Dating thread 150 - I get knocked down, but I get up again....

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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too old That's a good test, he'd been annoyed you'd raised it that would be a red flag for me. I hesitated raising the whole issue of my fwb still seeing other people expecting a bad response (my ex never responded well to any perceived criticism) but he took it on the chin like an adult and was prepared to talk about it. Good luck.

Right I have the tattoo I took our names and translated to Irish that was our thing. Romance without being romantic lol and I had the last verse from the song we used for the funeral translated into Gaelic and worked my magic. Well the tattoo artist did... so going to add to that. Genuine thanks for keeping me going.

He died the 23rd December and then my mum delivered his final gift to me on the 24th it was a claddagh braclet. So have chosen a Celtic Knott entwined with my braclet getting the tattoo artist to replicate mine and then have a photo of a Celtic symbol of his back and getting a replica of that.

Mr ninja I am liking that..... or are you just hoping for ninja moves in the bedroom hahaha

Really fucks me off when people read your message and do not reply.

And they are typing but you never get a message....

@peanutheadz I could get the hunky dory buffalo crips tattooed hahahaha

Quick update on my weekend which started badly after being hit in the face with a football, then a tile fell off the roof and landed on the bonnet of my car. I've only had it 2 weeks!

I was just waiting for the 3rd bit of bad luck, but then went out on Sat night with a bunch of people I used to work with in another city and ended up spending the night with a girl who I worked with for 2 years who is 20 years younger than me Apparently she always liked me but I was married so she never said anything.

I did question beforehand if it was a good idea as I'm old enough to be her dad, but decided what the hell, these opportunities don't present themselves often (probably never again). Glad I didn't talk myself out of it

I sound like a psycho now!

@tooold no you don't you sound bloody lovely c

@ant330 wow what a weekend lol fair play

@TooOldForThis67 why did you break up with mr wow last time? Were you with him for a long time.

I'm a clothes sniffer too. 😳

man4 it’s probably just nerves, and blabbering is probably better than lots of awkward silences. Unless you can’t get a word in edgeways and she doesn’t ask you things.

tooold that’s good that you and me wow are communicating. And that he doesn’t seem that annoyed. Hopefully thinks that there’s something still there too and wants to work it out

“Ant” are you going to see the girl from work again?

TooOld the main reason he can’t stay over is my dd’s, they are 13 and 15 both ASD, I don’t want him staying over unless I know it’s a long time thing, I have had people stay before but usually people who have their own kids and are aware of ASD, Mr SA doesn’t have any children so I’m worried about how he will react to my dc’s especially dd2 who is more autistic than dd1. If Mr SA can show me that he wants more than just a shag then I would probably allow him stay over.

Yeah TooOld remind us of the backstory with Mr Wow?

Nice going Ant! Are you planning on seeing work girl again?

Back story of MrWow and I

We split up last Nov after dating 9mths. We knew each other in our 20's and he's 5 yrs younger. We'd been tho so much together. My ex and I were co-habiting at the time. Ex finally left for Lithuania and that made me take stock of everything. We (MrWow) had a long talk and it came down to me not feeling like I was in love with him and didn't want to continue. I felt that we both had barriers up. He'd only split from his ex a year and there was lots of fall out still going on. We were going to stay friends but I couldn't do it.
Every time sex is mentioned on these threads, I'd think of MrWow, he was always in the back of my mind and I finally plucked up courage to contact him. I told him I missed the great sex! Not the best opener I know and if he had done that to me I would have been furious!! Lol.

So, for us to get back together - I need to be more chilled, which I am. He needs to be more chilled, which he seems to be - hardly mentioned money or his ex last night, lol. I hated that before but felt it was double standards as he met my ex several times (and got on!).

Sorry for rambling. Writing it down helps put it in perspective. We are having the chat tonight!

Love - yeah I remember you saying that before now. Maybe you could bring that up in your convo with him? Be totally honest and lay the cards on the table and ask if that's putting him off anything more with you, the not staying or the kids. You obviously really like him but you need to move the 'relationship' on or move on.

TooOld lol at the sniffing - but it's good you love his smell.

I've been chatting again with someone I met on Fab last year but never met. He's got half an hour between meetings in the area I work in central London and wants to meet. I said yes last night but he's now mentioned an incredibly fancy and expensive private member's club close to my office (I work in an exclusive part of London). I feel very uncomfortable about going there. I don't normally leave the office until I go home, and will barely have 20 minutes. And it's expensive - if he pays (he'll have to, I work for a charity!) I'll feel a bit beholden. Not sure what to suggest to him ...

Still18 she lives overseas now for work, lets call her MissCabinCrew ;) so is only back here on holiday. She's heading back later this week so we're trying to arrange to meet on Weds as my son is with me on Tues, Thurs & Fri this week. Depends on her family commitments though.
But if not, well it will be whenever she is back in UK and we're both single.
To be honest it would never work as a relationship if she lived here, (putting the age difference to one side) I would describe her as high maintenance - but she's hot

Glad you had fun Ant

Batshit - Only 30mins - not going to rack up a huge bar bill or have I got that wrong? I'd msg him and say 'Gosh, ......... (swanky name place), hope you're paying, lol'
Hopefully he'll pay as he asked you and no way would I feel beholden under the circumstances. Go for it!

batshit see it as an opportunistic to go to somewhere that you wouldn’t normally go.

ant ahhh ok that’s a shame. Hopefully your diaries will match up whilst she’s in the UK. High maintenance and relationship rarely go together well, but you never know

*opportunity

Bat - somewhere like 5 Hertford street?

Either way if he’s a member, he pays and he is probably expecting to!
Love- having children with ASD will certainly seperate the wheat from the chaff which is probably no bad thing.

Just read the thread...I so want a sex pirate!! 😂

Batshit I second what TooOld said!

TooOld ah that is exciting!! Good luck with the talk, looking forward to hearing how it goes!

And you @Lovemusic33 - be brave and get into it with Mr SA. If it's not the answer you want at least you know and you can move on to someone who is going to give you what you want.

Feeling a bit paranoid and unloved today.
I rarely get much interest on the traditional apps - POF, Tinder etc. Don't know why.

I've had loads of interest on Fab but as soon as I send a face pic then I get tumbleweed. I've had 5 in the last couple of days who were super keen to meet me until they saw what I looked like.

At 51 I know I'm not stunning or anything close. My photos are good because a friend who's a photographer took them. But this constant rejection is not good for my self esteem.

Oooh MrEngineer was absolutely lovely. He had his work clothes on (tight t shirt which showed off his lovely pecs and arms, cargo pants, work boots and tape measure clipped on his belt - swoon... 😂) Plan is to meet for an evening date on Thursday, but as we all know - don't believe it until it happens... had a couple of very nice messages off him and he only left half an hour ago. We also had a little kiss 😳

Yes like that Howling. I rarely do lunchtime meets as I need to make sure there's cover and it's too hard to definitely say if I can or can't. It would have been 20 minutes to give me time to get there and get back so not worth it at all.

Just realised we are a person down tomorrow so I can't go out anyway!