Dating thread 151: We are the prize...

[30somethingandsingle]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps https://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Copying and pasting the link only works with POF.
Not sure how you can do that with Tinder etc.

Can you attach photos to PM's? Then you can do screenshots

Ant330
I've PMd a link to my POF profile if you wouldn't mind taking a look. Thanks

Off to sniff Mr Scouse 😂. It’s gonna be quick as I have kids to pick up! Will report back x

You can't MyOld

Ant330 and marlboro hope all goes well

Have fun Ant and Marlboro

Ant330 and marlboro hope all goes well

Have fun ant and marl

Ladies on the thread - read this and weep, with laughter!

www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-6826789/20-real-men-reveal-biggest-turn-offs-makes-startling-reading.html

tooold “pulling like a carrot”

Haha 67. Sad to say there is an awful lot there i can relate to!

I imagine a womans turn off list is similar and probably longer!

I can associate with a lot of that... We really are almost different species!

Thanks all for the offers of help. I'll post a bit later with some context then drop the unlucky few a PM . I am on POF, Match, Fitness Singles (maybe consider adding that to the thread list? I can provide a summary of features) and recently Tinder (shudder). Any on POF I can probably reciprocate via the link copying method.

Good luck all on their dates tonight.

Anyone else’s heckles get raised when your ex says I know it’s random but fancy a chat later? Or is that just me ?

I have ended whatever 'this' was with Mr S. I've done it by message and muted him as I don't want him to try and convince me otherwise. He overstepped the mark yet again.

I've gone straight back on the apps (staying away from fab for a while) and picked up with some old irons to distract me.

Still18 - Do you mean an ex b/f or exDH? If it was an ex b/f then no, I'd just be curious. ExDH then hackles, suspicion etc, lol.

More than an ex bf less than dh. If that makes sense

30something - He obviously wasn't going to change the record, so it's for the best. .

So an ex LT relationship? So I'd assume he might want to worm his way back, I'd be annoyed and curious! Are you going to meet him?

30 - absolutely the right decision. He had no interest whatsoever in what you actually wanted.

Just got a message on Tinder from a guy who had a profile picture showing stick men doing bondage (to put it nicely), I can’t femember swiping on him. I’m not into the Dom Sub thing and if I was I would be the Dom. He’s pretty hot though, well educated and likes the same things as me, wondering if it’s worth getting my ass spanked for? Has anyone else dated a Dom? Are they ever relationship material?

I have a few other messages in POF and loads of matches on bumble but I’m not sure I’m up for meeting a complete stranger yet and will probably end up meeting a old iron for a bit of fun instead just to take my mind off Mr SA. I am upset but also feel relieved as I can now look for someone who respects women and wants the same as me. Mr SA deffently showed his true colours yesterday and I’m glad I ended it.

@Lovemusic33 Mr S is mostly Dom (though does switch), tread carefully...

Thank you. It had only been a short time, I don't feel upset but he is like a drug that sucks me in and it's hard to think I won't see him again.
At least it has made me reassess my boundaries and what I want out of OLD/fab etc. I feel ready to actually date and look towards a relationship now, rather than just fwb's.

He said he’s happy for me to be Dom, he’s a high lying exec, not really my type as i am common as muck.

So far I have only really spoken to one normal looking iron and he has the same name as my ex husband (the name I stupidly have tattooed on me), hopefully I can arrange a date with him.