usual hairy arsed, manual worker, tattooed type. Meh, what's the worst that could happen...🤷‍♀️

Yes crustacean. If I run my hands over my tummy and biggish boobs, I think ....oh how lovely that feels but society may not agree. I should be firm and gym honed and carry no excess weight.
I've been with a fair few younger guys and they've all seemed to love my body which gives me confidence as I like it too, just feel I shouldn't if that makes sense.
Be proud and strut that body!!

30 and love, glad to see you drawing your red lines and sticking to them.

I'm exhausted by OLD and this thread - moves so fast! - so I've decided to take a step back from everything and live only in the real world. I still have two FWBs - one from Tinder and one from Fab - but I'm going to try to unwind both of them and just be friends. Either I've reached the point of wanting only a proper, real-life, committed, sane relationship without WhatsApp or I've given up on sex and am retiring to wear lilac cardis.

Toodle pip!

@JeSuisPrest he probably has a hairy arse under the suit. 😂

@Crustaceans Let's hope so 😂

Couple of very funny comments today...

"it's like fucking a gorilla"
"Wtf why's my name on your back"

Should be having my first telephone chat from OLD later this evening, wish me luck
And if I can recommend a tagline to avoid it's one I saw from a meet up request today of "hello future husband"

Hello future husband 😱😱😱😱 OMFG that is truly terrifying. And I'm female!

@CassettesAreCool ahhh good luck out there in real life. I wish I could do the same. Every time I try I miss sex though... goddamn HRT 🤣

I was going to meet Mr Elba tomorrow night for a drink. But, turns out he's 'separated' & still living with his wife. So it's another no from me.

I am meeting Mr GWH (Great With his Hands - according to him) next week. If he shows me his hand shadow puppets, I'll make a swift exit.

Off to catch up with the thread....

Oh I am comfortable here as a fellow fan of a furry dad bod.

I have nothing to add, have gone invisible on tinder for now while I see how RL goes. Got a lot of domestic grief atm so things are messy.

Peanut yep that just made me want to get as far away from my phone as possible

Good luck cassettes

lovemusic if you don’t like to be dominated don’t date a Dom. I don’t think kinks go away or hide for long and they generally get more extreme as it’s a lot about boundary pushing. 30something on that note I definitely think you have done the right thing!

I am a huge fan of hairy men. Hairier the better.

Mr Unsuitable is coming to mine for the first time this evening. He'll stay. This feels like a big deal as I'm not keen on people staying here as it's a family home. I think I like him because he is so totally unsuitable that it's safe to relax. It's never going to go anywhere long term. It's like a mindful relationship- one to be in in the moment.

I don't want to boast or anything, but my iron has the furry dad bod. I'm rather fond of it. and it makes me feel slimmish in comparison