Dating thread 150 - I get knocked down, but I get up again....

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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I tend to get sex out of the way date 2 of 3 if I feel like there's chemistry. But that's mainly because sex is really important to me in a relationship so I'd want to know what I'm working with (that's not meant to sound as brutal as it does 🙈😂). But I see no issue in wanting to wait. Definitely a personal preference.

My main iron doesn't have any social media (other than LinkedIn) and I didn't know his full name until date 2 when it was written on the table reservation he'd booked. I can now think of all the times I've been on dates with no idea of their surname!!

At the beginning I used to always tell a friend where I was going, but as I've done more dating it's become more common place so I've not bothered. I am going to rethink this, assuming I have any more first dates!! Obviously my kids always know I'm out, and would phone the police if I didn't come home but they'd not know anything other than I was on a date.

I have tended to be a date 3 girl, but have done date 2 (nothing sooner from OLD). I do think once you have DTD it can quickly become the focus of a relationship - which can be great - but can also leave you not being sure if there is more to it than that? But I doubt I'm restrained enough to leave it longer than date 3!!

This is making me think..I rarely know the person's surname before meeting and I think I would be a bit freaked out if they asked me mine!

I've got a few weeks off work so I dipped my toe back in after my last one when I got stood up and send fake photos of road traffic. Decided to delete tinder as just odd people on there at the mo. Giving POF a go, man you have to wade through some dross but I have found 3 decent ones it seems. Meeting the one I'm most keen on this week for a drink.. lots of good chat, attractive and respectful. So let's see.

DTD whenever it feels right to be honest. For me this seems to be about date 3 or 4 as a rule of thumb.

Thanks for the replies! Definitely each to their own, I've tended to jump into DTD pretty quickly and in the case of most recent ex, wonder if that was what it was all about for him whereas I fell in love. I just thought maybe holding off a bit might help develop something deeper...but sex is so important. Will wait and see, after looking on Bumble I don't think I'm ready to even think about it just yet.

I feel under pressure timewise, want a family and just turned 33.

Good luck with your dates! I always tell someone where I'm going for the first few dates, although haven't usually had a surname

I always know full name before meeting. Always. I also send all information (including screen shot of social media page if able) before meeting someone from online. I never meet at my house (nor do I give even my street name). I also always meet in a public place that I'm able to get home from easily. I've heard too many horror stories.

Meant send all information to my sister.

Place marking. I've ventured back onto POF, so depressing when I've found a man who's good company and good in bed, but only wants fwb. I could cry actually but I refuse to.

I've never asked the surname! And I do 1st dates at home sometimes! Eek. But I always tell someone I've got a date and as much info about them as I know.
MrTights - Told him no more sexting until we meet. He's acting a bit odd, saying stuff like he's been hurt and ridiculed before cos of the tights thing and I'm like, do you think I'd be sexting all day if it was a problem. We'll see
MrRY - Invited me out for dinner tonight. I've got my son at home, so he said he can come to. Son doesn't want to. Told MrRY that he can come to mine for fishfingers n chips. No reply! Lol.

Mr S will be here shortly. I don't know whether it's because he's coming to mine for the first time, but I feel nervous... and I've run out of wine! he's bringing some thankfully.
Hopefully he won't be too full on, otherwise I think I will have to put a stop to things with him after tonight.

@30somethingandsingle good luck! 🍷🍷🍷

Good luck 30 remind me of your history with this iron?

Lifegoes am chuckling at the dogging 🤣🤣🤣

@CocoKoko123 he is fwb from fab, met 3 times so far, he wants to be exclusive, think he's possibly love bombing, quite full on but great sex!
He's late, he better be fun and easy going tonight!

Meh I'm glad we both found it funny. Over his head 😂

I always find out the surname. So Mr old iron cancelled tonight due to tummy ache so not having the convo about dating/exclusivity. He asked to meet tomorrow instead and come round earlier to 'hang out'. I've said we can meet same time as I'm busy earlier. If I'm being honest....while he says all the right things....something about this feels off....does everyone else listen to their gut? I cant put my finger on it besides this still being on tinder thing...i felt it before that

lifegoes he doesn't sound fun at all ....

Mr Cat is a vegan. Not sure how this would work - I don't eat much meat but I can see it might cause difficulties ...

@supercali77 how many dates are you on? I like half listen to my gut but my ex fucked it up a bit so sometimes I have a tendency to overthink things and then say it's my gut but actually it's my brain.

Batshit I only started speaking him yesterday, he's looks hot and we got on well. I quite like how quickly he moved with arranging a date. So I'm going to give him the chance. Even if there's no dogging 😂

I may as well join in! Hi all 😊

I started seeing someone a couple months ago (met on bumble) - was purely supposed to be just sex. I ended up jumping in his bed on the first date ! I blame the Gin! He looked so good though. He's a gym guy so had a great ass. Haha anyway it was amazing. I have never ever had a one night stand or anything like that, but it was so good.

We have not had the "what are we" chat yet as I'm quite happy keeping this private. I have met his mum though, who seems really nice.

supercali you are almost always right when your head is saying stuff like that I find. I don't know what you are concerned about - do you think you can put it in words? I do know what you mean about those feelings

@lifegoes I just read your comment about dogging 😂😂. I'm so disappointed he didn't get it. Although maybe he did but weren't sure you meant it like that? 😂😂.

batshit I've been vegan (for health reasons) and it was fine. But it does depend how militant he is about it (does he wear leather for example) - because it can be a massive lifestyle thing too.

It is the lifestyle thing - I don't know how militant he is. He's just sent me a 'funny' video I don't think is funny so he's dropping down the rankings !