Dating thread 151: We are the prize...

[30somethingandsingle]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps https://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

@wishywashy6 no! It wasn't sarcasm! I love that you pop back and remind us all how it should be... easy! And I love that people do actually meet OLD! I am not usually that gushy so it probably sounded sarcastic cos that's my default mode 😳

@Azzizam he sounds right up my street... ❤️🦍

@Peanuthedz haha it's fine!! I did contemplate crawling back to my place on the smitten bench with my tail between my legs but then thought better of it! 😉
I'm too nosey to stay away!

Sorry to hear about Mr Engineer JeSuis - onwards and upwards!

Agree about the hairy sniffing! Mr24 is quite hairy and he always smells amazing too 😍😬

I got chatting with a couple of new irons

First turned talk to being a sub etc and think he got gist that it just wasn't for me so unmatched

Another unmatched after asking if I'd lived where I currently live now all my life (it's a nice town). I said I hadn't and he deleted - bloody snob 🤦‍♀️

Another was taking far too long between messages to reply so I just gave up and unmatched.

However i have one with potential. Seem very similar, makes me laugh and is hot! We're supposed to be meeting Friday evening 🤞

Man4 and any other men around - what is your view of sniffing? Thanks to Marlb, a lot of us have opened up about the love of sniffing our men. Is it the same for you guys?
I'm not just talking body spray or cologne, I'm talking about a more natural smell, mingled perhaps with their fav scent but not necessarily.
I know it's a very basic instinct, to be attracted to pheromones. Just interested!

Hello ...first post alert... Out of interest as a 48 year old like Mr Drummer, how exactly does a profile review happen ? I mean what are the mechanics of getting it to people ... Just I am so far out of my comfort zone on Tinder and didn't match with anyone in 6 weeks. I have concluded I am as ugly as sin and my blurb is not making up for it , or perhaps doing it wrong by only swiping on those I like - I know, mad eh !? Happy to return the favour.

ps. shitwithsugaron was my mam and gran's go to pudding offering. Always makes me chuckle when you post.

I'm not at the "don't wash the sheets because of the smell" stage , but I like to smell nice for a date, and a nice smell on my date.

If they ever develop a perfume that smells like chocolate, that may change..

hairy, Welcome! I'm sure one of the amazingly helpful women on here would be happy to take a look. You'd have to pm them the details.

@HairyArsedMan I'm shopping the 38- 50something men if you want me to have a nosey at it just copy the 'share' link and send it to me in a pm if you want.

When I've seen the same people on both tinder and bumble, they often come across better in the bumble profile (for me, more opportunities to demonstrate ability to write whole sentences!) and generally tend to show more effort.

Re sniffing, my ex did all the time. And my daughter will bury her nose in my neck when she has a cuddle and get cross if i dont smell of daddy.

For me, i dont really like perfume and as its probably 30 years since i dated a woman happy not to wear it, i cant really tell you about natural smell, so no i dont really go in for a sniff!

I'm a man sniffer too 😂 how someone smells and the way they 'fit' with me ia a big part of attraction. Previous irons have said it's the same with them and women.

I'd like my Tinder profile to be looked at too but no idea how to share it!

Have to say one of the things I didn’t like about a recent flame was his scent. It wasn’t offensive just didn’t like it.

Equally won’t date anyone who has the same cologne as my sex... to many memories associated with it

HairyArsedMan I'm in your age range. PM me and I'll look at your profile. You're welcome to comment on mine in return

Hairy I'll look at your profile

Smell is a big thing. Fella I dated a while back just for a couple of months...he never wore cologne and he smelt of ... nothing? Apart from the usual stuff of incompatibility it put me off.

Love I'm sorry you got the IDWAR speech from him 😕 but onwards!

Coco that's lovely news.

Hairyarsed - go to your OLD profile then copy and paste the link in the address bar, that's how I do it anyway. Then go to My Mumsnet in the top right corner here and send a PM (private msg). HTH.

So I have Mr Copper FWB tonight, and a social Fab meet on Sunday for possible FWB arrangement. I'll call him Mr Young and Very Keen 😂 I've given him Mr Curry's Sunday morning slot, meeting at the same time and place, so if Mr Curry turned up .... 😳

TooOld that didn't work for me with Tinder or OK Cupid

still18 "same cologne as my sex" pmsl!!!

I've been in the background reading the thread most days and I love how ruthless some of the posters are on here. The whole having 'slots' for dates and filling them with random men is just brilliant and shows how ruthless dating has become these days!

My friend at work starting talking to a guy (on my advice) on Bumble, I'll call him Mr Emoji. On Friday, he sent a message saying 'If you can guess my favourite film from these emojis, I'll take you for coffee'. So we were all on in the office, all afternoon trying to guess. Turns out it was ridiculous as it didn't even represent the film. Then on Saturday it transpires this guy was messaging 8 different girls arranging coffees and getting them confused. Which he's in his rights to do, but the getting confused was very offputting! So back to the drawing board, I'm going to live her dating life through this thread so I can still be involved

And then there's me. Still super happy after ten months of faffing and hurtling towards the l word. On the subject of sniffing, she keeps one of my t-shirts under her pillow that I have on around the house to smell when I'm not there which she says is a mix of me and my perfume! And she quite often wears my random clothes and I like the smell of her on them. We like to think of it as one of the many cute things about us!

I meant ex and I only just realised

Happy to take a look at any profiles later tonight, although shitwith I do like humour in profiles, particularly if it's inappropriate, so I may not be the best person to look at yours

MissCabinCrew arriving in half hour