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My husband has just hit me

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namechange101145 · 10/03/2019 19:09

We had a big argument this afternoon, about a non issue, that escalated.
I went into our bedroom for some space, he followed me, I kept asking him to please just go away, he refused and kept shouting. He grabbed my wrists and pinned me down and told me never to tell him to go away in his own home again.
I left to sort my horses out, returned an hour later.
Went into the kitchen and began making dinner, assuming he'd come in and apologise.
He came in screaming at me, calling me every name under the sun. He pretended he hadn't grabbed me and I was being a drama queen. I asked if he'd be ok if BIL did that to SIL (his sister)... "only if she deserved it, like you did."
I told him I was going, ran out to the kitchen to grab my coat and he grabbed me and shoved me. I fell against the fridge and hit my head, he was screaming and swearing at me and calling me a slag.
I ran and jumped into my car.
Currently said in my car by the beach.
I don't know what to do.
He's hit me before, twice, and received counselling for this.
My parents are currently on holiday. I'm 200 miles from my close friends/family.
I can't leave this area due to my horses.
I need to go home and get my stuff. I don't even have my purse.
I'm sat here crying and crying. I just don't know what to do or where to go.

OP posts:
timeisnotaline · 11/03/2019 20:27

Hmm yes sorry I assume married does make a difference. Let me take that back and just stick to it’s very early days and the op has other things to think about right now.

tiredandold · 11/03/2019 20:28

Thinking of you, OP.

dragonsfire · 11/03/2019 20:44

Oh OP I am so so sorry your going through this!

I am SW honestly if need anything please message - I have worked for a good charity to help with foster homes for dogs etc and I know my way around horses if need help!

I know it’s hard but try not to panic, I just went through an early miscarriage, don’t let this arsehole affect your miracle!

You have support, you are amazing and you can get through this Flowers

ScoobyCan · 11/03/2019 20:48

Thinking of you @namechange101145 - really hope you're ok and you've found somewhere to stay. Thanks

PrayingandHoping · 11/03/2019 20:54

Hope you're ok OP. You are being incredibly strong x

dreichuplands · 11/03/2019 21:02

As a social worker they are not going to take away your baby because you are taking medication for depression, they are only going to applaud you for contacting the police to report the assault. Social services can rubbish at quite bit but they are pretty good at both domestic abuse and maternal mental health. Seeking the right support will not count against you.

VioletCharlotte · 11/03/2019 21:08

Bless you x Social services won't take your baby away because you've been prescribed medication for depression. Taking anti-depressants is nothing to be ashamed of, it's no different to taking medication for a physical problem. Thinking of you this evening. You've come so far already. You will get through this x

hellenbackagen · 11/03/2019 21:12

Op just got in but if you pm me I'll help where I can x

mummymayhem18 · 11/03/2019 21:24

I hope you're ok ❤️

GrumpyOldMare · 11/03/2019 21:27

Thinking of you.
You will come through this horrible time.
I just wish I was on here when I was going through my hell of domestic violence.

Otterseatpuffinsdontthey · 11/03/2019 21:50
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januaryfirst · 11/03/2019 21:51

All the best op!

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 11/03/2019 22:15
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Threeminis · 11/03/2019 22:30

How you holding up op? Hope you're ok

Treaclesweet · 12/03/2019 00:26

Hope you're ok op Flowers

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 12/03/2019 00:51

OP I hope you are either safe alone at home or safely cozied up in a hotel getting some rest. Flowers

k1233 · 12/03/2019 06:35

Hope everything went ok when he came home

Georgepigthedragon · 12/03/2019 06:44

Hope your OK op Flowers

Areyouongluedear · 12/03/2019 07:02

Hey op I’ve just caught up, congratulations on your pregnancy that’s fantastically positive news for you.
As for all the rest as bad as it seems right now, it is momentary and will pass! FlowersCakeBrew

justilou1 · 12/03/2019 08:20

Hi OP, I imagine you feel like you’re in a million bits, but you have been so very brave! You have taken the first step to save yourself, and before you even knew it existed, the little jellybean! We are all so proud of you!!!

prozacgirl · 12/03/2019 09:01

Hope you're ok OP. X

Georgiemcgeorgeface · 12/03/2019 09:37

Thinking of you today and hoping you're safe x

BarryTheKestrel · 12/03/2019 09:56

I hope last night went ok OP and that you are doing ok today. I'm also in SW if you need any further support IRL. Take care of yourself OP, you need to put you and your potential new baby first and foremost here. Flowers

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 12/03/2019 10:47

@namechange101145 How are you this morning?

I hope last night was OK and that you are somewhere safe.

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Iooselipssinkships · 12/03/2019 10:50

Let us know you're alright OP.

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