Dating thread 150 - I get knocked down, but I get up again....

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
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miracle I’m not desperate to meet him again although the evening wasn’t dreadful. I’ll leave it a day or 2 and see how I feel.

So I have been messaging a guy on tinder all day. We shall call him MrDrama (mainly because he says he hates drama, which I think is a weird thing to say as who likes drama). Anyway, he's funny and he seems witty. Asked if he wanted to meet tomorrow night (I have a 4 year old so child free nights aren't often). And he now seems all nervous. Said that escalated quickly. Should I have chatted for another week? 🙈.

itsamiracle - Cold feet I reckon, for whatever reason. I'm still in the camp of meeting sooner rather than later.

@ItsAMiracle2015 I think if you feel a click and the diary opening is there, yes go for it. Maybe he just likes talking for ages

So turns out the guy I was chatting to was actually performing at a gig this evening. I did end up messaging him to say hello so chat then continued. I have a feeling will just be chat but still enjoyable.

Mr S just gone. Whew, he made me remember why I wanted to see him again I lack a bit of confidence in general at times and especially about my body but my god, he makes me feel so good about myself.
We also had an after dtd 'chat' about him being ott. He said his other fab meets have always been well planned and very clinical, but with me he feels a connection (and fancies me a lot- this helps ) and says he knows it's wrong and not his place but feels jealous at the thought of me with someone else and would like us to have fun together with absolutely no pressure, just exclusive fwb (we both enjoy the social, 'normal' bits too).
I feel he is being genuine rather than 'love bombing' or trying to play games.

30something - A good match then? Sounds good.

Place marking glad your night went well @30somethingandsingle

@TooOldForThis67 hopefully, I'm still a little cautious, I don't want to risk feelings on either side.
I didn't agree to be exclusive, I didn't say I wouldn't be, but I think perhaps I should cancel date with other iron I have arranged for Thursday.

I'm down to 2 irons. MrRY and a new contender MrGardener. Got shot of 2 others who were too precious with their kinks. I'm open minded but I'm starting to think these guys are damaged and are too focused on the pursuit of said kinks.
MrRY is so sexy but his Southern Irish manner is very laid back and chilled out. As I'm a very direct sort of person, not sure how that would work longer term?

I'm laughing at the cautious as I'm like a PI - I find out loads about my dates. In fact I managed to find out some interesting news about and old iron McDreamy who I was smitten with I won't go into details as identifying but let's just say by a complete fluke I found out the date they separated was not what I'd been led to believe and it happened after our first date!! This was all from a random pic I came across.

I always tell someone where I'm going I used to send pics but stopped maybe I'll start again will also look into the WhatsApp sharing location although I share location with sister anyway on iPhone

Hi all I’m a long time lurker. Did old for 2 years , haven’t been there for 18 months now .
My first ever old I didn’t have a clue . I arranged to meet at a outside cafe next to a beach . Ah lovely he said ,I’ll bring my five dogs . Yay I replied thinking he was having a laugh. I turned up in a lovely dress and kitten heels and he turned up will five bluddy dogs .

Bloody

Well mr engineer rescheduled the cancelled dinner. Bit of a delay as he had surgery on his knee (i knew that was happening) and had to recover. Another great date. We get along really well and I'm, of course, super charming and funny . Lord knows though. Sometimes I feel like I'm instigating contact, but if I text he replies immediately. It's so hard. I actually like that he isn't bombarding me with contact. That's where a lot of people go wrong with me - I hate being smothered. But still sometimes I feel like I'm instigating contact. Not that that's bad, but there seems to be so many silly dating rules these days, so I tend to second guess myself.

Woke up to a message from MrD saying he'd love to see me tonight after I get back from work so I guess being forward was a good thing 🤷. I hate talking for ages before meeting, then you meet and it's an utter disappointment and by which point I'm way more invested than I should be. I'm still thinking he's going to cancel before tonight but we shall see.

I definitely agree it's best to meet quite quickly. I don't want to be messaging for weeks, only to meet them and think 'nope' straight away! I like to talk on the phone too, to weed people out!

I spoke to Mr Sailor - he seemed quite shocked and a bit hurt which made me feel shit 😕 But it's better than fizzling out I think.

Mr Curry and I.have been messaging - he hasn't dtd for 6 years 😳 Has travelled for work and bringing up his daughter so no time, he said. He seems a bit embarrassed he told me but I wasn't horrible or anything. Wondering if he might fade away now ...

Morning All

lightson - that would have been my perfect date, lol.

MrGardener spent all evening persuading me that we could work. Every obstacle I came up with, he had a solution and wasn't fazed at all! Lol.

@Lightson I'd have married him there and then

30somethingandsingle that sounds like a great night and hopefully a positive future.

ItsAMiracle2015 get a definite time and place booked, so he has less chance to back out.

Lightson I'm guessing there wasn't a second date!

TooOldForThis67 what's wrong with Mr Gardener? Why are you trying to persuade him it wouldn't work

shitwithsugaron fingers crossed one of your Bumble matches results in a date

Date tonight with someone from Fab. He looks very experienced. Lots of verifications from other women.
I think I might be a bit too boring and inexperienced for him. But I'm just happy to be seen in public with a very fit looking younger bloke

Meanwhile on Fab, my status update seems to have attracted some attention. But it's all from younger men! I'm 51 and I'm getting messages from men in their 30s. Very little interest from men around my age. I could change my settings but I'm just enjoying the attention.

Love reading about everyone’s dates, I’m kind of missing POF and going in first dates. I’m spending way too much time over thinking, I wish I had just told Mr SA how I felt before he went away for the week, I’m now worried that he will be fucking other people he’s at a event working probably surrounded by single people, if he thinks we are just FWB then there’s nothing stopping him having a bit of fun? I know it’s just me over thinking and my anxiety if through the roof at the moment with other things going on.

myold - you're as young as you feel - lol. Go for it!

MrGardener lives a 30min drive away in a flat. I was looking for someone local as I have a young son and a dog. I could only get to him on a Sat afternoon and if I stayed over, I'd have to bring my dog as I wont leave him overnight. My Mum has my son but she wont have the dog too although she loves him, she's getting too old to cope. So, it would mean him making all the effort. To be fair, he said it's no problem, he'd come this way or I could bring the dog!
Sometimes I feel like it's impossible to date. Take last night, MrRY invited me to lunch and my son too. My son refused to go (ASD).