Dating thread 150 - I get knocked down, but I get up again....

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Thanks 30 hope you have a good evening
life 😂😂 at dogging

I am struggling with tinder ladies. I thought it would be easier/better than pof. However it's hard work!! How do they compare to Bumble?

its what about tinder are you struggling with/don’t like?i personally wasn’t keen on pof and much preferred tinder and bumble

This thread moves so fast! Placemarking and trying to catch up

Miracle I find bumble much better. It's my main one. I'm talking to about 4 on there and 2 other potential dates.

You just have no idea by just a picture what they're like? I like a list. Kids, height, looking for etc etc. Rather than swiping past guys based solely on looks who may be amazing and then chatting to guys and finding out they're in an open relationships, or looking for just FB's. It's just effort.

Downloading Bumble now....

It'samiracle this is like 7 or 8 I can't recall. We started as a ons ages ago and then got back in touch. Yeah I can't work out if this is overthinky or legit intuition either

daffo yeah. See in previous good ltr's even though they ended I was free of this kind of feeling. So it always stands out. I guess what I'd say is while he says good things like he really likes me etc. I don't get a feeling of much emotional connection except in the bedroom where...it feels really strong. Outside of there it's mostly surface banter and talking through thoughts and ideas. Which is great but I just don't feel much connection? Weird ?

Life - can’t he be mr dogging?!

Hello peeps, can someone knock some sense into me? I messaged someone on Friday night on Tinder and we ended up texting late then banter most of the day Saturday. He said we should chat Sunday on the phone so swapped numbers. Sunday came, nothing. I messaged in the evening and asked whether we were chatting. Got message about 12 saying sorry, he had been out then a party etc. So I replied today and said that was fine, joke, then have a good day. He replied same. But nothing heard today. This means he isn't into me right? Serves me right for messaging in the first place!!!

Miracle you do get more information if they put it in on bumble. Plus you have to message first and they have 24 hours to reply.

Ccgirr YES he can be Mr NotDogging

Oooo 24 hours to reply? I like it! I can't deal with the small talk and then getting down to the deal breakers. It's exhausting.

So Mr Artist texted today to say it was great to meet me and apologising for going off but said he was a bit pissed. He did say he’s not drank for 6 weeks before the date. I just ignore him yes?

Miracle yes. Once you match you have 24 hours to send an opener and they have 24 hours to reply. Once they reply it's open, but you can just remove if they bore you

I didn't like messaging first, but I like it now and if they don't reply 👋🏻

Notcool do not reply. He just left you, how did he know if you were drunk? Does he even know if you got home ok. Nope

@ButterflyBlue13 - Welcome.

Eesha - Soz, but it does sound like he's changed his mind.

Just had a convo with MrTights. It was a bit strained (no pun intended). He sounds so cautious and he's obviously been hurt in the past but did open up a bit about it. He fired lots of questions to me about ex's. It's kinda like irrelevant isn't it? I've not been massively hurt since MrMM. I've dealt with it. So, I sent a msg saying I don't think he's ready to date and I'm certainly not going to chase him.

notcool - I remember you telling us but not sure when it happened. But, he's left it til now to apologise! He could be telling the truth but he should have explained the next day. Your call!

lifegoes shitwith he knew I’d driven and I’d only had 2 cokes. And he did come after me to sort of apologise. But then left me again.

I might just say it was an odd way to end a date and I hope he behaves better on any future dates and wish him luck. I’m amazed to hear from him at all tbh!!

Notcool

It's just common courtesy for me, I personally wouldn't waste my energy on him. But one text stating that can't do any harm.

@TooOldForThis67 I was thinking that too, though he did give the impression he didn't have that much confidence. I really don't want to chase and feel like a Muppet.

Thanks to those who suggested I updated my status on Fab.
I now have a zillion messages. 99% with no face pic, of course.

I'll have to read through the thread later. You are all so busy!

its ok I get your frustrations with tinder - althoughbwirh whichever old app I was on I never wrote anything about me - just pics and my age.Didn’t want to disclose anything to strangers lol! I would just swipe right if I liked the look of someone or, if they had put info on their profile and I liked it.

MyOld told you it would help with messages 😉

@Notcoolmum I wouldn't reply. What's the point? Unless you're willing to give him another chance that is?